jade1991
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I did write a birth story at the time but it was a mess as I was absolutely off my face on tramadol 
That stuff is WEIRD.
So anyway, my due date was 21st May 2012. I was told by many people that my bump 'hadnt dropped' and I was still ages away. My midwife had already given me a sweep as she said the baby was fully engaged and very low, since 34 weeks! Also by 3 different midwifes I was told to expect a very small baby (6lb at the most) as I was carrying tiny and she said there was loads of room, despite me saying since 34 weeks that my ribs felt bruised (turned out it was her legs!!!!!!!! OUCH ) Anyway the sweep didnt work and I was feeling miserable and prepared to go the full way overdue.
On the night of 20th May, OH, my mum, brother and I had a BBQ out the back garden. I was about to grab a burger, stood up and felt wet. It went through a pair of leggings and joggers!! I said nothing and ran to the toilet, I was wearing a pad anyway (discharge at the end is minging lol) and it was a little wet. Hmmm. Changed pad and carried on. 5 mins later I was soaking again, still thought maybe its wee how naive I was. This went on about half hour. My mum and brother went home so I decided to tell OH I think my waters have gone. He didnt believe me, and I wasnt quite sure I believed myself, sooo he decided to watch me get changed, saw it trickling and finally said 'uhhh yeah I think they have babe'. Phoned L&D and they said if I dont go into labour in the night go in the next morning for induction. This was 7pm. The night went on and nothing, just wet pads :/ so went to bed unhappy dreading induction. Just as I was drifting off about midnight I had a massive wave of pain in my stomach, thought it might just be a cramp, checked the time. 4 mins later another one! Woke OH up (by moaning at the pain ) and went to toilet, red blood all over my pad (tmi sorry).
So phoned L&D they said the blood was normal as long as theres no meconium, even though my contractions were 4 mins apart they were only lasting about 30-40 seconds so they said wait until they were longer and more painful. Me & OH both panicking, he starts putting up pictures in the babies room and I'm in the mirror doing my hair and makeup whilst having contractions every 4 mins about 230am they were getting a lot more painful and couldnt talk through them so we went in. I WAS 2cm! And very angry!! My cx were every 3 mins and lasting a minute but because L&D were busy they sent me home until I 'couldnt take it any more', the carpark is a 10 min walking and I was stopping every 2 mins in pain! We phoned my mum and asked her to go to our house and put the bath on for me - big mistake!!
Got home and HATED the bath, was so uncomfortable and I was boiling hot. Ate about 20 tiptops in between contractions (I had a thing for ice with the whole labour!) And then spent the next 3 hours on the sofa watching gavin and stacey, curled up in a ball in pain! By 6am I couldnt take any more, I was getting worked up about the pain so we went back in. This is where things got worse!
Was checked by a midwife who said 'tell me when your having a contraction and I'll stop. I was 3cm! So I told her 'Im having a contraction now' with that she pushed her hand up and stretched me. The scariest, most upsetting and painful thing that has probably ever happened to me. It lasted about a minute and I was SCREAMING at her to get off me and take her hand out but she didnt. I was in consolable crying and my OH was telling her to get off but she didnt! I now know she did it because they wouldnt have admitted me at 3cm so she stretched me to 4, but she could have told me I would have been fine about it. Tbh that part ruined the whole labour for me...
I was taken to delivery sutie (Midwife led) and birthing pool was filled. I got in but HATED it. I did love the G&A and the birthing ball though, I kept rolling off haha. The pain was getting worse and my contractions were 1 min apart. I got to 6cm and had pethadine. Was AMAZING, even though I was acting like a looney. I asked the midwife if my cervix was green
and literally made my OH go get me some fruit pastells. When he came back I didnt want them when the pethadine wore off things got worse. Babies heartrate was dipping with contractions and I had to have continous monitoring. It still wasnt picking up and I was begging for more pethadine but they couldnt give it without checking the heartrate with doctors. I was in so much pain I couldnt breathe, shouting at them to get me some pain relief and they were taking ages. Gas and air was doing nothing and I was starting to freak out. At 230pm on 21st May I was taken to consultant led as they were worried about baby 
I was begging for an epidural after 18 hours of continous contractions!! And when I had it I could have kissed the anesthetist. The babies heartrate was still dipping so they attatched a clip to her head inside me (OH and my mum saw her hair through magnifying glass when they did it, he still says its one of the best things hes ever seen in his life!) and they took blood from her head to check her oxygen levels. I was 10cm and starting pushing at 630pm.
