Urgent Advice

[Ceejay123]

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[Dezireey]

Mostly yes, they favour the mother. Depends what country you live in too as laws are obviously different but in UK and USA, mothers have to be 'proven' to be incapable or not allowed to look after children. Usually neglect, drugs, abuse, stuff like that. Consideration is given to kids who are old enough to say ' i don't want to live with mum'. That's something that the court considers. But babies belong with their mothers more or less 99% of the time in the beginning and a court will never ever release a baby that is breastfeeding to sole custody of the father or even for a few days overnight as this is detrimental to the welfare of the child.

Fathers get rights of course but their track record must be good. You stand more of a chance of getting good visitation rights and joint custody if you are e.g a father that has been there for his kids and going through a divorce or an FOB that has been actively involved from day one.

An FOB who neglected the mother, wasn't at the birth, doesn't pay child support or is totally absent has a massive fight in their hands in court to get access. Might as well hand the baby over to a complete stranger in the street and that's the way a good judge looks at it.

 

[Jennifurball]

An FOB who neglected the mother, wasn't at the birth, doesn't pay child support or is totally absent has a massive fight in their hands in court to get access. Might as well hand the baby over to a complete stranger in the street and that's the way a good judge looks at it.

I like this part, really hope this is the case for me, the only thing FOB did was attend the birth but TBH I think I was putting him out even expecting that.

 

[JennyBLove]

Yeah they always prefer child gets to see both, there has to be serious reasons father or mother doesnt get to see them. Which I wouldn wanna hold my child back from seein its daddy no matter how much I wish or disagree. I kno what its like a kid, tough n sad. But custody another thing....depends on job, home n all that. The best interest of cchild In Ccourts rule.

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Dezireey]

I really don't think even a great father can win many cases for 'full custody' of a child let alone a baby. Full custody to the father is given in extreme circumstances or if there is loads of documented proof that the child is better off living with the father. A judge will usually award joint custody and / or visitation rights to a good dad. An idiot, absent FOB who saunters into court demanding to have e.g 3 days a week and overnight with a baby will get laughed out of court.

 

[Dream.dream]

Most courts don't actually favor either parent . They actually look at what is in the best interest of the child. So they look at factors like income, whose always been there , who can provide a more stable home, who has a better schedule to care for the child , history of alcohol or drug use , or neglect.

It's all about what is best for the kid and honestly

 

[JennyBLove]

Yeah from what I think is that men do that so that they dont have to pay child support given its half n half. Fn bs if u ask me. Yeah n if barely a father before, most likely the case n unless the mother a drug addict, felon, child neglecting,, non wrking,, everything bad he could possibly get but even then mostly nvrr win full custody!!! Loser men

I ask because of a friend - The Dad stating he wants shared custody (3 1/2 days and nights) else he's fighting for full custody. The mother was offering 1-2 days, no nights. x

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Dream.dream]

If I were her I would stop drinkin al together an basically try and be perfect then go to court. If she takes away anything he has to use against her and he keeps acting the same shell have a better chance.

 

[Ceejay123]

This is what I told her, to only drink on occasions until its over x

 

[Dream.dream]

That and if he says anything threatening or drinks or does drugs tell her to keep track of dates and times good luck

 

[JennyBLove]

Hes not gonna get shit if hes noot even working :/......yeah another reason I think he waant out of child support...she works right? Not gonna happen courts gonna laugh at him aboout full or half custody if he cant even provide financially. Poor girl, dont worrry tho, n yeah maybe she should not drink at aall for now n not let there be ANY proff she does or has gotten that drunk. I du.no whole story but my friends fob called soocial sevices on her sayn she starvees there baby!!!!!!! Fn loser not even around for baby but shes still fighting for her back n she was put straight in foster care! But shes not allowed to drink or anything court said n so on n just has to do what theey say to get her back n shes a great mom. Another thing my exs baby mom left her kids at home n went somewhere to get drugs n didnt come back n now has child neglect felony charges n even the dad diddnt get them cuz they used to be together n now they have joint cuz he has own place n job n so oon.

Thanks. My friends partner changes one nappy every 2-3 days, feeds his daughter once every 2-3 days. He never once did nights and still gets up at 11am . I feel awful for her as he's now threatening to try and take her.
He doesn't work so he's technically been around full time, but does nothing except play with her. He wouldn't know how to sort her meals or anything. He's calling the mum an alcoholic.. She drinks once every six weeks but gets plastered when she does. She never drinks while she's in charge of her daughter though x

 

[Calambria]

To be frank, income is rarely considered in US custody cases, moreso if its a battle of 'who earns more'. If that were the case, there were not be mothers on medicaid or other government assistance awarded with primary placement. If a person does not work but is able to rally the aid of GA or other source of income, so long as they can provide adequate shelter, food and medical care, then it is what it is. Most judges, however, will not disturb status quo(the situation as it is right now - Like mom being primary custodian) without good reason.

I don't know how it works in the UK, though.