TTC BB#4 after MC w/ BB#3 @ 5w

[hollarwife]

Hi all! Looking for support and guidance. MC w/ BB#3 Aug'15. Everyone keeps saying "Get over it. You'll be fine. You already have 2 kids. Why would you try again?" I am emotionally up and down. DH hasn't ever shown feelings so not much support from him. My family just doesn't understand. Parents say, "Just be thankful you already have 2." Seems nobody gets that when the term MC is used, it means MY CHILD DIED. It hurts and I'm terrified about TTC but then hopeful all at the same time. Everyone in my family has 2-3 children. They feel more than that is too many. They don't understand why I want to TTC again, especially "under the circumstances." How do I get them to understand or am I stuck grieving alone and holding it all in like I've done for the past 7 months?? Help!

 

[cupcake23]

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss, I also mc my 3rd pregnancy, a very much wanted child to add to my 2 beautiful children. I have been very lucky that my family and friends have been very supportive and have encouraged me to try for another even though I have days were I doubt my body's ability to carry another child.

It's so sad when people dismiss your feelings but I hope you can find help and support here, following my mc it was so lovely to have others help me when I felt I couldn't vent in real life. If you feel up to ttc again then I would stay away from negative comments, you know you are blessed with 2 children but that doesn't stop your desire for another and all you want is support, I hope those closest to you will realise this.

xxx

 

[RichieesMom]

hi hollarwife. i just joined this sight about a week ago. but these women have already been 100% awesome. great listeners and communicators. you've come to the right place hun!