TTC baby #1 with my overweight hubby.

[HoldingFaith]

--Hello everyone, I'm new here and am hoping to find some relief to my anxiety!! Well here it goes, my hubby and I are both overweight, him way more so than myself. He is probably tipping the scales around 400-450 pounds. I have always had regular cycles around 29-32 days. I have been off b/c since august 2014. There have been a few months where we "tried" but nothing happened. This month I made DH start Fertility Blend vitamins just in case his sperm count/motility is low, which I have my suspicions it is due to his weight. I guess what i'm looking for are some success stories of couples that were able to conceive even though they were over weight/obese, especially the male/husband!
Thanks, and baby dust to all!!!!

 

[TexMel]

Hey holding faith! I am not a success story (yet), but I'm in a very (eerily) similar boat! I'm on the overweight side, but not full on obese. My dh is 6'5" and probably about 400lbs. He doesn't really go to doctors.
I stopped bc in July and we officially started trying in December. My cycles since stopping bc are normally 31 days, but the cycle beginning in December somehow went 51 days. Currently cd 17, with my first ever + opk today!
Best of luck! I completely understand your anxiety! Trying to figure out how to motivate him to go get checked out if nothing happens in the next couple of months!

 

[TexMel]

On the positive side, I know a family where the husband is way bigger than mine and they have 4 kids, the last of which was a complete oopsie! So, I at least know it doesn't always mean lack of fertility!

 

[HoldingFaith]

Hey holding faith! I am not a success story (yet), but I'm in a very (eerily) similar boat! I'm on the overweight side, but not full on obese. My dh is 6'5" and probably about 400lbs. He doesn't really go to doctors.
I stopped bc in July and we officially started trying in December. My cycles since stopping bc are normally 31 days, but the cycle beginning in December somehow went 51 days. Currently cd 17, with my first ever + opk today!
Best of luck! I completely understand your anxiety! Trying to figure out how to motivate him to go get checked out if nothing happens in the next couple of months!

Thank you for responding!!! I feel like i was the only woman in the world with this fear!!!! It seems everywhere I look on the internet it basically says guys that are obese have very poor sperm count! I'm not denying that that's true, but there has got to be couples out there that are in the same boat as us that have had success!!!! I believe I "O"ed on the 24th and now the 2WW begins! I hope to stay in touch on this journey of TTC!!
**Baby dust to you**

Thank God I'm finally hearing about a success story!!!! lol My hubby is probably 6'1-6'2 and pushing 450. I'm trying so hard to stay hopeful and not stress! So thank you for sharing, it really does make me feel much better! I also have hubby on Fertility Blend for men in case there are some issues.

 

[TexMel]

You and I are definitely not alone! There are obese people everywhere and our wait may be a little longer, but it is definitely possible! We can definitely keep in touch!

Does it seem to decrease your dh's libido? (Sorry if too personal)

 

[HoldingFaith]

I feel much better, I guess I need to lay off google for a while! lol I have def noticed an increased libido. Other months we have TTC we would BD a couple nights in a row and then after that I would have to fight him to BD!! But this time around since he's been taking the fertility blend I don't have to fight him at all!

 

[HoldingFaith]

Would you consider this a positive OPK? It's the darkest one
I got!!

 

[TexMel]

It looks close, but not quite positive. I would test again first thing tomorrow morning. It may be tomorrow or the next day.
Here is what mine look like, including the one from today that I think is positive:

 

[HoldingFaith]

I would def say that's positive!!!! I was not good with testing this cycle. That test was from Wednesday the 25th, and I didn't test Tuesday the 24th. I did test yesterday and there was barley a line, so I'm thinking that maybe I "O'ed the 24th which is when my FF app said I would ovulate. Im hoping so because DH and I DTD the 23rd, 24th, and 25th!

 

[TexMel]

Are you temping too?

I did OPKs last cycle, but after getting negatives CDs 10-20, I gave up. As I mentioned earlier, it was a strange cycle and ended up lasting 51 days, so I really don't know when/if I O'd last time around. I am just so happy to see a + for the first time ever! And, my cycle must be back to normal this time around, too. So many prayers answered. Now, I just have to convince my husband to quit working and DTD! He had to come home from work early due to a snow storm in Texas (everything shuts down immediately), but that just means he has to bring his laptop home and continue to work for hours and hours! Good thing it is my 3 day weekend and we'll be snowed in!

