♡ January Snowdrops 2019 ♡

[mwel8819]

Just a thought but what if you temporarily moved her mattress into your room? Then transition her into her room.

We tried that. We bought her a toddler bed that was Elsa and Anna and she loves it but won't sleep in it. She climbs up in the bed with us. :\ We tried moving it away from our bed and she freaked out and pushed it back right next to it.

 

[Emsabub]

Yaaaay congratulations country!!

 

[bbbbbbb811]

Just a thought but what if you temporarily moved her mattress into your room? Then transition her into her room.

We tried that. We bought her a toddler bed that was Elsa and Anna and she loves it but won't sleep in it. She climbs up in the bed with us. :\ We tried moving it away from our bed and she freaked out and pushed it back right next to it.

With my 3 year old and 1 year old I lay between them and cuddle them until they are asleep then I move them into their own beds and they sleep through. My 3 year old would stay in her bed and fall asleep if I was in the room but my 1 year old will not stay in her bed, so we just do it together because they have the same bedtime.
Could you transfer her after she is asleep? Not ideal if you want her to learn to go to bed in her own bed but would give you the space for when you go to bed.

 

[mwel8819]

Just a thought but what if you temporarily moved her mattress into your room? Then transition her into her room.

We tried that. We bought her a toddler bed that was Elsa and Anna and she loves it but won't sleep in it. She climbs up in the bed with us. :\ We tried moving it away from our bed and she freaked out and pushed it back right next to it.

With my 3 year old and 1 year old I lay between them and cuddle them until they are asleep then I move them into their own beds and they sleep through. My 3 year old would stay in her bed and fall asleep if I was in the room but my 1 year old will not stay in her bed, so we just do it together because they have the same bedtime.
Could you transfer her after she is asleep? Not ideal if you want her to learn to go to bed in her own bed but would give you the space for when you go to bed.

All makes a lot of sense but yes, alas, we have tried that as well. Even just moving her out of our bed and into hers beside ours...she always climbs back up in ours.

 

[gigglebox]

What about something similar to a poop chart? Basically you put a chart on the wall and she gets a sticker and small reward each time she sleeps in her room. THEN AFTER SAY 5 stickers she gets a big reward

 

[Kiwiberry]

Yay congratulations on team Country!!!!!!! Updating the list and the girls are now in the lead!!!!

 

[mwel8819]

What about something similar to a poop chart? Basically you put a chart on the wall and she gets a sticker and small reward each time she sleeps in her room. THEN AFTER SAY 5 stickers she gets a big reward

Incentives do seem to work with her...this may just work. Thanks for the idea, Giggle!

 

[MollyMoon]

Mwel. I have had some sort of lock on my boys door since my oldest started sleeping in a big boy bed. It started with just a baby hate, but once they figured out how to take it down or climb over it it had to go. We now have a lock. Its the only way I can keep them....mostly my little guy now.....in the room to go to sleep at night. I can always hear them. We have never had any issues....and our rooms are on different floors at this point we unlock before we go to bed, but it has been a lifesaver to ensure everyone in out house sleeps.

And sorry to leave you all in suspense! I ended up having a crazy day yesterday. I blew up a tire and got stuck on the side of the road for 2 hours!! BUT..... the tie breaker goes to the.........



GIRLS! Im in shock...and i think hubby is too....i thought for sure we would have 3 boys...i dont know if either of us knows what to do with a girl!! Now to keep it a secret from everyone...you guys should feel special since you are the only ones who know what she is!!

Country - Congratulations!!!

Mwel is she at the age where you can talk with her about it as well? Like if she has a character on a show or something to relate to that they sleep in their big girl bed too

 

[mwel8819]

Mwel. I have had some sort of lock on my boys door since my oldest started sleeping in a big boy bed. It started with just a baby hate, but once they figured out how to take it down or climb over it it had to go. We now have a lock. Its the only way I can keep them....mostly my little guy now.....in the room to go to sleep at night. I can always hear them. We have never had any issues....and our rooms are on different floors at this point we unlock before we go to bed, but it has been a lifesaver to ensure everyone in out house sleeps.

And sorry to leave you all in suspense! I ended up having a crazy day yesterday. I blew up a tire and got stuck on the side of the road for 2 hours!! BUT..... the tie breaker goes to the.........



GIRLS! Im in shock...and i think hubby is too....i thought for sure we would have 3 boys...i dont know if either of us knows what to do with a girl!! Now to keep it a secret from everyone...you guys should feel special since you are the only ones who know what she is!!

Country - Congratulations!!!

Mwel is she at the age where you can talk with her about it as well? Like if she has a character on a show or something to relate to that they sleep in their big girl bed too

Thanks! We have tried and we also used the fact that her best friend sleeps in her own bed.

 

[gigglebox]

Poop chart was the only thing that worked for us (with pooping lol), he got m&m's for his little reward then after 10 times we went to a trampoline park.

Ugh ladies I am so done waiting for my next ultrasound! I wish the local place would contact me back but I think they're closed (one of those keepsake places). I "know" i'm having a boy but there is still the part of my brain saying "what if...?" And i want to shut it up! My scan is so far off, not for another almost 6 weeks!

