Waiting on a chemical?

[Brandy_R]

Hello ladies. I just got my first ever BFP on Feb 6th. My DH and I were over the moon! I got my hcg checked 2/9 and it was 24, I went back 2/11 and it was 35. I got it checked a third time on 2/14 and it went down to a 42. I was told it was a chemical pregnancy and to come back Monday 2/16 to make sure they are going down. I still have no signs of cramps or spotting. Everything I read says people start pretty quick?

Any advice would be appreciated on this matter. I have no idea. I hadn't ever heard of it until I was told that Friday. At this point I just want to move on

 

[shellgirl]

Hi Brandy. I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I just had it happen to me. Got a BFP on 2/9. I continued to test throughout the week and although the test was darker on 2/10, it didn't get darker after that. I went in for blood work 2/12 & 2/14. I haven't received the 2/14 results yet, but the 2/12 were very low and I just knew it wouldn't end well, and sure enough started bleeding today.

Your post says yours were 24, 35, 42. So it seems they are climbing, but slowly? I don't want to worry you, but if they're climbing slowly rather than decreasing, that could be a sign of ectopic which you would want to find out right away. Has your doctor suggested an ultrasound at all?

 

[Brandy_R]

I'm sorry that must of been a typo. It went down to a 32 Friday from a 35. I go tomorrow to make sure they are still going down. I just wish I could get the ball rolling and not wait to start bleeding everyday and nothing is happening. I seriously just wish it would start already. From what I look up most chemical pregnancys start soon but apparently not mine

I'm sorry you're going through this too. It's sad and frustrating all at the same time. This is the first time I have ever been pregnant because I have PCOS. Was this your first baby also? Are you going to try again soon? We are going to try again right away I think. My emotions are pretty much back in order.

 

[Brandy_R]

Oh I'm sorry I didn't look at your picture. I see you have a beautiful little girl

 

[shellgirl]

I understand how you feel. I was telling my husband since the first beta that I just want it to be over and bleed already. I was relieved when it started today because I too just wanted to get on with it.

Yes, I have a beautiful little girl, Eleanor, who's 20 1/2 months. I actually had an early m/c at 5w4d a few months before conceiving her as well. That time I didn't have a heads up and just started bleeding, so it was already over before it had a chance to really sink in what was happening. I do think the waiting to bleed is the worst part because you know what's going to happen and you just want to get it over with. I'm so sorry you are still waiting and as weird as it sounds, I hope you do start bleeding right away because I know exactly how you feel.

I have heard that we are more fertile after a m/c and possibly ovulate earlier too, so hopefully we will both get our BFPs this coming cycle! Do you use OPKs and chart? Again, I'm so sorry this is happening to you too

 

[Brandy_R]

I used opks this cycle when we got our BFP. I think I'm going to start temping because people seem to know a lot about what's going on with their temps.

Thanks for the "red vibes" lol. I definitely need them! What you said is exactly true! The second they told me 24 I knew it was bad. I am asking them tomorrow when they call me with my test results if there's anything they can give me to start the process. I hate waiting to lose my baby and it creeps me out knowing it's just sitting in there.

I was on femara and did te ovidrel shot also. Honestly everything up to the hcg test was almost too perfect. I did have really bad cramps in the beginning that I think now might have been a sign. I'm just soooo scared that we either won't get pregnant forever or it will happen again if we do. What were your numbers? Thanks for talking with me. Makes me not feel so alone.

 

[shellgirl]

I know, it's really awful knowing it's in there and just waiting for it to come out There are things they can give you, but I think it's much better for it to pass naturally if it can. I think if they give you medications, you might have to wait a cycle to try again and I know you mentioned you also wanted to try right away. How long have you been ttc?

 

[Brandy_R]

Oh yeah if I have to wait then I'll just try for naturally unless it takes so long that it's quicker to just wait a cycle. Hard part is most things I read people start pretty quick. I'm going on a week and nothing. I'm hoping my hcg is going down. I got another blood test done to see if it was today but they didn't call me so I guess I'll find out tomorrow.

We've been not preventing for 5 years. I don't ovulate on my own so after we bought our house we decided it's time to really try and get some help. My first cycle on femara was a bust and then this cycle is where we are right now. Yhis whole ttc thing is just a waiting game.

Are you ttc right after? I think we are. I feel it's worth a shot. Why not right? Hehe

 

[shellgirl]

Yeah, we're going to try right away. Originally if I wasn't pregnant this cycle, I wanted to NTNP for the next 2 because I didn't really want to have a baby during the holidays, but after you've been pregnant and had it ripped away, you just want it back right away. This is our 4th cycle. I came off the Mirena in November and I'm honestly thinking it messed with my body and that's maybe why this pregnancy didn't take.

I don't know what my 2nd number was, I'm expecting to get it at some point today, but my first one was a measly 12 at 14dpo I'm surprised the lines were still as dark as they were and I even still got a positive on a digital the day that I got the 12.

Have you taken more tests to see if they're lighter or gone yet? You must be on the East Coast if your doctor office is already closed. Ugh, you're right about the whole waiting thing with ttc. It's some crap!!!

 

[shellgirl]

Pics of my tests. The second one got darker, but then they got lighter or stayed the same.

 

[Brandy_R]

I live in Indiana. My fertility place closes at noon on Monday and Fridays.

Soooo they are now thinking its an ectopic. My number went to a 42 today. I don't know what to think. I'm getting my 6th draw wed to double check if it's not going down still and if not I'm asking for an U/S. They will give me a shot to absorb it I guess and then we will have to wait 3 months to try again. At this point im now scared to death to lose my tube. She said if I have any bad pain to go to the ER right away. But also not too worry too much because my hcg is still pretty low.

At this point I don't think it could get much worse. What a disaster

 

[shellgirl]

Oh no Brandy!!! That's so scary! That's what I was afraid of happening to me. If I were you, I would just say I have abdominal pain so that they have to do an ultrasound right away. I think it's BS that they make you wait until you have pain, that's when you're most at risk of a rupture. Just because your HCG is still low doesn't mean it's safe, it's still climbing which means it's growing. I hope you're able to get in for an U/S right away. The sooner they discover what the issue is the better.

I used to live in Chicago, not far from Indiana.

 

[Brandy_R]

Do you think I should go to the hospital and just tell them I think I have a tubel? And that I want an U/S? I will do the shot in 2 sec if it means it will save my tube. I am sooooo scared and crying right now. I don't know what to do. I never thought anything like this would happen when we tried for a baby.

 

[shellgirl]

Honestly Brandy, that's 100% what I would do. I wouldn't want to take the chance. If you don't, no harm done, but if you do, it could prevent any unrepairable damage. I'm so very, very sorry. I know how scared you must be. Is your husband able to go with you? If there's anything I can do to help, let me know. I'm happy to send you my phone number in a personal message if you just want someone to talk to about it.

 

[jlw617]

I know it's different but I had a missed miscarriage I was 8 weeks when I found out the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks all together it took my body about a month to realize what was going on before I finally began to pass the baby, placenta...sometimes it just takes a while for your body to recognize it waiting is very difficult

 

[jlw617]

Sorry, didn't see the update until now, I also highly recommended going in, you shouldn't wait and I can't believe they'd advise you to!

 

[Brandy_R]

I would honestly love that shellgirl. I talked to my sister and law and decided to call my drs office tomorrow and demand an U/S. I am soooo tore up that I don't even know what to feel it even think I am just so scared right now

 

[shellgirl]

I sent you a message. It's going to be okay!