What was i thinking?????????

[lou_w34]

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[louise85]

Don't feel like that hun, we all have bad days! I have a 4 year old whos dad has hardly nothing to do with her and shes happy!! And loved!! Thats the main thing!!

I'm now pg again and thinking am I doin the right thing but you know what its the dads that are missing out, she won't hate you for anything your the one thats been there and is going to be there.

According to my FOB this baby's gonna have a shit life they can be so hurtful and make you doubt yourself so much but women are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for!!

Once baby Scarlett's here all your doubts will be gone!!

 

[lou_w34]

I hope so, its not that i doubt my decision to have her... its more me doubting myself to be good enough for her! I know though that as soon as i hold her, every fear will have been worth it

 

[fuffyburra]

The best mummy I know (apart from my own of course lol) is a single mum, and she was 18 when she fell pregnant, and 19 when she had her little girl. She's 10 now and the two of them have the closest bond I've ever seen between mother and child and they tell each other everything. The mum says being single was actually great in a way because she didn;t have to compromise on parenting techniques or anything
Best of luck, you'll do great xx

 

[teal]

I feel that way too. I worry about not having a father figure for my son. Like you I would already do anything for him - I just worry about the situation xx

 

[lou_w34]

Sucks doesnt it I know as long as children have at least one good parent, everything should be ok, but i do still worry at times...

 

[tinkabells]

Oh i get like this sometimes, but you will meet someone, but she will love you and we all make up for being the mummy and the daddy xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

All these babies need is LOVE, it doesnt matter where it comes from, and coming from us IS enough, we also will meet new people, and we will enjoy it. Dont worry, scarlett will love you for being her mummy no matter what, And she will learn about guys and understand when shes older. i cant wait to have that close bond with Ava and share everything with her, x

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah i grew up without a dad, and in some ways i prefered it,cos i dunno if i would be as close to my mum as i am now if i had my dad around, i cant really answer that but i got my stepdad now and were close, so dont worry about it, your be fine love xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Heehee thanks everyone!

I do look forward to that bond aswell, as i hope since it will be just the two of us, we'll be close! Then again, im sure when their teenage hormones hit, they will all want us to bugger off lol

 

[sellis13]

I broke up with my EX when I was about 1 month preggo...and at 3 months preggo, he completely quit answering my phone calls, and said I was harrassing him when I showed up to talk to him. So, needless to say, I went through my entire pregnancy alone....My Baby, Aiden, is now 4 months old, and everything is just fine!! He is the happiest baby I have ever seen, and a total momma's-boy!! I'll tell you though, the nights at first are completely EXAUSTING, but you'll get through it! Once you get kindof a routine set, everything is muuuch easier.

Dont worry, your baby could NEVER HATE YOU!!! I felt the same way, but now I see the way his eyes light up when I walk into the room, and you can see in his eyes that you are his entire world. Hang in there chick!

 

[suzanne108]

Hey Lou.....you CAN do it silly, don't be worrying about that. Being a mother will more than likely come naturally to you, its a womans instinct. Don't get me wrong, I think it'll be bloody scary for the first few days/weeks when we get home from hospital with a tiny baby and its like "ARGH what do we do now?!" but we'll learn to get to know our LOs and everything will be fine!

xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Ahhhh i know everyones right!!
Its just so scary the closer her due date gets!!! heehee

 

[Welshcob]

As Scarletts due date is getting closer all i keep thinking is... how the hell am i going to do this alone?? have i completley lost my marbles? i do not no how to take care of a baby!!

Dont get me wrong, i love her so much already, i know that i would die for her.

I just dont want her to grow up hating me because i made the wrong decisions.

I dont care that im single, i just feel like ive failed her that she doesnt have a proper dad figure. Who knows fob may do a complete u-turn and be amazing, but all i have to go on is right here and now, and so far its looking likely that any father figure she has will be from a different man. But what if i never meet anyone?? ever again??

Anyone else have days like this?? Im trying to write my birth plan for the midwife in a couple of hours, but i can concentrate!! Its like doing homework all over again lol

Yes Hon! I feel the same often! Scary as hell. But Lou - you can do it!!! We all can. I feel the same as you, I cry when I think that my baby will have no dad, no grandparents, not have its cousins or aunts and uncles in New Zealand. I think, that the only people that it has that love it now are me and my sister and her husband. Its very hard. I am sure though, that when they arrive they will have all the love they need. We really don't need bad fathers there. I know that - so do you in your heart. A good father or none at all! Thats what they deserve!