I was pushing so hard and getting nowhere. I was loosing so much fluid sweating and was dizzy, I had 4 drips going into me, 2 bags of saline, paracetamol and antibiotics for temperature and a constant inflating blood pressure band (which seriously bruised my arm!!). After 2 hours she still hadnt come down they told me I needed assistance. Forceps were the one thing I said from the start that I didnt want. I refused them. The doctors came back in 15 mins later and said baby is stressed if I dont accept the forceps I'm risking our lives. I was so upset and terrified. I signed the forms in floods of tears and was taken to theatre with OH. Had a spinal put in and they began forceps. Tried 2 pulls and she still wasnt coming. They were prepping me for csection and the doctor said he would have one more try. Out she came at 21:12. I told them I didnt wanna hold her, I was pretty traumatised and out of it and I thought I would have dropped her. I looked at OH with this MASSIVE baby hanging off him. She was put onto a table and 4 doctors stood around her. I asked what they were doing and they said her skin on her face had overlapped from the forceps (they grabbed her by the face, didnt know she was facing sideways) so they were holding my tiny baby down and stretching her skin out! Thankfully she was okay. They held her up to show me, she was huge! She had a bust lip from the forceps too but they said it would go down quickly. She was weighed....... 9lb 3oz. WOW.
I had an episiotomy and the doctor spent an HOUR stitching me up WTF! Tbh I didnt even wanna know about it! I was starving and exhausted, hadnt eaten for 28 hours, hadnt slept for 2 days!! OH bottle fed the baby whilst I ate my tea and HALF A SLICE OF TOAST
We were kept in for 4 days for antibiotics as id gone 24hrs+ after my water broke but we didnt have any infection. I was on very strong painkillers and was so swollen down below I had a constant icepack on! I also fainted in the shower the next morning it took a few weeks but I was back to normal and feeling loads better by week 3! And 6 months on you'd never know I'd had a baby (well apart from the scar down below but its hardly noticable and noones really gunna be looking that closely and my baby is amazing!
Anyway thanks for reading! We called her Millie Jade
Here are some photos. First one just born (shows forceps marks), second 3 days old and third now
That stuff is WEIRD.So anyway, my due date was 21st May 2012. I was told by many people that my bump 'hadnt dropped' and I was still ages away. My midwife had already given me a sweep as she said the baby was fully engaged and very low, since 34 weeks! Also by 3 different midwifes I was told to expect a very small baby (6lb at the most) as I was carrying tiny and she said there was loads of room, despite me saying since 34 weeks that my ribs felt bruised (turned out it was her legs!!!!!!!! OUCH
) Anyway the sweep didnt work and I was feeling miserable and prepared to go the full way overdue.On the night of 20th May, OH, my mum, brother and I had a BBQ out the back garden. I was about to grab a burger, stood up and felt wet. It went through a pair of leggings and joggers!! I said nothing and ran to the toilet, I was wearing a pad anyway (discharge at the end is minging lol) and it was a little wet. Hmmm. Changed pad and carried on. 5 mins later I was soaking again, still thought maybe its wee
how naive I was. This went on about half hour. My mum and brother went home so I decided to tell OH I think my waters have gone. He didnt believe me, and I wasnt quite sure I believed myself, sooo he decided to watch me get changed, saw it trickling and finally said 'uhhh yeah I think they have babe'. Phoned L&D and they said if I dont go into labour in the night go in the next morning for induction. This was 7pm. The night went on and nothing, just wet pads :/ so went to bed unhappy dreading induction. Just as I was drifting off about midnight I had a massive wave of pain in my stomach, thought it might just be a cramp, checked the time. 4 mins later another one! Woke OH up (by moaning at the pain ) and went to toilet, red blood all over my pad (tmi sorry).So phoned L&D they said the blood was normal as long as theres no meconium, even though my contractions were 4 mins apart they were only lasting about 30-40 seconds so they said wait until they were longer and more painful. Me & OH both panicking, he starts putting up pictures in the babies room and I'm in the mirror doing my hair and makeup whilst having contractions every 4 mins
about 230am they were getting a lot more painful and couldnt talk through them so we went in. I WAS 2cm! And very angry!! My cx were every 3 mins and lasting a minute but because L&D were busy they sent me home until I 'couldnt take it any more', the carpark is a 10 min walking and I was stopping every 2 mins in pain! We phoned my mum and asked her to go to our house and put the bath on for me - big mistake!!Got home and HATED the bath, was so uncomfortable and I was boiling hot. Ate about 20 tiptops in between contractions (I had a thing for ice with the whole labour!) And then spent the next 3 hours on the sofa watching gavin and stacey, curled up in a ball in pain! By 6am I couldnt take any more, I was getting worked up about the pain so we went back in. This is where things got worse!
