Wait to Miscarriage Naturally or Schedule D&C?

[jerseyshoregirl]

I would really appreciate any information, personal experience advice, etc. regarding the risk and dangers of both options - waiting to miscarriage naturally or scheduling a D&C.

My doctor is not recommending one over the other and has said the choice really is up to both of us depending on how we feel.

JM

 

[danni2609]

My friend had a D and C last week and shes was in and out very quick and feeling alot better. It supposed to cut the chances of possible infection. Hope this helps and im really sorry xx

 

[hay23]

I'm sorry that your going through this, I myself have been through this in March this year and I personally decided on the D & C. It was a very quick procedure and was home a few hours after which I was glad of. I just wanted the closure I think.

on whatever you decide and if you have any more questions I'd be happy to answer them for you x

 

[porkpie1981]

I had a d & C as i had waited a few weeks for it to go but it was a blighted ovum and stayed put. I would say mybe go to the mc and u can read my full story on the posts and others and they will help you.

 

[elm]

so sorry that you're having to go through this x

 

[NikiJJones]

So sorry for your loss.
I wasn't given the option of a D&C, and was told to wait for natural MC. At the time, the waiting was awful, and knowing that my LO was still inside me, but passed away was emotionally terrible, but I started to bleed less than a week later, and I am now glad that I let it happen naturally. It was really painful for the first two days, but after that was just like a long period. In the end I was glad to have avoided the surgery option, though either way, the loss and grief is still there.
Hugs and thinking of you,
xxxx

 

[Carley]

I've had two D&C's because of missed miscarriages. I was in and out the same day and it wasn't painful, no more then a slight period cramping. I didn't want to risk an infection and ruin my fertility. *huge hugs* If you need to talk I'm here!

 

[Sarah88]

I'm so sorry for your loss hun. It is someting that nobody should ever have to go through, let alone someone who really wants a child.

Personally, I think i would prefer to have a d&c, I wouldn't want to have my bub still inside of me and have to wait until it was out.

 

[porkpie1981]

I had a d & C as i had waited a few weeks for it to go but it was a blighted ovum and stayed put. I would say mybe go to the mc and u can read my full story on the posts and others and they will help you.

I see it been moved to the mc sectionm glad u got more replies

 

[shmoo75]

Hi hun I am so sorry for your loss. I had a natural mc but, my best friend had an incomplete m/c. She started bleeding went to the hospital they did blood test, she went back 2 days later bleeding had stopped another blood test confirmed she had began to m/c as her hormone levels had more that halved, she had an ultrasound scan and internal which confirmed the sac was there but could not see anything inside, said for her to come back in 2wks and if she hadn't finished m/c naturally then they would do a d&c, 11days later she started bleeding again which meant the m/c was complete, she said it was like losing her baby all over again and she wished she had pushed for a d&c. I think one of the reasons they don't do d&c's automatically anymore is that, your body heals alot quicker than if we had surgery. The choice is yours hun you have to do what feels right and also what your OH thinks as well. Sending you

 

[gem]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm having my 2nd missed miscarriage at the moment. My first i had an ERPC (D&C) and it was fine. I only bled for a couple of days after and had only a small amount of pain, like a period pain. I went for another ERPC last weeks but they couldn't do it so now i have to wait 2 weeks which is awful. I've been bleeding for 3 weeks now and get bad pains if I move around to much. I would recommend having the ERPC as it's quicker and your body can return to normal faster allowing you to deal with the emotional side. You will also know when it's going to happen, rather than waiting and not knowing when or where it may happen. Some women that have natural mc have to go back for a D&C anyway as something may be left behind.

I hope whatever you decide works best for you . Lots of love and luck for the future. x

 

[Loo]

Hi Hun. Sorry to hear about your mc. A big hug for you.

I think it's hard to decide what's the best when you are told about mc, as there are pros and cons for all methods, and it also depends how far on you are. I had a gut feeling what was right for me and I am happy I went with that.

I actually had a bit of 'watch and wait', then medical management and then a d+c! All for the same miscarriage.

I found out I had had a missed mc at 12-13 weeks, but LO had passed away at 10 weeks gestation. SO knew then LO had been inside for 2-3 weeks with no heart beat. I didn't feel ready to let them go though....so waited a week or two to see if anything happened by itself (as i had no symptoms at this point).

Nothing happened and it became difficult to know I was carrying my LO around still (and still feeling pregnant), so I went for medical management. Also the longer you leave it, the greater the chance of infection, so I knew it was time for me to do something. I felt the need to 'be there' when the LO came out (TMI?) and I didn't want that to happen whilst I was asleep in theatre. However, one of my friends had a d+c for the exact opposite reason! They wanted it to be dealt with without having to see anything and for it all to be over quicker etc.

