fionar
Mama to 2 boys
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Ugh, I'm so not usually like this but I'm just really upset this morning.
Found out my parents (who are supposed to be there for the birth - my mom is a doula and my dad is a photographer - they were both there for my son's birth) are going out of town for a long weekend two weeks before I'm due. It's not just a little hour-away trip, it's more like a 6 hour drive.
I know I probably won't go in to labor then anyway, since my son wasn't born until just after his due date. That said, I had a very fast labor with him - 6 hours from nothing to baby being born, and it's unlikely they'd make it back in time for anything if they were there and I called them to say I was in labor.
Last time I didn't want my husband around while I was laboring, I just wanted my mom - she was my main support person for the majority of the labor.
I feel so selfish not wanting them to go (she said they're planning to cancel plans "if things seem imminent" - but last time things didn't seem imminent and then all of a sudden I was giving birth) but I'd feel horrible asking them not to and then not having the baby then anyway.
UGH. She'd have never gone out of town that far away two weeks before a doula client's due date, but she's okay with it for her daughter's? I'm just so nervous and am really upset at the thought of them missing the birth and me having no support and having no pictures and just nothing. I don't think I'm being unreasonable, but... what do I even do?
Found out my parents (who are supposed to be there for the birth - my mom is a doula and my dad is a photographer - they were both there for my son's birth) are going out of town for a long weekend two weeks before I'm due. It's not just a little hour-away trip, it's more like a 6 hour drive.
I know I probably won't go in to labor then anyway, since my son wasn't born until just after his due date. That said, I had a very fast labor with him - 6 hours from nothing to baby being born, and it's unlikely they'd make it back in time for anything if they were there and I called them to say I was in labor.
Last time I didn't want my husband around while I was laboring, I just wanted my mom - she was my main support person for the majority of the labor.
I feel so selfish not wanting them to go (she said they're planning to cancel plans "if things seem imminent" - but last time things didn't seem imminent and then all of a sudden I was giving birth) but I'd feel horrible asking them not to and then not having the baby then anyway.
UGH. She'd have never gone out of town that far away two weeks before a doula client's due date, but she's okay with it for her daughter's? I'm just so nervous and am really upset at the thought of them missing the birth and me having no support and having no pictures and just nothing. I don't think I'm being unreasonable, but... what do I even do?