Was checked by a midwife who said 'tell me when your having a contraction and I'll stop. I was 3cm! So I told her 'Im having a contraction now' with that she pushed her hand up and stretched me. The scariest, most upsetting and painful thing that has probably ever happened to me. It lasted about a minute and I was SCREAMING at her to get off me and take her hand out but she didnt. I was in consolable crying and my OH was telling her to get off but she didnt! I now know she did it because they wouldnt have admitted me at 3cm so she stretched me to 4, but she could have told me I would have been fine about it. Tbh that part ruined the whole labour for me...
I was taken to delivery sutie (Midwife led) and birthing pool was filled. I got in but HATED it. I did love the G&A and the birthing ball though, I kept rolling off haha. The pain was getting worse and my contractions were 1 min apart. I got to 6cm and had pethadine. Was AMAZING, even though I was acting like a looney. I asked the midwife if my cervix was green
and literally made my OH go get me some fruit pastells. When he came back I didnt want them when the pethadine wore off things got worse. Babies heartrate was dipping with contractions and I had to have continous monitoring. It still wasnt picking up and I was begging for more pethadine but they couldnt give it without checking the heartrate with doctors. I was in so much pain I couldnt breathe, shouting at them to get me some pain relief and they were taking ages. Gas and air was doing nothing and I was starting to freak out. At 230pm on 21st May I was taken to consultant led as they were worried about baby I was begging for an epidural after 18 hours of continous contractions!! And when I had it I could have kissed the anesthetist. The babies heartrate was still dipping so they attatched a clip to her head inside me (OH and my mum saw her hair through magnifying glass when they did it, he still says its one of the best things hes ever seen in his life!) and they took blood from her head to check her oxygen levels. I was 10cm and starting pushing at 630pm. I was pushing so hard and getting nowhere. I was loosing so much fluid sweating and was dizzy, I had 4 drips going into me, 2 bags of saline, paracetamol and antibiotics for temperature and a constant inflating blood pressure band (which seriously bruised my arm!!). After 2 hours she still hadnt come down they told me I needed assistance. Forceps were the one thing I said from the start that I didnt want.
I refused them. The doctors came back in 15 mins later and said baby is stressed if I dont accept the forceps I'm risking our lives. I was so upset and terrified. I signed the forms in floods of tears and was taken to theatre with OH. Had a spinal put in and they began forceps. Tried 2 pulls and she still wasnt coming. They were prepping me for csection and the doctor said he would have one more try. Out she came at 21:12. I told them I didnt wanna hold her, I was pretty traumatised and out of it and I thought I would have dropped her. I looked at OH with this MASSIVE baby hanging off him. She was put onto a table and 4 doctors stood around her. I asked what they were doing and they said her skin on her face had overlapped from the forceps (they grabbed her by the face, didnt know she was facing sideways) so they were holding my tiny baby down and stretching her skin out! Thankfully she was okay. They held her up to show me, she was huge! She had a bust lip from the forceps too but they said it would go down quickly. She was weighed....... 9lb 3oz. WOW.I had an episiotomy and the doctor spent an HOUR stitching me up WTF! Tbh I didnt even wanna know about it! I was starving and exhausted, hadnt eaten for 28 hours, hadnt slept for 2 days!! OH bottle fed the baby whilst I ate my tea and HALF A SLICE OF TOAST
We were kept in for 4 days for antibiotics as id gone 24hrs+ after my water broke but we didnt have any infection. I was on very strong painkillers and was so swollen down below I had a constant icepack on! I also fainted in the shower the next morning
it took a few weeks but I was back to normal and feeling loads better by week 3! And 6 months on you'd never know I'd had a baby (well apart from the scar down below but its hardly noticable and noones really gunna be looking that closely and my baby is amazing! Anyway thanks for reading! We called her Millie Jade
Here are some photos. First one just born (shows forceps marks), second 3 days old and third now
