ugh Rant time

[Tanara]

One of my close friend who supported me threw my entire pregnancy with my son and has always been there to listen has started a freaking war on Facebook saying how teens should use birth control.

I feel like her support has been overruled now because she is completely stereo-typing teens and teen pregnancy. I seriously thought she would be the last person to do this. I feel personally attacked by this although i know she probably didnt even think about what she was saying. Its just harsh that the people you think support others decitions are the first to rub it in your face that they can spread their legs and not become pregnant. I dont regret my son but its just a fight she started knowing it would piss a bunch of people off.

I just dont understand why she felt she needed to make other decitions her business. Our choices as teen mothers do not effect those who are not, i mean seriously why does it matter how many teens get pregnant, and what happens if she gets pregnant, does she expect all the people she pissed off to support her.

Shes not the first to try and give her 2 cents on the topic and normally ill just scroll over there bulshit, i just am very offened that her off all people has the nerve to say such things.

rant over, just shocked.

 

[MommyGrim]

Did you reply to what she said? I mean did you like tell her how she was stereotyping teen moms?

 

[Tanara]

Instead of adding to the flame that was already on her status i messaged her, i knew anything i said would be shoved in my face.

Im still avaiting a reply from here. All i said was " Im hurt that after all you have done for me and all the support you have given me and my choices as a mother, you can still stereotype teen parents. I think your status is beyond unfair and rude, i cant believe you of all people have the nerve to sit there and judge people for their choices and knowingly start a huge fight when you KNOW it doesnt effect you in the slightest. Im very disapointed in you expecially since you have dont nothing but support me, and how over joyed you were for us to be having our second. Thanks for the giant slap in the face K***** I thought you were better than this. Have a great day. "

 

[AngelzTears]

Gosh, that would hurt my feelings too! But maybe she was just trying to be helpful to others with her status, and not judgmental? Though I've not read her exact words so I really don't know. Hope you both are able to work things out

 

[Tanara]

She messaged me back saying that she still stands by what she says, and although its wasnt adressed at me, she still thinks there are far to many teen parents. And how one good parent (me) doesnt make up for 10 bad.

so pretty much she think one out of every ten teen moms is a good parent. I come from a small town and in the last little while alot of younger woman have gotten pregnant, there is a huge thing in the paper about teen parents. Its just where we grew up i guess. Everyone is sooo narrow minded there, its a church comunity to boot.

ugh i just want to shake her. And the stupid town. People need to just not worrie about what others are doing.

 

[MommyGrim]

The strange thing is, I come from an extremely small town and everyone who I've talked to has been extremely supportive...which actually surprised me..cause most people in this town are narrow-minded hicks who think that their way is the only way...

Anyways...I think that your message was extremely mature considering how upset you seemed and I'm quite disappointed in the world that even now when teen pregnancy is seen as something 'normal', I guess would be the word, that some still act like that and judge so many.

Plus in my opinion, one good mother DOES make up for ten bad mothers, because there could be so much bad in the world but as long as there is a little good, then there is some balance and harmony...if that makes any sense

 

[Tanara]

The town i grew up in is a ton of hicks, there all jerks there..

Im not normally a mean person i have my moments though lol

and i agree but i dont think its that unballanced i know alot of teen mothers who have been nothing but great parents, so i think her saying that 1 out of every ten teen moms is a good parent is rude. Expecially since age has nothing to do with parenting my dad was 20 when i was born and was a terrible parent until he hit his late 30's when he had Taye in his life. So i just think that sterio-typing teens because you see some who are unexperienced, doesnt mean you couldnt find as many 25-30 year old parents who are just as unexperienced.