I also started temping last week so I'll be watching for my shift.

 

[HoldingFaith]

I've never done temping it seems so complicated! lol but if I continue to get negative OPK's I will def start! I'm so excited for your +OPK! Hope you can get your hubby to find time to DTD, seems like perfect timing!!! Good luck! I will keep in touch when I test in a week or so!

 

[TexMel]

Any updates? I have continued to have very + OPKs Saturday and Sunday. My temp was higher today, but not sure if it is officially the temp shift yet. We DTD on Saturday midmorning. Hoping to make it happen again today, but we're off to a very lazy start today, so I'm not sure it'll happen.
Hope you had a great weekend!

Update: I still had very pronounced ewcm this evening and I could tell things were not going to happen if I didn't just come out and say anything, so I laid it all out there. I basically said "no pressure, really, but tonight is most likely the end of our window this month, so if you really want to make a baby, tonight is the night." I then kept cleaning the dining room and keeping myself occupied, while he apparently went into the bedroom and lit candles and prepped. I'll spare you any more details, but I now feel confident we did everything this cycle that we could. Very excited about this tww!!

 

[HoldingFaith]

Hey sorry for the delay, I was working all weekend and then spent the whole day cleaning today, i'm sure you know how that goes! lol I'm glad you and your hubby had a nice night of romance during your fertile week, how sweet of him! Since my OPK's were not really consistent or positive this month I can't pin point exactly which day I ovulated but I have my suspicions it was on the 24th (per my FF app). DH and I DTD lots before and during that week though so we must have hit some part of ovulation! Although, Saturday night after I got home from work I noticed some EWCM, it wasn't transparent though (sorry if TMI) it was more milky colored but had the same consistency as egg whites. DH and I were way to tired to BD, and I really don't think I would have "O"ed that late in my cycle. Sunday I started to feel some strange what could be very early pregnancy/implantation symptoms. I had a strange pinching sensations in my lower left abdomen. They would last 2-3 seconds then go away. They seemed to be more consistent at night when I was laying down, also I felt like my bladder was full but it wasn't because I used the bathroom before I went to bed. I've been pretty gassy these past couple days and I know that's an early sign as well. The 2ww is tough because your mind plays tricks on you and it becomes so easy to over-analyze every little thing! Fingers crossed that I wasn't experiencing mind games!! Hope you had a great weekend as well! Keep me updated!

 

[TexMel]

I totally know how that goes! I work every other weekend, I just luckily had this past weekend off. So, lots of time to DTD.
No worries on the tmi, I think that's what this forum is for, so that we don't discuss this stuff with people who know us in real life, but are still able to bounce the ideas off of someone.
As far as it being "creamy," in one of the other threads I read, 2 women are 4-5 dpo and they both mentioned a creamy/lotiony cm today, so I am sure that is normal. Mine was classic egg white Saturday and Sunday, and maybe a little more creamy today.
I am not trying to confuse you more, but I have read that the pinch is also a very common sign of ovulation happening right then. I think I felt it Sunday morning.
So far, the only differences I can tell are a bloated feeling and I had to pee more often today than usual. I know, I am completely awful about overanalyzing all of my symptoms. It was real bad last cycle, my period was 21 days late and I literally had started "experiencing" every classic pregnancy symptom, even though I was still getting BFNs (including a blood test).
Just trying to be patient this time around, as I feel my chances are exponentially improved compared to last time. I am super pumped about the next 2 weeks. Hard to believe that at this moment cells in my body could be multiplying and forming into a tiny ball of cells to create an embryo.... A girl can dream.
Good night, so glad I have another buddy on here to share stories with!

