Very proud but a little jealous too! UPDATE: He got the job

[aimee-lou]

I can't be only one who feels like this.

My hubby has applied for a job - it's the first job he's applied for in 3 years (he's a full time student but wants summer work this year) and he's done 1 application which he sent off at the weekend. He got a phone call this morning asking him to come in this afternoon.

I should add that prior to being a student he was a bus driver and still holds a full licence. This is a ticket to getting a job, no matter what which is brilliant. I'm so proud of him, and so happy for him. I hope his interview goes well as I know he'd love to be behind the wheel of a bus a couple of days a week this summer lol.

BUT, I was on job seekers, applying for work from november last year up til 2 weeks ago. I've had to give up due to being VERY pregnant now and will be in income support from next week (hopefully anyway, not guaranteed is it?!). I've been totally unable to find work as I'm pretty much unqualified for anything, despite having a degree and 10 years experience in customer service and administration including nearly a year in a call centre. It's all been for nothing, and just wish I had a 'trade' like my hubby does.

We have agreed that when he has completed his degree and his teacher training, I'll be able to do whatever I want to do, be in stay at home or go back to school or just take a p/t job doing something for a bit of pin-money. I just can't help feeling guilty. I'm the one who's supposed to be funding him through Uni, working to help him acheive his dream. I feel sad I'm not able to do this and it's purely because I've got no real qualifications or skills. God Damn the education system in this country.....everyone should get a degree my backside!!!

Sorry - rant over! lol

 

[aimee-lou]

He got the job. He was offered it on the spot and starts Monday.

So proud of him, but seriously, I need to do something. I feel utterly useless now!

 

[Pearls18]

Congrats on his job. I kinda know how you feel, when I was pregnant with my first my career had to take a temporary backseat because DH’s is very full on and with me being the pregnant one it limited my options. However, it didn’t hold me back for long, I love DH but I would resent him if I couldn’t have a career as I am career orientated, so I luckily found and job and am know studying for my masters part time while I work, it is hard work but DH is very supportive. Never say never, there is always something you can be doing but the difficult thing is choosing! Resentment isn’t a nice feeling to live with, I think it is natural though, but I think you should do what you need to do to overcome it don't think it needs to be him or you with the career, I think there is always a compromise.

 

[aimee-lou]

Thanks for the reply. I think you're right totally in that it's not a 'him or me' thing. I feel guilty for not being able to do what I said I would do, and feel like a drain. It's not forever though, things for me are on hold for a year or so until baby is a few months old. It was the simplicity and ease with which he literally walked into a job - seriously all he did was show his driver's licence! lol It's sickening!

Before I fell pg with number 3 I had just about managed to find what I wanted to do and start working towards it but had to admit that I couldn't do it this year, but still feel a bit like the rug has been pulled from under me. This just opened up the wound I think. So proud of him though - and he's over the moon lol. We'll see how he feels a few weeks in. At least he only has to work F/t til September when he will drop down to 1 day a week around his studies. Very lucky to get a job that will do that too.

 

[seoj]

Well congrats to him on the Job- that is great!!

I do understand where your coming from hun- but just remind yourself your a team. It's Ok if sometimes he does more or visa versa- it's about what works best for your family unit overall- and your both doing all you can. It's not like you weren't trying to find work- and I'm sure he appreciates and understands all you do.

Personally- I'm in a bit of a diff situation-- as I so badly want to quit my job. It's been amazing to me- I worked hard to get where I am- there are so many reasons it's a fab job- but I just feel like it's not where I WANT to be... like there is something better out there for me. Hard to explain. But we need both our incomes right now- I refuse to quit until I know my "calling" or we are in a better place financially- but even then, without my income I don't know how we could make ends meet. My hubby and I both have good jobs- but we also live within our means- big house, 3 cars etc... and our bills alone would be a bit much for either of us to handle alone. So I feel stuck. I know I'm lucky- and feel horrid even complaining- especially to my husband... although he is understanding.

I have to believe things will work out-- I'm sure they will for you as well. Our path is not just a direction, but a journey-- one with lots of bumps in the road. Geesh- I sound like an after school special- sorry. But yea, we will find where we are meant to be... just live for today and don't worry so much about tomorrow. Good advise for myself as well! LOL