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Why won't the dr's be straight with me?

After i started spotting on Tuesday night i went to A&E wednesday morning they just left me sitting there waiting for EPU to open who they then left me sitting in a room full of pregnant women while i cried thinking the worse!

The dr wasn't too helpful just kept going on at me about the blood work not being done at the right times and stuff but no one asked me to do anything i just had to keep asking so she sent me for a blood test and depending on the outcome was going to scan me. At first they refused to scan me cos the level was low. Until i told them it had gone down from what it was before so i knew what was happening.
I had to argue for a scan cos they kept talking about ectopic pregnancy and i know how dangerous that can be. So they finally agreed to scan me.
The sonographer was lovely, not like the last one. She did the scan and i knew what was coming cos she couldn't find little roo anywhere. So she said it's very early but i think that you are miscarrying. And sent me to wait outside when i was ready so she could write the report. Then i got sent back to the room of pregnant women while i waited for the dr.

Then the confusion started.
She told me that there was nothing in my womb that they could see but it could still be too early and they stil couldn't rule out an ectopic.
So i asked if i was miscarrying and she said we don't know you need to have more blood tests
what then
we don't know
well does anyone know anything?
Anyway, i left the hospital even more confused than when i went in.
I'm still not bleeding fully and i still only have achy pains i just need to know.
In my head and my heart i know what's happening but i just need someone to be honest with me and help me deal with what's happening.
Why does this happen to us when we want it so bad?
Anna
 
Oh god, Anna. My heart goes out to you. This was me six months ago...

I think it is truly unfair that you cant get any straight answers... I think you should just ask them to be straight. Better you have that 'closure' to things. You cant start dealing with anything until you get this.

Try to keep your chin up. It is so horrible and Im really very sad that you are having to go through this. Take good care.

MUCH love :hugs:
 
oh sweetie i am truly so so sorry for what the doctors are putting you through, thinking of you so :hugs: x
 
Anna,
This is me just over two weeks ago. I'm so sorry sweetheart. Your pain is clear for everyone to see. I wasn't treated quite so badly as I found one nurse who was amazing. How dare they try and refuse you a scan.... that is what they are there for. In my experience I had bloods taken after a scan couldn't find my Bubs. I had repeat bloods 48hrs later which showed a huge drop in HGC. Confirmation that I had lost Bubs. It was the same day that my physical loss started. I would advise that you call your EPAU and ask what time you should go back in 2 days for your repeat bloods. Make it clear you know your s**t. If needs be, set up camp. At the end of the day they can't rule out ectopic without the bloods. Good luck sweet cheeks. Thinking of you. XX
 
Hunny, Im so sorry for what youre going through right now :hugs: I dont get why Dr's cant be straight with people. Its not fair when youre clearly inlot of pain :(
Good Luck, thinking of you
 
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this

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it is so unfair this happens to anyone and I am so sorry you are in so much pain. I hope you get the answers you are looking for. :hug:
 
Oh hun, I'm so sorry.

I am rapidy losing faith in the nhs. They either don't know, or they just don't bother telling you what's going on.

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i'm sorry anna.....their treatment of you surely can't be right...

lots of hugs
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:hugs: when i m/c i feel like that in limbo going home form the hospital on the sunday cause of course they can't scan at the weekend. not knowing if i had m/c or not and having to wait til tues to know for sure.
make sure you ask questions and demand a scan. I really think the nhs need to improve their service for ppl miscarrying. I'm a nurse and i feel ashamed to work for them.
 
I'm sorry to hear what you have been going through, and i really hope you get some straight answers soon :hugs:

I really think the nhs need to improve their service for ppl miscarrying. I'm a nurse and i feel ashamed to work for them.

I just wanted to say me too :dohh: My experience as a patient suffering a mc wasn't too bad on the whole (although i too ended up in an ante natal clinic waiting room for 10 minutes before someone realised) but from hearing other people's stories on here it seems really hit and miss :cry:
 
Oh chick, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through - the way you have been treated is absolutely out of order - my heart goes out to you as I went through a similar thing at the start of January please keep us up to date on your news - we are all here if you need up xxx
 
Really sorry to hear that you are going through this, its not fair.:hug:
 
It's not that the hospital isn't doing everything they can to give you a peace of mind, but you're just way too early for any current technology to confirm your status. Gestational sac can be seen at the earliest if you have a HCG level of 1,200 or above. Only seeing the gest. sac can they absolutely rule out ectopic. I've been following your posts, and it seems your last HCG count was in the 600s. There really isn't much they can do at this point but have you wait 2 full days until they can redraw your blood to see if your HCG increases appropriately (good sign), or if your HCG drops (sign of MC), or if you HCG increases only a little (possible sign of a problem).

Waiting is the worst, I know, I've had 2 m/cs myself. But find comfort in knowing that your doctors are doing everything they can at this point.
 
In my experience once I am in a hospital my treatment has been excellent, but actually getting an appointment or a Dr to listen in the first place seems to be the hard thing.
Especially if your m/c happens at a weekend as both mine did, you have to convince NHS24 to get someone to call you, then convince them to refer you to your local hospital, then to get them to get you a scan.
I feel like I am always begging for something I have been paying my taxes for all my life. Gggrrr.

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