TTC Baby # 1.. What am I doing wrong??

[Waiting4PFT]

Hi guys. I am new to this forum, but I decided it might help with my TTC anxiety. I feel pretty insensitive making this post because I know there are a lot of people out there who have been trying for way longer than I have. I got off depo in the spring 2016 (April or May). AF started up again around August 2016. My hubby and I were married in September 2016, and have been unprotected ever since. My doctor says to count from January 2017 since that is when AF started to show like clockwork. Basically I was regular again in January. 5 months later I am now starting to doubt and worry that there might be something wrong with my husband or I. I know I might sound crazy because in reality, 5 months isn't that bad. I know Depo can make TTC difficult for some. I took a test on Saturday, Sunday, and Monday and I could have sworn there was a really faint line on all three. Today AF was due and I took two tests and they both were clearly negative. I still haven't seen AF today, so I am hoping there is still some hope since I have never been late other than when I was just getting off depo. Any stories or words of encouragement would be appreciated. Being a mom is my biggest dream in the world, and I worry every day that it might not happen for me!

 

[Waiting4PFT]

And yes I know my user makes no sense. Total typo on my part! ��

 

[HopeBT]

Hi Waiting
Im sorry to hear you are struggling, 2WW is specially tough, but try not to despair and keep hope. I agree that there are people who have been trying much longer but this doesn`t mean your journey is less frustrating.
I have bunch of questions, hope you dont mind.
Do you know for sure that you`re ovulating? If so, do you time your O day? Temping? OPK? Tracking EWCM?
Have you seen any specialist yet regarding infertility? I guess you might have to wait around 1 year since you started TTC to see a specialist, but if you dont get pregnant in the next few months, I would say seeing someone soon would be a good choice.
I have been TTC#1 for 2 yrs, and it has been a grueling long journey. However, one thing I am really glad that I did was to see someone early enough and try out different options before waiting too long. Here is what I have been doing:
- HSG test (2 of them), 1 tube blocked
- OPK
- BBT
- DH`s SA (no issue)
- Castor oil pack and bunch of other natural remedies including yoga
- IUI 4 times

And now I am onto my 1st cycle of IVF since none of the above worked yet!

 

[MeganMc]

Hello all! This is my first time here. I just recently got off of the pill had my discharge bleed right away, lasted 7 days like a normal period. My periods were regular before the pill and lasted about 28 days. On cd11-cd13 I had ewcm but was away from my husband because he was out of town. We bd on cd14. Later that day I felt a twinge on my right side only lasted for about 1 minute. Also I had very light, small spotting cd15. This is our first try...do you think we could have timed it right on this one?? Anybody else get pregnant first try off of the pill??

 

[MindUtopia]

OP, what are you doing in terms of timing sex, or are you just having sex randomly and hoping for the best? I would come up with a plan for how you are going to time when you're having sex to catch your ovulation. For us, that's usually been having sex either two days and then one day before ovulation (CD12 and CD13 and then ovulation on CD14) or day before and day of ovulation (CD13 and 14 with ovulation on CD14). With my first I charted my temps and checked for cervical mucus which made it really easy to know when I was fertile. I got pregnant 2nd month off the pill. With baby #2, I just charted cervical mucus and did opks (ovulation predictor tests) as I couldn't be bothered with temping as I'm just much busier now that I was 4 years ago. That also worked well. I was pregnant the second month again (though I had a miscarriage with that pregnancy), but I got pregnant straight away the first month after the miscarriage with this baby. For us, it was really key just to know when I was fertile and to make sure we did everything to make the most of that.