Waiting on a bfp while she is ready to deliver

[DobbyForever]

My friend, I love her she is gorgeous inside and out, announced her pregnancy the day after I lost my last bean. She didn't know. Anyway, her newly fiancé just posted that they were off to the hospital 7 hours ago to have their baby girl. I am so jealous of what she has. Just wanted to vent.

 

[coolbabe843]

Its hard when people you know are having babies when you want one so bad! My sister thought she was pregnant this month but is nowhere ready for a baby but I got so angry at the thought she could be and not me!

 

[DobbyForever]

Hugs. I am glad I am not alone on this island. SO came home early Thursday because I broke down about her pregnancy unicorn pictures popping up on my newsfeed. Everyone in my life has babies before they are ready then do a subpar job raising them (assuming they don't get passed off to grandparents). I get it. Accidents happen and I know I fall in love at that first bfp, but I want a baby, too.

 

[Flueky88]

Sorry Dobby, I hope you get your rainbow baby soon.

 

[DobbyForever]

Flueky, you keep me sane. Hugs

 

[JLM73]

I hear ya loud n clear Dobby
My mother will never understand why at nearly 42, and with a 4yr old I am still wanting another. Welll, just because my marriage didn't work out, and Heaven knows I tried to make it work, I don't think that means my son should not be entitled to a sibling, nor that I shouldn't be able to have the 2nd child we always talked about when I got married.
Selfish- maybe, but I am a firm believer that just because life throws a curveball at you and knocks you down a new path, it doesn't mean you can't keep heading for your original goal.
Besides, as far as I know, I only get one go round on this big green and blue ball, and that being it, I have never wanted to live my life in a way that leaves me with regrets...and NOT trying for that desperately wanted child would definitely leave me with regrets.
Sorry- I vented too

 

[DobbyForever]

I don't think that is selfish at all, but I am selfish. Before SO, I was looking at donor sperm. Which according to every person I know made me a selfish b* sooooo grab a chair and vent away hugs.

No idea what the green/blue ball reference is though

 

[JLM73]

Lol you must be peeking in my brain
I am using a donor- thank goodness he is reliable, trustworthy, and patient...third try sigh
I was with my SO for 2 yrs and we got together specifically wanting to marry again and have children...2 yrs later he didn't want kids- I was so aggravated and crushed - it's like why are you wasting my valuable fertile time?!?! Lol
We still speak but only as friends
I just came to the realization that I simply am at an age where Mr Right may be too late for conceiving...I got lemons...and I'm juising the heck outta them hoping for lemon meringue pie (forget lemonade) lol

 

[DobbyForever]

Who is peeking into whose brain? "It's like why are you wasting my valuable fertile time?!?!" Literally what I said after each of my long term relationships fell apart! You girls are awesome

 

[TLK]

All of your posts sounds incredibly familiar. I told my mom today that period arrived and she said "well it looks like you were only meant to have 1". Ugh that made me soooo mad!

I swear every person I know is having their 2nd or 3rd baby. It's not easy to put a smile on your face and be happy for them all

 

[JLM73]

High fives all around
TLK - sorry...I swear they just don't realize how bad we want this and how much those comments hurt

 

[DobbyForever]

TLK, that is terrible! I would have flipped out!

My problem is more people know how badly I want to be a mom (I have five pets and am a teacher and am the baby shower queen), they just keep thinking they get to dictate when and with whom. But everyone else can do whatever and get a parade. I know in a twisted way it is a compliment.