UNfortunately I had retained products (continued bleeding for weeks and then bled very heavily and passed some tissue) and eventually needed a d+c anyway. It was quick and pretty painless. The bleeding settled very quickly.

Despite everything...I wouldn't change what treatment I had. That might sound nutty, but it's because I went with what I felt was right for me. So whilst others' stories help, you really have to go with the method that feels right for you.

The info in the miscarriage bit is really good btw. My thoughts are with you for whatever path you choose.
xx

 

[jerseyshoregirl]

Thank you for your kind words and for telling me about your own experience.

I'm curious...why can't they do the D&C on you now? Why are they making you wait? I have been bleeding for a week and 1/2, brown blood though - but it seems to be getting heavier.

Yesterday, when I found out the news - I initially thought I would let it go natural...but after driving into work today, I realized I don't think I have it in me and that I would rather get the D&C.

I feel so emotionally drained and I haven't really cried all that much. Perhaps it's from trying to "be strong". I don't know.

I really do hope we are able to have one healthy child someday soon...
JM

 

[owo]

I had a natural mc but then i didn't find out that my LO had died until four weeks later when i started to bleed. By then the Sac was sitting ontop of my cervix and i was told that i would pass it in a few days which i did. It wasn't painful more like a dull ache, but some people are in a lot of pain.
I have never(touch wood) had to have any kind of surgery so wanted to go down the natural route first and would have only opted for a D&C if it hadn't worked. Fortunately a scan a week later showed that i had passed everything.
This decision really is up to you, either is a good option, only you can know what you can handle and what you can't.

 

[Visqueen]

Hi

So sorry for your loss i had a missed MC in April at 11weeks and had a D & C
2days after. For me it was the only option I just wanted it to be over when I knew what was happening as I found it to hard to wait and let it happen naturally. After the D & C I had a bit of pain straight after but tablets took that away and my cycle came back to normal 29 days after that. I think you need to do what feels right for you because I know what a difficult time your having. Just do what feels right and take care.

 

[gem]

Thank you for your kind words and for telling me about your own experience.

I'm curious...why can't they do the D&C on you now? Why are they making you wait? I have been bleeding for a week and 1/2, brown blood though - but it seems to be getting heavier.

Yesterday, when I found out the news - I initially thought I would let it go natural...but after driving into work today, I realized I don't think I have it in me and that I would rather get the D&C.

I feel so emotionally drained and I haven't really cried all that much. Perhaps it's from trying to "be strong". I don't know.

I really do hope we are able to have one healthy child someday soon...
JM

I have to wait 2 weeks because my cervix was too tightly closed and they didn't want to damage it by forcing it or trying again too soon. It's also not good to have another anaesthetic too soon. They didn't check my cervix before putting me under anaesthetic, if they had they could have given me a tablet to soften and open it . I've decided to have a medical management at the end of the week as I can't carry on like this for another 9 days.
I know what you mean about trying to be strong. I try not to get upset and cry because if I do I don't know if I'll stop. I suffered from bad depression years ago and don't want to go down that road again. For me I'm just trying to stay positive about the future.

I hope things will get easier for you soon. Love and x

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i m/c 3 weeks ago... i was given 2 options... m/c in hospital or have a d/c. i would say have a d/c is quick and over in minuites..
iv m/c 4 pregnancys all on my own and i wouldnt advise it to anyone because its emotioanlly physically and mentally painful.
last one was quick i was given a tablet 2 bring on a pree labour took 3 hours and it all fell away there and then.

 

[Loo]

Thank you for your kind words and for telling me about your own experience.

I'm curious...why can't they do the D&C on you now? Why are they making you wait? I have been bleeding for a week and 1/2, brown blood though - but it seems to be getting heavier.

Yesterday, when I found out the news - I initially thought I would let it go natural...but after driving into work today, I realized I don't think I have it in me and that I would rather get the D&C.

I feel so emotionally drained and I haven't really cried all that much. Perhaps it's from trying to "be strong". I don't know.

I really do hope we are able to have one healthy child someday soon...
JM

We go through the same process of grieving as anyone would from any sad loss. So shock is one of the first stages (hence why you might feel 'numb' and that you haven't cried very much). There is often anger (why me??), a deep yearning (why can't i have a baby?) and tears/sadness too.

We are all here for you if you need us.

x

 

[Shari22]

Hi Hun. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I had to have a medical abortion due to my baby son having abnormalities we didnt want to go ahead with it but had no other option we were told chances were zero. I personally think a d&C is better i was in and out the same day.
You do what u feel is best .

Goodluck and hugs to you. xx

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I chose to do it without the D&C, for my own reasons which I won't discuss here. Also, I was already in labor. Then in the end I ended up getting a D&C in the end to get the placenta out. However, looking back I probably didn't need it.

I'm sorry you would even be in this situation. I'm sorry for your loss.