Who do you tell your name ideas to

[LoveCakes]

We tell our parents names we're considering but that's pretty much it. I don't even care if they don't like them it's just good to have someone point out obvious things like rhyming, spelling or awful celebrities with the same choices.

In general I don't say to anyone else or suggest I few we like but aren't set on. My friend said she loved the name Jay at her baby shower and I stupidly blurted out 'what, like the alphabet' guess what she named him...

 

[Em260]

I've learned the hard way it's best not to tell to many people. People love to give negative comments before the baby is born but if they hear the baby's name after it's actually born and named, they are less likely to say anything. We told my inlaws and they had something negative to say about all the names we like

 

[mum22ttc#3]

I only tell people that ask really. It doesn't bother me if anyone has anything negative to say, I've found you really can't please everyone so I just shrug the comments off.

 

[Buffyx]

I don't discuss with anyone except my husband.

As for discussing with women who are pregnant, I never say if I hate the name, in case they are wanting to use it!

 

[Kiwiberry]

Honestly, only my OH.

 

[AngelofTroy]

Pretty much only my OH. This time I told my friend a few possible names v early on when we didn't know what we were having, and it turns out we're probably using the name she liked best and she's mentioned it since. I haven't let on that it's now a strong contender but I'm pleased she likes it.

 

[minties]

Only all of you! I told my OH a name idea today and he didn't even really listen.

 

[Lief]

My husband and our 3 year old son, oh and I mentioned some names on here. We only told family and friends after we had decided on the name.

 

[maria43]

Only my DH. If we get a few names we really like we might talk about them with parents but honestly we'll probably just keep it to ourselves. We got some horrible comments on our sons names so it's not worth the hassle!

 

[hanni]

My best friend. I can trust her to tell me if it's awful or not. I make most baby related decisions with her and then run them by my OH as he's not as fussed 😂

 

[kerrymom]

For my two girls I told a lot of people the names we liked and were considering. I swore this time around I would keep my mouth shut. I agree that people feel like it's ok to give negative opinions before the baby arrives, but after they are more likely to keep their mouths shut.

My mother was so not happy with the name we chose for our second daughter. She preferred one of the other options and was just plain huffy about it. This time around I told her I was not telling her anything, and she tried to justify to me why she was upset last time, which was a ridiculous story.

My advice is to try to think of all pitfalls with the names you like (dumb nicknames, bad flow with your last name, unfortunate initials, bad name associations etc) and then narrow down your list, and don't tell anyone.