Where do we fit in? (intro)

[LexxiePaige]

Hello all,
Ive lurked on the other boards here for awhile now, and even posted a (very) few times. I love all of the info and support this site provides, but at the same time, I have been very hesitant to really get into posting and sharing here, because my (our) situation is so different from any Ive seen. As excited as I was to see this board, I still dont quite fit in, I am afraid. But, here goes..
I am 26 years old and expecting my first child in August. I have a wonderful girlfriend and weve been together for just over 6 years. My girlfriend and I also have a boyfriend, who is the father of our baby. We've been with him for just over 2 years. He doesnt live with us, but is very involved and supportive. So, our child has 2 mommies AND a daddy. I should also mention that this pregnancy was a suprise all together and not planned at all.
I've spent countless hours searching the internet, but I just cant come up with a similar situation, though that didnt really come as a surprise, I suppose.
I guess the point of this post is mostly to say hello and introduce myself, though if anyone has any info or sites that could be helpful, feel free to point me in the right direction!

 

[Carrie&Char]

Hi ya, all welcome LexxiePaige x

 

[LillyLee]

x

 

[LunaBean]

I dont know any sites,but welcome!

 

[Lululu]

Hi Lexxie,
Our boys have two mummies and a daddy too. Neither my wife nor I are having a relationship with the boys dad so it's not exactly the same, but from the kids point of view I imagine it's similar -after all, they don't really "get" that we have sex (they are 1and3)
I'm presuming for your relationship to be going so swimmingly you must all be great communicators. That will be a very useful skill as a parent.
Congratulations on your pregnancy and to answer your original question, I reckon you fit in right here! I'd love to see more posts and hear more about your parenting journey
Lulu

 

[SarahBear]

Hey, this site has information about polyamorous families: https://www.polyfamilies.com/index.html

It also has an IRC chat but I'm not sure how well it works. A quick google search revealed that there isn't much as far as forums goes to provide support to polyamorous parents, but just looking for polyamory support in general, there's lots of stuff. Here are a few examples:

https://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Am-Polyamorous/638/forum
https://www.polyamorychat.com/
https://www.polyamory.org/SF/mail-lists.html
https://polychatroom.com/
https://www.polyamory.org/

Good luck!

 

[laurac1988]

Welcome Lexxie xx

 

[LexxiePaige]

Thank you all for your acceptance and welcome! I was expecting at least a few to be less than welcoming honestly. I was really surprised and excited to see so many welcomes and even a few who can relate!
Also, thank you SarahBear for all the links! I am going to start checking those out as soon as Im finished here!
Lulu - On communication - The three of us have come a LONG way in that department over the course of the last few years. We've definitally had our ups and downs, which is true for any relationship - and even more true with a relationship of three! The reason that bf doesn't live with us was one of our biggest hurdles in communication. Originally, he did live with us - and quite honestly, gf and I drove the poor man crazy. Gf and I are very open, loving (think those mushy, doe eyed couples who annoy everyone else) and in bf's words "boisterous" (What he means to say is we are both LOUD!) whereas bf is very private, reserved, and quiet for the most part. We just cant live together, though we all love each other very much. It took a lot of communication and mutual understanding on all parts to make it work when he moved out, but I have to say, we are all closer because of it. I can only hope that those communication skills will serve us well in parenthood! Somehow though, I have the sneaking suspicion that parenthood is going to be our biggest test in communication yet!
Well, I am off to check out those links! I hope everyone is well. Sorry it took so long for me to respond, it's been hectic here for the last few weeks and I havent had much internet access (Darn internet company! Who knew they would take offense to pregnant, scatter brained me losing the bill and forgetting to pay on time! Lol!)

 

[MommaAlexis]

I have a different situation too, was in a opposite sex relationship, OH left me at nine weeks and I now have a girlfriend (who is adorable as heck about my pregnancy) . Not really similar but there's something for everyone here! Welcome darling!