Why do men lack common sense?

[Ziggy2]

So my OH has LO who is 15 months 2 and a half days a week, whilst I am at work. So today I come home from work at lunchtime, he answers the door for me but leaves LO in the garden playing (she is not walking yet but can crawl pretty fast) in the garden there are all sorts of harzards, there is a big brick wall which she could easily topple over and some steps that lead down to the garage - so I come in and say what is he doing leaving LO in the garden why didn't he just pick her up and bring her with him the answer the door? He was like shes fine I can see her! Then I go upstairs to get changed and he stays with LO in the garden but again I come downstairs and he has wondered off into the garage. I explained to him that she is so fast she could topple over the wall or fall down the stairs before he has time to get to her, he agrees he will be more careful, but I don't know how he could be so stupid and risk LO getting hurt, am I being overprotective or not? What would u do?

 

[Lightworker]

I hate to say this, it pains me so much, but my DH is the same. He doesn't see the same dangers I do. I don't know if its a male thing, as in hard wired into their genetics, or its just certain types of men.

My DH is so laid back, sometimes I have this bad feeling I will come home and there will have been a fatality, and I hate it. Nothing bad's ever happened and I don't know sometimes if he is just pretending to not be as serious as me just to wind me up.

 

[k8y]

Ah my hubby is the same. I get soooooo cross with him. We took the dog for walk yesterday and we have one of those ball chucker things, its like a long stick thing that you use to throw the ball further.. any way he uses it to throw the ball (with force) and as he brings it back, he smacks our little boy right in the face with it ! He really is a disaster ! He doesnt see these things happening, I mean I know it was just an accident but its the second time hes done it !!!! They have no hazard perception AT ALL so frustrating !!!!

 

[lauren10]

i think next time, just sneak down to the garden and bring her in without him seeing...and he'll get that pit in his stomach "feeling" when he sees she's missing. That will stick.

...maybe that's too mean. ?

 

[_Vicky_]

yep think its part of having a Y chromosone - my oh leaves his work saw out and a pack of nappy sacs (we use them to pick up dog poo) all within reach of the boys AARRGGHHHH

He leaves computer cables out and the boys love wrapping them round their necks, cups half full of cold tea, plates, knives forks .......... need I go on?

Sometimes it feels like I have triplets!

 

[littlestar85]

I hate to say anything bad about my DH but he is like this too! I think it is a male thing, they just don't fear danger like we do. They assume everything will be fine, we assume it won't. I think the female way is better but I guess the fearless male approach is necessary to a certain extent to encourage kids to be brave and give everything a go and also to teach them the consequences of being fearless i.e I always tried to stop LO climbing off the sofa head first but he never understood... DH let him climb off head first, he fell, banged his head, cried and never tried again! DH straight away showed him how to climb off feet first on his tummy and he's done that ever since and does it on anything he climbs now so my worry is greatly reduced!

 

[Flutterby1982]

They really do don't they? :/ I very rarely leave my LO alone with my hubby as he is disracted sooo easily. When she had just started walking, I was in the kitchen cooking one day and asked him to look after her in the living room. The doorbell rang and I heard him go answer it. I heard him come into the back garden with the gardener and just happened to look out....and saw she wasn't with him. I assumed he'd left her alone in the living room (which I wasn't too thrilled about anyway) and saw he'd left all the doors open, leading to the front door which was WIDE OPEN! My heart was in my mouth as I raced to the door...thankgod she had just gone a little way down the path and was standing still looking at the cars going past, phew! needless t say, I went mental! another time he forgot to shut the stairgate upstairs and tried to blame it on me! If he answers the door, the phone or is on the computer he just loses all sense and is totally distracted. Scary stuff :/ xx

 

[Mrs Dot]

I think they genuinely don't think about it, as with lots of other things they just don't think one step ahead with anything in life. If your oh does ladies hold onto them very tightly cos I reckon they must be one in a million!

 

[MotherBeth]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this problem!

My husband is always doing careless things like that and then feeling I'm being a "worry-wart" for objecting. Drives me insane! And makes me worry even more.

But ... I know that he loves her just as much as I do, and sometimes I have to remind myself, "Unless you want to raise this baby alone, you have to let him do it his way sometimes. You have to trust him."

It's hard, though, when I feel I've caught him genuinely not watching closely enough!

 

[lesleyann]

My oh is not to bad, however he does say I baby him to much lol

 

[starangel27]

My oh is exactly the same he left the harness off the baby last week in the pushchair & he only fell on the floor

 

[shortie1990]

Think it's a man thing, dont think they have that extra sense that we have developed as mothers, my OH is always too engrossed in his phone while Rileys busy eating sudocrem right next to him..

 

[mrsraggle]

DH isn't too bad but sometimes he leaves me wondering. I asked him to put a hot cup of tea onto the cafe counter in a soft play area for me last week - so he places it on the edge of a table. I said "I asked you to put that on the counter!", he said "that's close enough!", I said "but DH this is a play area and there are children running around, the edge of the table is too dangerous!!!!". He just hadn't thought of all the other kids in the place... he wouldn't do that at home with Ellie around but thought it'd be OK because she was all nicely safe in her pushchair.

 

[MrsNovBaby]

Have to say that my DH is quite good. But did not see LO for 5 months and is now in total awe of him and can't believe how much he can do for himself xx

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

Mines the polar opposite but I find it just as much of a problem!!

 

[angelgirl]

My hubby is the same way. I can't stand it... I love my husband but my goodness... He is incapable of doing two things at once. Don't get me wrong he is an intelligent man with a masters degree. But when it comes to kids... He has zero commen sense.

 

[lepaskilf]

I don't think it's a male thing really! My OH is much more attentive than I am!!

 

[supertabby]

I read a study months ago about how mothers are predisposed to be very cautious whereas fathers take more risks - nature's way of creating the right balance of children becoming independent safely.

I get accused of being overprotective and not trusting hubby. But by the same token hubby likes reminding me that Isobel has fallen off stuff twice with me (sofa) and never with him - but I am at home with her all day! The other day while he was washing up hubby put Isobel's highchair next to the sink positioned deliberately to allow her to play with the drawer - the knife drawer! - he reckoned she couldn't reach in and even if she could he was stood right there. But I know she can wriggle her arm free of the straps when she wants to, allowing her extra reach, and that even when you're stood right there she can still be quick to move. One thing when the risk is her grabbing the remote control, another when its a carving knife!

Hubby is a wonderful dad though, and I think its just natural to have the different approach, but I agree its frustrating.