yet another person having a baby in my dept!!

[moomoo]

Hi girls.. its been nearly 6 weeks since my m/c and i thought i was doing ok..but recently i seem to be feeling very sad and depressed. I sit next to a girl at work who is 18 weeks pregnant and she constantly talks about her pregnancy..i can just about deal with this. Then another girl at work (who had an abortion only 3 months ago anounces shes pregnant.

Today a man at work announced that his wife is preg and her due date is 2 days after mine.

Im absolutely gutted..i wanna be happy for them but im finding it so hard, especially as its all so directly in my face. I could cope so much better if half of my dept wasnt preg.

I feel as though im becoming a bitter and jealous person, and im not like that at all. I keep on thinking why me.. out of all the people close to me that are preg (about 5) why was it me..they have had kids before...you never expect to lose your first baby, but yet i do. Surely we could not have any more bad luck this year?

 

[Rumpskin]

This must be so very hard for you darling.

A colleague I used to work with is due to give birth in the next couple of weeks. I know that I too will find it very hard.

I dont have any magic words to make things better for you.

The old chestnut that time is a great healer is very true.

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your loss.
Dont feel bad for anything you are feeling, i promise its only natural and it doesnt make you a bad person.
This will happen for you too, dont forget that

 

[cleckner04]

I think you and I are in the same place when it comes to all this. I want to be happy for them but on the other hand I am SO bitter about it all. I feel for you girly. I know everyone seems to be getting pregnant around me as well. Just a quick count in my head, there are five people I know that are pregnant now. Half of them smoke throughout the whole pregnancy. Which makes it 100 times worse for me to see them hurt their babies. Big to you.

 

[FunnyBunny]

I know how you feel Hon, a couple of weeks ago I was feeling like a really bitter and horrible person but I truly believe this is a defence mechanisms to cope, I think I have just got through this stage (if stage it the right word??). I think all the ladies on here ask themselves the same questions you are and it only makes it harder that there are no answers to these questions.

Take care of yourself and your OH, you will never forget but it gets a little easier to live with each day.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Big moomoo

I,too, feel like being around pregnant women and women with newborns prevents me from getting better. I just wanted to lock myself away.

 

[dizzy65]

i no it is hard

 

[Flossie03]

I feel for you, it is so hard being around pregnant women, 2 women in my department are currently pregnant and a 3rd has just announced her pregnancy, it is very hard and I do feel "why me?" too, I think it is natural to feel this way and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. It's hard enough recovering from a loss without being constantly reminded of it too

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I try to think of it like this. I don't know how many miscarriages those women have had. Those might be the miracle babies they were hoping for.

Not like that makes the pain go away completely.

 

[cleckner04]

I try to think of it like this. I don't know how many miscarriages those women have had. Those might be the miracle babies they were hoping for.

Not like that makes the pain go away completely.

I wish I had that kind of optimism. I just can't seem to look at things that way. One of the girls I know is pregnant but it took 3 years for them to get there. But I still hate that she's pregnant because she was only a week after me. Every thought of her is a reminder of me so than I get sad all over again. Even though I know it was hard for them. Sadness usually turns to bitterness for me.