Sander
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Hi ladies
Soooo milestone for me as this is the first time I haven’t posted in this forum regarding my current pregnancy
I have (soon to be) 3 boys! They are wonderful (at least the 2 I know ) and we’re looking forward to meeting our third.
I, more than my husband, decided to be done after 3 babies. Mainly because I don’t love pregnancy, and after a bad tear with my first I have to have sections for any other babies. However now that we know our third is another little boy, I keep going back to thinking maybe we could swing a fourth. Of course, it’ll depend on how my section goes and if I’m cleared for a 3rd section.
Here’s my dilemma - and please no judgement, just suggestions! I know you ladies are usually very lovely. At this moment - and I am about to have 3 under 3 - I wouldn’t choose to have a fourth if I knew it would be another boy. I would of course adore another little boy, but I don’t have as much of a desire for another child as I do to experience raising a girl - if that makes sense! Part of me feels like I’m going too far into the future (I am still pregnant with number 3 after all ), and at the moment I’m very much feeling like we will take a break once this baby is born and revisit the idea of another baby in a couple of years. If I don’t feel ready to ‘start over’ at that point, we will be very happy with the 3 we have.
But I keep thinking - is it a bad thing to TTC when you’re really only wanting a girl? It sounds awful just to write it! I know there are no guarantees, and I think we’re even more likely for a 4th boy since we’ve had 3 already haha. I mean if we did decide to try for a fourth I feel like at that time I would have to fully embrace the idea of a 4th boy and not just go into it only hoping for a girl. Obviously we would love whatever baby made it’s way into our family; I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has gone through this! Should we just stop with the 3 wonderful kids we have, as we would have likely done if this baby had been a girl - or do we go for one more with hopes for a daughter even though we weren’t really planning on 4 kids?
Anyhow I want to make it clear that if we were to TTC a fourth we would NOT love a boy any less! I dunno I’m just trying to write my thoughts down so they make more sense Part of me feels like when the time comes I’ll know whether or not I want another baby and it will be irrespective of the baby’s gender. My boys are my world and I wouldn’t trade any of them for a girl! It’s just tougher when planning for the future if you know what I mean.
Thanks in advance! Hopefully I’m not offending anyone
Soooo milestone for me as this is the first time I haven’t posted in this forum regarding my current pregnancy
I have (soon to be) 3 boys! They are wonderful (at least the 2 I know ) and we’re looking forward to meeting our third.
I, more than my husband, decided to be done after 3 babies. Mainly because I don’t love pregnancy, and after a bad tear with my first I have to have sections for any other babies. However now that we know our third is another little boy, I keep going back to thinking maybe we could swing a fourth. Of course, it’ll depend on how my section goes and if I’m cleared for a 3rd section.
Here’s my dilemma - and please no judgement, just suggestions! I know you ladies are usually very lovely. At this moment - and I am about to have 3 under 3 - I wouldn’t choose to have a fourth if I knew it would be another boy. I would of course adore another little boy, but I don’t have as much of a desire for another child as I do to experience raising a girl - if that makes sense! Part of me feels like I’m going too far into the future (I am still pregnant with number 3 after all ), and at the moment I’m very much feeling like we will take a break once this baby is born and revisit the idea of another baby in a couple of years. If I don’t feel ready to ‘start over’ at that point, we will be very happy with the 3 we have.
But I keep thinking - is it a bad thing to TTC when you’re really only wanting a girl? It sounds awful just to write it! I know there are no guarantees, and I think we’re even more likely for a 4th boy since we’ve had 3 already haha. I mean if we did decide to try for a fourth I feel like at that time I would have to fully embrace the idea of a 4th boy and not just go into it only hoping for a girl. Obviously we would love whatever baby made it’s way into our family; I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has gone through this! Should we just stop with the 3 wonderful kids we have, as we would have likely done if this baby had been a girl - or do we go for one more with hopes for a daughter even though we weren’t really planning on 4 kids?
Anyhow I want to make it clear that if we were to TTC a fourth we would NOT love a boy any less! I dunno I’m just trying to write my thoughts down so they make more sense Part of me feels like when the time comes I’ll know whether or not I want another baby and it will be irrespective of the baby’s gender. My boys are my world and I wouldn’t trade any of them for a girl! It’s just tougher when planning for the future if you know what I mean.
Thanks in advance! Hopefully I’m not offending anyone