Venting!

[waiting2be]

So finally after months of holding on to my clomid prescription and missing my start days I finally was able to take it for the 1st time this April.
Just to give you a quick background info my OH & I are 26 TTC for 2+yrs and finally last year we began going to a FS which after all test were done on both my OH & I found nothing abnormal.
I have a reg period every 28 days I ovulate on my own and OH has great swimmers so we are in the unexplained group.

I was trying not to get my hopes up this month but after taking clomid I was feeling very hopeful.
Started testing for O this month using the clear blue digital test and got my smiley on a Saturday but didn’t get a chance to BD.
Sunday we were able to BD and that afternoon I felt horrible really bad sharp pains AF kind and felt super bloated to the point it hurt to move!
The next day I still had a bit of pain come and go but I was ready to BD until my hubby decided he felt pressured!!!!! And we didn’t BD for the next couple of days!!!!!!!! I was furious!!!!
Out of all the days to not BD he decides he feels pressured when I’m due to O!!!!!!!!! Then he tries telling me its gonna happen when the time is right!!!!

Now AF is due this weekend but I’m the type who doesn’t like to test before unless I’m at least a week late (which never happens)…..
Feeling like we missed out this month

 

[snd80]

I'm sorry hun... my DH flaked out on me last month too when I FINALLY got my first smiley on my CB Digi! You talk about pissed! I was LIVID!!!!! I cried all night. He swore I was going crazy, but after a few days of the silent treatment, he realized that it was important to me, but it was too late then. I don't understand men sometimes!!!

 

[waiting2be]

silent treatment always seems to work too bad it was too late

I'm at the point I dont even want to test this month for O since apparently we are just waisting money if OH isnt going to do his part! Grrrrrrrr

 

[SillyHale]

I love jumping on these threads because I'm pretty pissed at my DH for last month. It was our first time using opks so I actually knew when to bd. It was positive on a friday and we bd that night but then nothing for the rest of the time because my dh wasn't feeling into it. Apparently I'll just keep it a secret next time because it seemed to put him off when I told him we had to for three days straight. We've only bd one other time since then because I'm just pissed that he would be such a baby. I'm really sorry to hear about your OH but I'm in the same boat, I'm just waiting for AF to show up on Monday so I can start this whole thing over. It just seems like it was a bust last month and it was the first time we tried something new (opk) so I was really hurt by his attitude.
This may sound like an obvious statement but maybe try talking to OH and telling him it's super important to you, and you just want to make sure you are giving yourselves the best chances for success. I know that after I talked to my DH about it he understood why I was so pissed off and apologised. Honestly though, if he pulls any of that crap again this month I'm going to be so angry at him. When he wants it I'm more than happy to comply so if I want it I expect the same hahaha

 

[TeddyBearPug]

I think sometimes the OH's are feeling performance anxiety and it is hard for them. When me and my husband started out he was like that a little, but i came to find out that he was afraid of getting pregnant. He was ready but scared like alot of women are with the actual idea of it! For a few months, i tried to make it easier for him by not mentioning the scheduled and just intiating it. It made it easier on him. Now, its back to business as he is ok with it now! he says he is the sperm bank and has to make a deposit! oh, men! lol! Hope things get better for you ladies!