What was I thinking?

[Moulder86]

Ok I feel so horrible saying this but I really don't know what I was thinking when I thought I could do this whole single parent thing on my own! He's driving me mad, he won't stop whining, nearly every time I put him down or walk out the room he starts screaming or crying and I can't handle that.

I feel so horrible saying it and such a terrible mother, I just can't handle all this, the lack of sleep the screaming, crying, attention seeking ARGH I just want to scream myself.

Please don't think badly of me I'm just in a right pickle and don't know what to do. I love my lil boy to pieces he is my world but I just feel myself snapping at him when he won't stop and I don't want to do that. My dad always had a short temper with us and I never wanted to be like that but I can't stop myself.

My family and a couple close friends try and help but it just doesn't help because they don't see how he is when we're home on our own.

I just needed to vent sorry.

xx

 

[angels330]

*hug* im sorry to hear you're having a rough time. i do know how you feel, its hard especially if lo's are crying alt, nobody would think badly of you as im sure we all go through the same! dont really have any advice just wanted to say it will get better and will be worth it xx

 

[Serene123]

I feel the same alot of the time.. It's not that I don't love her but when she is being a whingey, moody, cry baby about nothing all day and all night I can't help but feel like I can't do it either. But we CAN do it! They will not be babies forever xx

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Sorry you're having a rough time. It'll get better hun. Like Toria said, They're not babies forever. So it will get better.

 

[leeanne]

Being single and having kids is tough work. Had a taste of it for 5 months years ago.

But, will say that babies do sense when a parent is stressed and can react to that as well.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Being single and having kids is tough work. Had a taste of it for 5 months years ago.

But, will say that babies do sense when a parent is stressed and can react to that as well.

This is true. If I'm really frustrated with Renah I just let her cry for a minute to compose myself and go back and pretend I'm in a good mood and really happy and she stops being so difficult

 

[Moulder86]

Thanks girls, I just hate myself for feeling like I made the wrong decision but I know that I wouldn't be without my lil man.

x

 

[princess_bump]

oh honey i have been thinking of you all day, i'm sooooooooo sorry i can't so more, please honey you no where i am. i think you're doing wonderfully stace, you really are. it must be so hard, i no you can do this honey, we all have our off days, and so do they am here sweetie x x x

 

[nikky0907]

Being single and having kids is tough work. Had a taste of it for 5 months years ago.

But, will say that babies do sense when a parent is stressed and can react to that as well.

This is true. If I'm really frustrated with Renah I just let her cry for a minute to compose myself and go back and pretend I'm in a good mood and really happy and she stops being so difficult

I agree.
I don't have a temper on me but if I get stressed and my head is banging from the lack of sleep while she is whinging I just take a moment to relax and take a few deep breaths and the 'good mood' rubs off on her.

 

[Vickie]

I'm not a single mother and there are still days I feel like this!! Completely normal I think. If you need to take a break, go take a quick shower or something to help you relax (just make sure LO's in a safe place first of course ) Nothing wrong with getting away from it for a few minutes to compose yourself

 

[LucyS]

I feel the same sometimes too, although I am lucky that my parents do help me out a lot as I am still living at home.

Have you got friends with young ones?

 

[Moulder86]

When I was living at home my parents and my sister helped me out to no end but I moved into my own place in December and it's half hour away from them. Since then I've just found it really hard to do it on my own. I have a two close friends with children Princess_bump being one of them. And they help when and where they can, they have both been a very big support.

At the moment I've put him down for a nap but he's currently screaming his lil heart out and I feel really bad that I've left him. He's screaming can sound quite distressed at times but theres nothing wrong with him (I do go up and check on him).

Thank you again girls

xx

 

[LucyS]

No probs I'm always here if you wanna chat hun, Im not too far from you either, it is hard x

 

[princess_bump]

always thinking of you chicken x