User's Pictures of Angel Babies

[rainbowskin]

It is not my intention to sound insensitive or offend anyone and while I understand that is their child and the loss is devastating to them it is extremely upsetting for me to come across these photos on the boards in avatars and signatures on public posts and threads.

Is it possible for these users to keep the pictures of their angel babies off the general public boards and just in their profile so not everyone has to be forced to see the pictures and only those who want to see can look on the user's profile?

 

[niknak242]

Those are their children, they have every right to share the pictures.

 

[AP]

Baby and Bump caters for everyone, not just those who have children or are TTC/pregnant, but also those who have experienced child and pregnancy loss.

Our members have very right to share their childs special pictures just as much as anyone else,so long as they are in line with technical requirements. I'm pretty positive Baby and Bump have no intention of making our members hide their angels.

I understand you may be upset, but please do try to respect other members.

 

[Kate&Lucas]

If you don't want to be forced to see pictures of other members' children you can opt to hide signatures and avatars from view. Go to User CP > Edit Options > Visible Post Elements, and uncheck the relevant boxes.

 

[whistle]

The other ladies have said it. Sometimes as an angel mum you feel the world wants you to pretend your son or daughter never existed. Some angel mums find it extremely upsetting to see pictures of live babies or pregnancy tickers. We need to co-operate with each other on a public forum and accept that every mummy has a different life experience that is equally important as the next. I know you find it upsetting, but think of what an angel mummy has been through to maybe only have 'upsetting' photos of their baby.

Sorry, probably shouldn't have weighed in but couldn't help myself.

 

[v2007]

It's OK I have took my picture down now of my daughter, as long as it makes YOU feel better eh!!!

 

[AP]

V don't change nothing for no-one darlin xxxx

 

[v2007]

I know I have had a whinge in the past bout people lurking in the loss sections and we got past that, but it's like us Angel Mums are being made to feel we can't venture into the trimester boards as we might upset someone.

Regardless of anything, we were still pregnant and we still had the same symptoms, aches and pains that Mums who are currently pregnant have so why can't we pop in to offer advice.

We don't go into scare, we go into help and pass on our own pregnancy/pregnant woes and TBH I will continue to do.

I am not keeping my avatar up of Taylor just so someone can sit there thinking that I am upsetting THEM.

To the OP, our babies may upset you, but imagine walking a day in our shoes, you might be whistling a different tune.

 

[hubblybubbly]

v, Taylor is beautiful and thank you for sharing her with us. Xxx sorry you have to deal with rudeness and lack of understanding from some people. Xxx

 

[SnuggleMum]

If you don't want to be forced to see pictures of other members' children you can opt to hide signatures and avatars from view. Go to User CP > Edit Options > Visible Post Elements, and uncheck the relevant boxes.

It is also possible to hide individual avatars and signatures, at the bottom of that section, which might be an option for those who do find certain avatars and signatures upsetting.

I think this is a very difficult subject, I'm sure no-one wants to cause hurt or offence on either side. I think there are very strong (and valid) feelings on both sides.

 

[GlitterandBug]

Sorry but this is very insensitive of the OP to ask this of angel mummies. They have as much right as anyone to post pictures of their babies. This should never have been asked.

V - I never saw your avatar but i'm sure Taylor was beautiful xxx

 

[Wobbles]

I guess my question before I posted this thread would have been "would I like the task of telling the parents of angel babies to hide their LO's to save ME being upset?" I'm sure the answer would be no (morally I wouldn't anyway). Please check you CP options:

Signature Rules, Tips & Options

Options

Switch off all signatures:
UserCP > Edit Options
Under the 'Thread Display Options' heading you can untick 'Show Signatures'.

Hide Individual Signutures (and avatars):
UserCP > Edit Options
Under the 'Thread Display Options' heading you can turn off individual members signatures.

Remember to press 'Save Changes' after altering settings.

 

[Andypanda6570]

OMG............. I am speechless. This is why this topic of pregnancy loss becomes hard for women to talk about. People are not supposed to hide away and come out at certain times, I just find this thread highly offensive and insensitive. How dare anyone tell anyone else what they can have or not have. You don't like it don't look............ I am so offended by this, sorry but I am

 

[Tasha]

Just wanted to send some to V and the other angel Mummy's. Taylor is truly beautiful V, and I for one feel priviledged to see your gorgeous little girl.

The OP is offensive, although I know you probably didnt mean it to come across that way. Those angel babies are still their children and I am very sure the upset you feel by seeing them is nothing compared to the upset these Mummy's carry day in, day out.

Imagine I put up a thread requesting all of the parents with living babies or ones in their tummy's were made to take them down their siggy/avatar because they upset ME. ETA (they dont I am just saying).

 

[mommy43]

i also feel priviledged to see angel moms beautiful babies why should they not have them there it is all too often they are told to forget or move on or its just not talked about these are their children why should it be any different i honsestly dont know how to say what i want to but im offended this was even asked in the first place
dont remove your pics angel moms please i dont belong in the loss section n wont ever pretend to know the heartache you have been through but u have every right to show off your gorgeous babies as others do xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Nicoleoleole]

Definitely did not expect to see this thread coming back for a visit. :/

I don't understand what the difference between Mom's posting pictures of their children, whether they're earth or angel babys. They're both equally as proud of their kids as the other, and have every right to post them.

I just hope that maybe being on this site a little bit longer will open OP's eyes a bit and have her realize that. I've never had a stillbirth, but I would be devastated if someone told me they were offended seeing a photo of my child!

to everyone

 

[SnuggleMum]

Definitely did not expect to see this thread coming back for a visit. :/

I don't understand what the difference between Mom's posting pictures of their children, whether they're earth or angel babys. They're both equally as proud of their kids as the other, and have every right to post them.

I just hope that maybe being on this site a little bit longer will open OP's eyes a bit and have her realize that. I've never had a stillbirth, but I would be devastated if someone told me they were offended seeing a photo of my child!

to everyone

I don't think the OP (or any reasonable person) was or would be offended by a photo of an Angel Baby, but the OP did say she felt extremely upset by it. She did say she didn't want to offend, so I don't think we should be too harsh - we can't help what we find upsetting.

I think helping the OP (and others reading who feel the same) deal with how they feel (by changing settings etc) is better than telling them off. I'm sure no-one wants to cause any more upset to anyone else.

A lot of people aren't very computer literate, and I don't think many forums offer the option to disable some/all avatars, and I think everyone would agree that is the best option for those upset by Angel Baby pictures.

 

[Sarahcake]

I have never had to deal with the kind of loss that you ladies with Angel Babies have had to deal with and I can only imagine how hard it must be to see threads like this. I understand both sides of the fence but to me personally, I feel immensely privileged that you would share pictures of your beautiful children with us here, weather a child is here, or sadly is not, they are still just that, a child, something which means the world to someone here.

Please dont feel like you have to stop putting your gorgeous angels in your avatars/signature pictures. We ALL have the right to display our children proudly. Those that do not like it, as it has been pointed out before have options to block them from their personal view.

Big hugs to you all.

 

[AP]

I think Wobbles has given the helpful technical advice to the OP, so I will close this thread.