using DH's ex's name?

[mummygiraffe]

It's always been my favourite name...... wanted it for 1st child but didn't. they broke up when they were 19 and it was 7 years ago now.

DH doesn't see the problem

I think DH's parenst might think its weird and her rents will find out too as DH's younger brother plays sports with ex's sisters husband so regularly see's them

anyway what are your opinions

 

[hopeandpray]

Personally I couldn't do it

 

[LittlePeople]

if DH isn't bothered by it...and you really like the name...I don't think there should be a problem!

 

[mystika802]

If neither of you see a problem with it I wouldnt care what anyone else thought

 

[mummygiraffe]

thats what i think, its been so long that name isnt even considered a problem, even the Moo down the road called it hasn't put me off much. I think of her more now.

I think you associate the name with the most recent person. Like if you hated a Hannah at school but met a lovely one at Uni your perspective on that name would reverse i think???

 

[BlessedTwice]

IF it doesnt' seem awkward to both of you then I say use the name!

 

[xMissxZoiex]

My DFs exs name was Natalie and i love that name but i couldnt bring myself to use it now.

 

[dreamofabean]

If you both dont have a prob with it then sod everyone else!! hee hee. If you love, go for it hun! x

 

[RubyRainbows]

I would use the name... i think *not* using it makes that person more important that they really are -- since they are impacting your life. If you love the name, and it doesn't bother either of you -- def go for it!

I suggested the name Raina & OH said no bc of an ex named "Rain" and i was like "who cares!!!!!!!!" I would certainly use one of my exes names if i liked it -- bc i'm over them & a name is just a name.

 

[jen1604]

I wouldn't but if both of you are comfortable with it then I think its fine xx

 

[Jody R]

I would use the name... i think *not* using it makes that person more important that they really are -- since they are impacting your life. If you love the name, and it doesn't bother either of you -- def go for it!

I suggested the name Raina & OH said no bc of an ex named "Rain" and i was like "who cares!!!!!!!!" I would certainly use one of my exes names if i liked it -- bc i'm over them & a name is just a name.

I agree, I was just about to put that. Not using the name because the ex from 7 years ago was called it gives her too much significance now.

If he isn't even in contact with her, they weren't married, it wasn't a nasty break-up and he has no regrets about them splitting up then there shouldn't be a problem. Even if they do find out through the grapevine then it doesn't matter, you haven't named the baby after her, it's just coincidence that you always liked the name.

If it's the right name for your baby then it will soon turn into your daughters name and not his ex's name.

I mean, imagine in a years time he is having a conversation with an acquaintance and they mention the name. He won't say or think "my ex was called that" he will say "that's my daughters name."

 

[kiwimama]

I couldn't do that but if you and your oh are both fine with it and you both love the name then why not?!

 

[mummygiraffe]

yes i think it may give her more significance than she is due. 7 years ago and they were just a teenage thing. After all i met him when i was 18 and he was 19-were married have nearly 2 kids.

I think people on the grapevine might wonder or think its odd but they will know teh wife/mum has the biggest say. It so doesn't bother me-its my fav name I wanted for first LO but went for something else with the shortened version of teh name as middle. My DD is Evie and my middle name is Eve so it kind of follows suit to do it.

Plus if we were having a boy there is just 1 name we both like and it's my first loves name and it doesnt matter. It doesnt mean we are naming after them its a name we love and the day our child is born that is who we and everyone we know will think of from then on.

if her and family do find out what the hell does it matter what they think anyway. If they want to think it means anything they can, they'd be wrong though.

 

[CLH_X3]

I defo could not use it...

 

[RubyRainbows]

Just out of curiosity -- what is the name?

 

[Jody R]

Just out of curiosity -- what is the name?

I've been wondering that too and trying to work out what the short version was to see if I could guess the long one from that

 

[jenkins]

i say just use it, its up to the both of you, if it feels right then i wouldn't worry