Will you be...

[Linz88]

willl you be puttn fob on the birth certificate?
my ex says he wont cum to scans or midwife apps or even put money towards a pram.. he said he'll buy a few clothes and gimme £50 a month when bub gets ere.. he also said hes only sticking around cause he dosent trust me to raise the baby with the right qualitys loool wtf..

would you put him on the birth certificate?

 

[sweetlullaby]

Firstly what a cheeky ba*****!!! Doesnt trust you to raise your baby with the "right" qualities....i would have slapped him for that and blew my top!!

In regards to the birth certificate its really up to you hun. Its a really hard decision to make either way. I had to make it but in the end it was FOB that made my mind up for me by demanding a dna test and threatening and harrassing me. Even though he knew he was LO's dad. Im not sure what to suggest hun look at all the pro's and con's as they say and you have a while to make up your mind. I would see how FOB responds and how involved he is throughout your pregnancy etc it should help make up your mind

 

[Linz88]

thanks for your reply hun
yepp im going to do some research,
ino he wont be there through the pregnancy, he wont even come for the scan

 

[bloodbinds]

I didn't put him on the birth cert - doesn't deserve it!!

And if you go through CSA you'll probably get more than £50 a month. Does he work?

 

[lou_w34]

My fob isnt on it either!

Just think about it carefully, and like sweetlullaby said, make a list of pros and cons.

It was the right decision for me, like your ex, he wasnt involved in the pregnancy, and so far has seen her once, and he keeps letting her down, best decision ive ever made... sounds bad, but it was.

And if he doesnt trust you why the hell doesnt he want to be involved properly? Cheeky sod, id have told him where to go! lol

xxx

 

[Linz88]

YE he works 46 hours a week x so he does get quite abit x

 

[bloodbinds]

whoa, definitely go through CSA then hun, you'll get triple what he is offering you! Maybe more! x

 

[nievesmama]

My youngests dad is not on the BC, with the amount of abuse and harrassment he doesnt deserve to be. Best thing i did x

 

[teal]

I'm not putting my ex on the birth certificate. He ended things when I refused to have a termination and he's not asked anything about the baby. I think all the threatening/harassing emails from him finalised my decision that it was better to keep him off it.

I agree with the girls about making a list of the pros and cons and seeing what is best for you xx

 

[Emma1980]

I gave him the option to be on it, and he chose to... completely his choice.

 

[suzanne108]

Fob is on lolas BC...he was adament he wanted to be involved and to give him his due he has tried....but I still hate him! Only thing is I gotta take lola to see a consultant next week and im worried a big medical decision will need to be made which he'd have to have a say in. And so far i havent even told him about the appointment.