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[Shelby2007]

So is anyone in here going to wait and try after their miscarriage. Drs orders for us are to wait 3 months.. so we can try mid-May.. but are going to wait until June.

I wish we didnt have to wait but understand my body needs to get back to normal.

Just curious.. if anyone is in the same boat as me. I know many of you are going to try ASAP Lucky ducks!!!

--- Shelbs

 

[Jessa]

Did your doctor give you any other reason to wait other than to let your body get back to normal? A lot of doctors say this, but from my experience and from what I've read, most of the time you only need to wait until you've had one normal period. Even waiting this long is usually only so that it's easier to figure out how far along you are when you do get pregnant again.

My hubby and I are planning to wait until I get my period again (could be 4 - 6 weeks) and then start trying again. I don't think I'd have the patience to wait three months.

You can only do what you feel is right for you though. It'll happen for all of us when it's the right time.

 

[Shelby2007]

She didnt give me any other explanation.. she told us to use condoms.. and for me to keep taking prenatals.. just incase the condoms dont work

I dont want to wait! I want to get started right now.. or after my first AF also.

I also think that my body will only take a pregnancy.. when it is ready.. so I dont see why three months wuold make any difference.. we might take precautions until my next period.. then just stop preventing.. not try though..

 

[Jessa]

That sounds doable. My family doctor told us after our first miscarriage that my body simply wouldn't get pregnant if it wasn't ready. For example, if the egg and sperm do meet and my uterine lining isn't ready to support a pregnancy, it simply won't implant and I would never know the difference.

Even after my D&C last week, our obstetrician said we need to wait for my first period and then we're good to go.

I know exactly how you feel about wanting to try right away. I'd start trying again right now if I could.

 

[Shelby2007]

I think my dr just wants to make sure Im emotionally ready.. which I am.. Im ready to move towards the future.. you know.

I think we will talk about doing that.. waiting for my next period.. then just stop preventing.. thanks for sharing what your family dr had said.. that makes sense to me..and is what I was thinking..

 

[Jessa]

Ya, some doctors think that encouraging people to wait longer will help them get through their grief. For some people though, I believe that part of dealing with the grief of your miscarriage is to start trying again. Not because you want to replace what was, but because it's the next logical step. Only you know when you're ready. If there's a medical reason to wait, I absolutely think you should. But, if it's just the doctor trying to make sure you're ready, only you know that.

How long did it take you to get pregnant this time? Is it likely to take awhile based on past history?

 

[MrsJD]

Hello you!

I think 3 months is more for your emotions, I know you should allow atleat one period after a DnC.

Personally, I would wait but maybe not 3 months. I've just MC after a MC (if that makes sense) no period in between.

XXXXX

 

[Shelby2007]

I stopped taking my bcp in August.. and got pregnant in December.. so it wasnt too long.

I also took Misoprostal to induce my mmc - I didnt have a d&c which I would think would be lots worse. So I think after one menstral cycle.. we will stop preventing

 

[Premomt]

Hi ladies. I didn't have a MC but an EP and I was told to wait till march (had a surgery jan 25) to start ttc again.
My dr told me she wanted to make sure my bod was up for the task (I lost about a pint of blood when my ovary ruptured.)
I feel like a part of me wants to listen to her, but a different part wants to start ttc again after my next af (just getting over what looks like af now) I feel like the waiting is more depressing than the surgery. I understand her logic about recovery time, but the down time is killing me. I have a third appointment to see her mar 11 for a check up, and I will ask her then if it will be ok to start trying as I have had 2 bleeds since the surgery (one right after that lasted about 2 weeks and this one which has been like a regular period) I don't know what I will do if she says to wait then..

 

[Shelby2007]

Oh gosh Pre! Im soo sorry to hear that.. that must have been terrible for you. God bless your soul!

Keep us posted on what the Dr says.. please! Thinking about you.

 

[Rebaby]

At the hospital yesterday i was told that the consultant recommends waiting 2 cycles before TTC again but the nurse telling me this said she felt the extra cycle made no difference and she personally would say wait until AF arrives and then do whatever we please.

I keep changing my mind about what i want to do and my OH isn't sure either. We're not keen to use BC until AF finally decides to show, and we were just going to take things easy, not trying not preventing and see how we go. But i have become terrified of the idea of falling pregnant before AF even gets here and miscarrying again right away...i don't think i could face it... So we may end up using protection again for a little while.

I'm sorry i can't be more help, just wanted to share what i had been told. It is such a difficult decision to make and the recommendations seem so mixed and i've had no explanation of the science or reasons behind waiting longer...

 

[Jessa]

Like I said above, my hubby and I have decided to start trying again as soon as I get my first period in 4 - 6 weeks approximately. I was on the pill prior to our first miscarriage and haven't needed any birth control since then, so I went out yesterday and bought some condoms. I figure that for the few weeks between now and when AF comes, we can use those and I won't have to go back on the pill or worry.

 

[Premomt]

I'm not sure if you ladies are waiting for a period to show, but if you are, bc pills can help regulate it. So it seems logical to me if you have yet to have a period doing a cycle of bcp would be benificial.

 

[RobenR]

My husband and I waited about a week and a half. We want to try again right away because honestly I think waiting a few months would drive me mad and make me crazier than I am now, dealing with the aftermath of the m/c.

I just hope it works. Good on you for waiting until you are fully healed!

*sprinkles baby dust*

 

[Jessa]

I'm waiting for a period to show but would rather have my body just do things naturally and figure itself out. We'll just use condoms until it shows and then we're good to go. It should only be a few more weeks, so I'm sure we can manage.

Roben, I know exactly what you mean about feeling as though you'll go "mad" if you wait too long. I feel the same way. Surprisingly though, I'm feeling quite positive about next time, although that might change when we actually get pregnant again. I just feel like since I've already had two miscarriages, I've put in my time. This one's gotta be a sticky bean!

 

[BunMum]

I miscarried at the beginning of Jan and they told me we could TTC as soon as I felt ready. However, I was then diagnosed with a Partial Molar Pregnancy when they tested the tissue (and from my scan results), so I have to wait for at least 6 months now. Its absolutely killing me...its just over 6 weeks since it happened and I have no idea how I'll get through the rest of the time. The only thing that keeps me going is that its for the baby that I hope to conceive as soon as I'm given the all clear.

If you're ready emotionally then I would say go for it!!!