What do you want to do with your life.

[jaytee146]

since i've been a little girl i've always wanted to be a nurse. i worked my way through and when i finally got my shot after being on a waiting list for years. i fell pregnant and ended up withdrawing. i never went back and now i'm working a job that i'm pretty good at but i find my self wanting more. the current job i am at has made me question what i want to do in life. in order for me to get back on the waiting list for nursing school i have to retest and bring my average up by a point. i've gone as far as registering for the test and never showing up because i made myself believe i would never do well. my birthday is this sunday and besides knowing i have a passion to help people i don't know what i want to do with my life. now that i have a daughter i realize that being a nurse i'd work long hours and that would take away from me being with my lo. i guess i'm not sure what i'd like to do with my life. is that wrong? am i the only one who has no idea what i wanna do with my life?

 

[Jade--x]

Definitely not wrong.

Before falling pregnant with my LO I was studying forensic science I had applied for a student exchange and my long term lifetime goals were to work for the FBI in America as a Criminal Profiler and/or Crime Scene Officer - I was never ever planning children in my life..Ever. I was really career based that was what I wanted no compromise. Obviously with my getting pregnant and being really ill I had to dropout of doing it, and was planning on going back when LO was born but childcare got in the way. Obviously going to America with a child and no family or friends for support was off the cards straight away so I have had to change my dreams and what I wanted for my life in a huge way.

I now want to go on to be a midwife and luckily my forensics was A level science based and can be used to get me into Midwifery, but I also want to train to be a Paediatric nurse and I want to work on NICU, so I'm going to train for both (my nursing initially and then I can do an 18 month shortened Midwifery added on to the end) and then just see what happens

I'm not sure about in America but I know the NHS in the UK are really good about people with children helping with shifts and things as quite a few of my friends work for them, so I'm not so worried about that. Plus with the amount of time it's going to take me to be fully trained and registered with the NMC my children will be much older so I won't really have missed anything

I say if you want it go for it, it's going take quite a few years of studying it's not like you're just walking into all the nursing hours and shifts while LO's so little. Or you could always do what I've had to do and wait until your LO starts school, then you'll both be at school at the same time you won't feel you're missing so much x

 

[fairydust87]

Right now for me my focus is on my boy. When hes in school I might go back to college and do social care but thats not for years yet. Im just taking one day as it comes x

 

[Lemonflower]

^^^ what fairy dust87 said. Word for word though I may also consider teaching assisting also.

 

[twickywabbit]

I am almost finished to be a certified nursing assistant, but I also write for a celebrity news site. I plan on going back to college to finish my education and get my English degree and I hope to write professionally and move to the west coast.


I love my family, but I need to get out of here. The only reason I stayed was because I was in love and married my husband. Now that he left, there is nothing left for me and I want a better life for me and my daughter. We deserve it.

 

[Danie1stbaby]

hi hun,I feel and felt the way that you do.My best advice,because I am learning everyday.Do not feel bad about reaching goals because you are a mother now.Only you can live your life.I am not saying forget about your lo,your lo
s well being is based on your choices.Your lo can be your world.and you can reach your goals at the same time.Best way to teach your lo is by leading by example,nothing like saying 'Go to college,I did" You get what I mean? You do not have to give up on your happiness.You can build a life with your lo's and find who you are again.You want to be a nurse,then go for it.It is hard when you have no children and it will be harder with children.It will be worth it in the end~ These may seem like just words,but honey I am living through exactly what you stated.People give me the side eye or give their opinions,if I step out on margarita night lol At the end of the day I am a great mother,she loves me,I am educated and want the best for us.Whilst searching for exactly what I want to do with my life.I have so many goals I have given up on and now I am working on obtaining those goals.Go for it and do what makes you happy,you deserve it

 

[Dream.dream]

I'm 6 months from being a paralegal I wanted to be a lawyer before I had my son but I've downgraded a little so I can spend more time at home. I'm lucky to be able to go to school and only have to work part time