What should I do?

[junglegym85]

Ok, so this is quite a complex story so bare with me if I go off on a tangent.

My ex and I separated about 8 months ago and decided that, because I'm self employed, we'd split custody 50/50. I have our son one week, she has him the next.

Now that he's turned 2 though we're having to consider nursery, etc. and because of the distance between us (100 miles currently, I'm moving after Christmas so the distance will be halved) he's going to have to live with one of us full time.

When we originally discussed this a few months ago, I reluctantly agreed to letting her have him full time and I had him stay with me at weekends and took him out once or twice during the week after/before nursery.

Now, 3 months later, she's suddenly told me that if I don't move back to where she lives then she wont let me see him and to be honest I'm devastated at the idea.

I've spoken with a few friends (Also parents) and they've all suggested I think about applying for primary custody and I wont lie, I'm seriously considering it.

She loves him to bits, don't get me wrong, she's just not very maternal and she would much rather go out on the piss with her friends than stay at home playing with our son.

I guess I just need some advice on what you think the next step could/should be.

Thanks in advance

 

[Ceejay123]

I understand why shared custody wouldn't work, which is a real shame. If she denies you access I'd go for court. If you have reason to believe you'd be a better primary carer, sure .. Apply for it. But I'd try not to do this , only as a last resort if its going to cause upset for your child . You don't want a relationship where you can't speak to your sons mother, if you know what I mean?

I can tell you love your son to peices, she has no right to Stop you seeing him. Pease go get advice from a solicitor. X

 

[junglegym85]

If you have reason to believe you'd be a better primary carer, sure .. Apply for it. But I'd try not to do this , only as a last resort if its going to cause upset for your child .

I don't think she's a bad parent, not at all, but I do think he'd be better off with me based on what her family have told me and how she was when we were together.