 

[HoldingFaith]

I have also been reading about women mistaking implantation pains for ovulation pains. I have my suspicions seeing how I had that weird looking EWCM Saturday. I never remember feeling these pinching pains before though, but then again I'm probably over analyzing them because I want them to be implantation pains so badly! I have been feeling them a little bit today though, but I guess all I can do is wait another week to test and find out! I'm hoping that I get some more obvious symptoms so I know its not all in my head! I think this is the only time a woman wants morning sickness! lol How great would it be if we both got our BFP's this month! Eeeek! The thought of human life growing inside of me is absolutely fascinating and there is nothing I want more!! I've been trying to keep busy during this dreaded 2WW so I don't obsess over every single "symptom" and wonder if i'm pregnant. Also trying not to get my hopes up to high because a BFN is highly likely. I'm hoping we both get our sticky beans this month though! It is so nice to have a buddy through this TTC journey! My hubby only understands what I'm going through to a certain extent! lol

 

[TexMel]

Ok, so I don't know if it is all in my head, but I've had definite cramping (mild) nonstop since I woke up this morning. Like more just a feeling of pressure in my uterus. I googled it (of course) and found a website that breaks down cramping by dpo. It says about 9% or women have cramping at 3dpo and about 2/3 of those women that have it are pregnant. So, I will continue to be optimistic about that. I think it is a good sign and totally different than I've experienced before!

Also, found a website about the Wondfo preg tests trips I have and something like 89% of women get faint positives on 11dpo, so that's next Wednesday. I may do that!

 

[HoldingFaith]

Oh my gosh that's so exciting!!!!! I hope its a sticky bean!!!!! If I did O on the 24th then today I would be 7DPO! So far my symptoms have consisted of dull pinching/pulling in lower abdomen, and loose bowels. I think I'm going to test this Sunday! If no sticky bean this month then I think I'm going to try temping for my next cycle to pin point ovulation. Even if my test comes back negative I will post a pic so we can analyze it together, feel free to do the same!!! Fingers crossed for the both of us! Come on BFP!!!!

 

[TexMel]

i did start temping for the first time this cycle around cd 5 or 6. It's not quite as complicated as I thought it'd be, but I will warn you now - you'll start waking up in the middle of the night and reach for the thermometer on the nightstand out of habit only to realize it is only like 3am and not 6am (my normal test time). Since you're not really supposed to do anything before you take it, I've just made it habit to reach over and grab it before I even grab my phone and look at the time.
I do feel like it gave me peace of mind this time around to know I had ovulated with absolutely no doubts.
I cannot wait for Sunday, though, for you! Please post! I work this whole weekend, but I'll be checking in still!

 

[HoldingFaith]

I've read some good and bad experiences with temping, but I figure I would give it a go. I work 2pm-10pm and every other weekend, (the joys of health care) so my sleep schedule is not "normal." Usually I'll fall asleep around 2am and wake up around 10-11am so I'm hoping the BBT method will work for me.

I've made a list of symptoms I've had up to today and they consist of:

-Cramping (twinges, pulling, and pinches)
-Feeling like my bladder is full, but I don't have to pee. (specially when laying down.) Im a stomach sleeper.
-White/cloudy CM.
-Clear complexion (looks like my skin is clearing up.)
-Increase appearance of blue veins running through my boobs, including my nipples.
-Weird looking yellow/brown clump on the tip of my finger after checking my CM and CP. It was strange because it didn't really resemble blood from possible implantation. Hmmmm

It's getting so hard not to test, but I can't put myself through the stress and anxiety of getting a bunch of BFN's! I'm soooo ready for Sunday! Bring it on !!!!!!

Any new symptoms going on with you?!

 

[TexMel]

I'm 5dpo and had a dip below cover line in my temp this morning. I have had constant cramping since o, which is not normal for me. Yesterday, I had a moment of slightly sharper pain like someone was trying to stab the left side of my uterus with a pen or something. But, it's been back to dull cramps ever since. Watery to slightly creamy cm, but more of it than usual. No symptoms other than that. Trying not to get my hopes up too much.

Sounds like we both may have a good shot at our bfps!

I'm in healthcare and my schedule is strange, too. I do 2 12hr shifts and 2 9hr shifts each week, and the days rotate on a 2 weeks schedule. But, it's 9am-6pm or 9am-9pm. That includes every other weekend for me, too. Gotta love it! Do you ever worry about childcare options once we do get our BFPs? My husband and I both work such long hours on the days we work, a conventional daycare would be closed by the time we could pick him/her up. I'm hoping my parents (who live a mile away) would be willing to help, but I am not sure I want to put that on them, since my mom is finally retiring this spring and is so excited about it.