When do you think you become a LTTTCer and DH's question

[LeahLou]

Hey ladies!

I was wondering when ya'll consider someone a LTTTC'er. We've been trying since February 2013 and have had several MC's. I'm at that point in our journey that being in the TTC forums is frustrating because of posts like "OMG we've been trying for 4 months and still no bfp!! Whats wrong with me?!" or the "I'm finally pregnant after 6 months!" etc..
It's just painful. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them, but sad its not me.

Also, my DH thinks we might be having a hard time because I had my first child with my high school boyfriend and my DNA bonded with him not my husband.
That honestly kind of hurt that he really thinks that is the reason. Is there any proof behind that?? Could that really be making it hard for us to have our own?? People have babies with multiple partners all the time, so I don't see why that would be a problem.

 

[cheetahspotss]

Hey ladies!

I was wondering when ya'll consider someone a LTTTC'er. We've been trying since February 2013 and have had several MC's. I'm at that point in our journey that being in the TTC forums is frustrating because of posts like "OMG we've been trying for 4 months and still no bfp!! Whats wrong with me?!" or the "I'm finally pregnant after 6 months!" etc..
It's just painful. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them, but sad its not me.

Also, my DH thinks we might be having a hard time because I had my first child with my high school boyfriend and my DNA bonded with him not my husband.
That honestly kind of hurt that he really thinks that is the reason. Is there any proof behind that?? Could that really be making it hard for us to have our own?? People have babies with multiple partners all the time, so I don't see why that would be a problem.

Hi LeahLou,


I would say a LTTTC'er would be anyone who hasn't conceived after a year of trying. After my last AF, I was the same as you. It was very fustrating to be in the TTC forums. Even though I didn't post alot in those forums, I still would go to the TTC forums to see if my symptoms matched any other TTC'ers in their threads. So I moved over here and I will stay here until I get my BFP! The ladies in these forums are very helpful, knowledgeable, comforting, and extremely understanding.

Now, about the DNA thing. I've never heard of your DNA 'not' bonding with someone elses. You should probably talk to your doc or OBGYN about it, just to be sure. But i'm pretty sure that it's not the problem. I think your DH is wrong here. If your body is healthy for a baby, there's no reason why your body can't carry a baby. If you carried a baby once, you certainly can again. Yes, people have babies with different people all the time. So it's not DNA. He's probably just stressed that it's not happening just yet and he's looking for something to blame it on. But it's not right to blame you in a way. That is hurtful. Has he done a sperm analysis? Make sure he isn't the problem because he very well could be. I would get tests done for your DH and for yourself just to be sure there's nothing wrong.

 

[waitingongod1]

You are more than welcome here. I'm pretty new myself. I've been trying for over 2 years and I understand the struggle! I think getting some tests done would be a great start!

 

[Myshelsong]

Your husband is 100% wrong. Our bodies do you not work like that. Never have never will, a healthy sperm is a healthy sperm, our eggs couldn't care less about the persons DNA sequence. however that being said there are some men who do not produce any sperm or have DNA issues with their sperm which causes infertility.

At this point if you have been trying over a year consistently with no luck you would be a long term trying to conceive, and should book an appointment with the doctor to make sure you are ovulating and get his sperm tested. There could be many factors with multiple miscarriages, his dna included.
Good luck and baby dust to all

 

[cheetahspotss]

Your husband is 100% wrong. Our bodies do you not work like that. Never have never will, a healthy sperm is a healthy sperm, our eggs couldn't care less about the persons DNA sequence. however that being said there are some men who do not produce any sperm or have DNA issues with their sperm which causes infertility.

At this point if you have been trying over a year consistently with no luck you would be a long term trying to conceive, and should book an appointment with the doctor to make sure you are ovulating and get his sperm tested. There could be many factors with multiple miscarriages, his dna included.
Good luck and baby dust to all

Very well said, you got down to the point. I knew DNA didn't matter in that way with the egg.

 

[LeahLou]

Thank you so much ladies!

