what do i do now?

[princessellie]

my OH has just moved out, i dont have a clue what im meant to do now, the only benefits i get atm are ctc (which have randomly been stopped the past 2 weeks) and child benefit, how am i gna survive, i have no other income

im so scared but know this is for the best

x

 

[Laura2919]

Wow! Was you expecting this?? Im very sorry this has happened to you hun!
I dont know much about it as I work and I pay all my bills myself even when I was in a relationship with their dad!
Maybe the best bet is to contact Job Centre and your local council because as far as rent is concerened you will get housing benefit if you rent and for money you can apply for income support.

Hope your ok.. Did you know he was leaving??

 

[princessellie]

thanks hun, yeh weve not been happy for a long long time, basically stayed together for leyla and this new baby, even before i got preg this time we were thinking of splitting up, we got drunk one night and slept together one night in about 6 months and i fell preg lol, so thats kept us together a bit longer, but really were just not happy at all so decided to call it a day, its more my decision than his, im just shitting it cos i dont know how to be a single mammy

x

 

[Laura2919]

Oh hun Im sorry! I was like you. It was my decision to split but whoevers decision it is its still super hard.
Your a bit like me.. Me and the twins dad knew it was over for ages before they came but we hung on. He loved me, I know he did but I didnt love him! I kept him there just because it was easier that way!
I was like that though, not sure what being single was like and your scared of the unknown but if you look there is a post a bit further down about enjoying the kids and all that they do being on your own and its true. its actually nice and I intend to stay single for a while before moving on to someone else.

Its hard espcially when you have been together so long. Its not easy but we are all here if you need to chat or rant or if your upset!! We all have been there but it does get easier I promise.. I havent shed a tear in weeks now. I am so happy I did what I did xx

 

[princessellie]

thank you sweetheart, it means a lot

x

 

[Laura2919]

Your welcome. Like I have said we have all been there and its the most gruelling and emotional time ever but it does get better. I remember coming here and telling the girls my problem with the twins dad and they were like it gets easier and I was thinking how, how does this get easier but they were right it really does.
You will move on one day and meet someone who is perfect for you! This just wasnt your time hun!

 

[frankyzw]

You'll be fine. Take a look around and see all the single mummies who have made it through the difficult times. If they can, you too can. Time is a healer, take each day as it comes. Don't be afraid to seek help from friends and family until you're on your feet. Stay strong

 

[wantababybump]

Hugs hunnie you can do it You are a strong woman, I know you will be a great single mum xx

 

[princessellie]

thanks all of you, i think im gna stay here until my lease is up to give me time to get everything packed up and ready then i'll be moving to turkey as thats where my mam and dad live so where i'll get the most help with the babies, thanks for all the messages

x

 

[purpledahlia]

Now your FB status makes sense!!

Firstly, can you get yourself down to CAB tomorrow morning? google where your closest office is, And first thing monday you need to go to your council's office and apply for housing benefit and council tax benefit. When is your lease up? Also you need to call the Jobcentre and make an appointment get signed onto Income support. Unfortunately thats all you can get, Income support, Child benefit and Child tax credits. But then you'll get help with rent and council tax too.

I remembe a while ago you posted and were gonna see how things go, but the main thing is, you both gave it another good shot, for the sake of the babies, and at least downt he line you can tell them you both honestly tried But its better for them to have two happy parents than two unhappy parents! together or not, happiness is better. You'll get over him eventually and him you and im sure you will both remain friends!