I did a huge amount of blood work to screen for anything with me. Everything came back normal. I do ovulate "late" (Cd 17-18) but that just means timing BD differently. My doc said especially since I already have my daughter, it's unlikely it's me. Other than my thyroid has been acting up so that could be contributing.

DH is wary of getting tested. I think he's nervous they'll find something. He does need to loose weight and eat better but he's working on it.

Thanks for welcoming me here!

 

[cheetahspotss]

I agree with your doc, it's unlikely you. However, have you had an HSG done just to be sure that your tubal health is good? Or ultrasounds to see if everything looks okay? I don't think blood tests can detect that type of stuff. I'm just bringing that up just so you know about those tests (you probably already know about them both), i'm not intending that there's anything wrong with you at all. I would honestly convince your DH to do tests. He needs to. Otherwise you'll never really know what's wrong. Keep me posted on your journey because I would love to know what the outcome is, hopefully your BFP! But yeah, DH needs tests done!


Of course you're welcomed!

 

[LeahLou]

I did have several ultrasounds done and everything is great. I kinda wish they had found something I could fix though. Maybe I can convince DH to do one of those at home fertility things. That might warm him up to it!

 

[Ummi2boyz]

I felt I was Lttc after 15 months and first miscarriage, but only came over here and started my lttc journal after my third loss. And 2 years 1/2 of trying #3.

I would to mention something to you as you have had a previous full term (am assuming full term) healthy pregnacy with your dd. And then followed by recurrent pregnancy loss. First of all, have you been tested for your losses?
When I got tested for recurrent miscarriage, they did not find anything at all. The doctor told me that because I've had my children with the same partner, it is unlikely that my body reacts to his sperm/dna. However, she explained to me that if it had been a different partner, she'd have tested both of us to check if my body was not producing some sort of immune reaction to his cells/dna.
Because there was no known cause for my miscarriages, the plan would be to leave it as it is amd just try again. After a year of trying again unsuccesfully, I went private. The new doctor agreed to have me on some fertility treatment (did not really work, I had a chemical), and despite no evidence in my blood tests, she put me on progesterone after ovulation until 14 dpo plus baby aspirin and lovenox shots (and continue the progesterone) if I get a bfp.
So far, thank God it is working. I don't know for the future though, but this the furthest i have ever been since my first mc. And I still don't know why after 2 healthy pregnancies and both times getting pg naturally despite my pcos my body was not able to carry a baby on its own past 6 weeks.

Ask for all the tests you can hun. Fertility tests and miscarriage tests too. Encourage your dh to do his part too.

Hope you get your bfp very soon. xx

 

[Eshnick]

I had a difficult time convincing my DBF to get an SA done. The first thing he agreed to was to do it at home and have me take it in to the clinic. Eventually he actually agreed to go and give his sample at the office (that was once he realized time is of the essence with SAs). I hope that your DH will agree to the at home test at the very least.

 

[Sis4Us]

I know u said u have had all test and everything is Norm but I notice u have Thyriod issues I do also I'm Hypo take Armour every day!!
A lot of times w Thyriod issues w have low P I have to take P every cycle and was taking 600mg w my last BFP but still had a MC at 5wks!!
I also take VITEX every day it has helped even out my temps and mood!!

Ive had 3 consecutive losses but the last one we got w no help at all so we went for more testing for Blood disorders for me cuz after my 2nd MC I found out I have MTHFR and Chromosone test for DH and Me!

I will say that my DH has a Varicocele so he has issues w his sperm and my Dr think that's our main issue !!
Try to convince him to get a SA it will lay everything on the table if he has a issue Fertility Blend has done wonders for my DH sperm so there r things u can do at home!!
We got a BFP after a Vaca in Vegas and w us both taking our Supps After many failed IUIs sadly it ended to soin but its nice to know it can happen !!

GL

 

[lisap2008]

Chromosomal abnormalities are the most cause of miscarriages , and low progesterone can cause recurrent miscarriages and is easily corrected with progesterone supplements . also some women have high NK cells that attack a developing embryo causing recurrent miscarriages, this can also be treated with meds that lower NK cells, it could be a number of things causing your miscarriages so I recommend getting some testing done.