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Poop chart was the only thing that worked for us (with pooping lol), he got m&m's for his little reward then after 10 times we went to a trampoline park.

Ugh ladies I am so done waiting for my next ultrasound! I wish the local place would contact me back but I think they're closed (one of those keepsake places). I "know" i'm having a boy but there is still the part of my brain saying "what if...?" And i want to shut it up! My scan is so far off, not for another almost 6 weeks!

mwel- I'm really happy you are getting some good ideas, wish I had some to add but I just wish you both the best with this transition

Giggle- I really hope they contact you, it seems weird for them to be closed on a Wednesday, but I'd totally call them back and be like " heeeey, sooo how's abou tit?" and keep on it till they give in

My anatomy scan is tomorrow, the excitement has morphed into paranoia now *sigh* Every scan I get I fret something wrong may have happened and it's really sucky. I think I can feel my little sprout move more now, but even then that is a limited feeling and it doesn't help! Totally gonna try and keep out of my head, wish me luck tomorrow everyone! The minute I find out the minute I post on here if I'm team blue or team pink *hugs* overall I just want healthy and happy.

edit: I tried looking for a support thread in the forum, but I don't easily see anything about donors. so I'm going to go ahead and add why I am also super nervous and hoping for a boy, regardless of what my baby is I'll be happy, but one gender will come with more drama than the next. You see, my DH had a failed reversal, so he asked his brother to be the donor. Dh's brother said yes but his fiancee was wishy washy at first, then agreed to it, before I even permitted the process I always asked her, met with her and had her reassure me before the procedure ever happened, she always told me yes and I assured her if she changed her mind before hand that I was more than ok to find another donor, each and every time we met.

Later they broke up ( over unrelated and private issues of their own) and DH's brother became our official donor after another serious discussion on if it was ok, he was and DH assured me it was ok, and then a few months later I am pregnant with this little one. Now the brother and his ex-fiancee are back together and she is ok with it but having emotional issues on if this is going to be a girl. She herself does not want any more children and has been 100% upfront with BIL and us about it, but she has all boys and still insists she doesn't want any more children even now.. Yet there is this unease in the air with just her and it's putting me all in a tizzy after checking, rechecking and double checking with her last year before they even broke up before I would even consider doing the IUI. I'd have opened up about this sooner, but I felt that it wouldn't be the best place for it..however now I feel comfortable with everyone here and know that there would be understanding about the new situation. I need a bit of comfort with this anxiety I'm feeling, even if it's to get it out somewhere safe where backlash won't hit.

 

[gigglebox]

Cuddle, I am confused, are you afraid she's going to try to lay some sort of claim to the baby if it's a girl? She has no tie to this baby whatsoever so...tough S to her if you happen to get the girl. Sounds like BIL has been pretty cool about the whole thing so I wouldn't worry about that. That is pretty cool that you were able to get someone with the same genetic make up as your husband to make your little baby! I bet everything is going just fine; but that said I can completely relate to the ultrasound fear haha.

Regarding the ultrasound place I was talking about, I think they are totally closed. Their Facebook page is still up and running but they have been on responsive to my messages, and their phone number isn't working anymore. The next closest place is an hour away and I just don't want to make that drive!

 

[mwel8819]

Cuddle, I am confused, are you afraid she's going to try to lay some sort of claim to the baby if it's a girl? She has no tie to this baby whatsoever so...tough S to her if you happen to get the girl. Sounds like BIL has been pretty cool about the whole thing so I wouldn't worry about that. That is pretty cool that you were able to get someone with the same genetic make up as your husband to make your little baby! I bet everything is going just fine; but that said I can completely relate to the ultrasound fear haha.

Regarding the ultrasound place I was talking about, I think they are totally closed. Their Facebook page is still up and running but they have been on responsive to my messages, and their phone number isn't working anymore. The next closest place is an hour away and I just don't want to make that drive!

I would take that as a sign that I'm supposed to go elsewhere. lol! Maybe even have a scan sooner? Eek!

 

[mwel8819]

Poop chart was the only thing that worked for us (with pooping lol), he got m&m's for his little reward then after 10 times we went to a trampoline park.

Ugh ladies I am so done waiting for my next ultrasound! I wish the local place would contact me back but I think they're closed (one of those keepsake places). I "know" i'm having a boy but there is still the part of my brain saying "what if...?" And i want to shut it up! My scan is so far off, not for another almost 6 weeks!

mwel- I'm really happy you are getting some good ideas, wish I had some to add but I just wish you both the best with this transition

Giggle- I really hope they contact you, it seems weird for them to be closed on a Wednesday, but I'd totally call them back and be like " heeeey, sooo how's abou tit?" and keep on it till they give in

My anatomy scan is tomorrow, the excitement has morphed into paranoia now *sigh* Every scan I get I fret something wrong may have happened and it's really sucky. I think I can feel my little sprout move more now, but even then that is a limited feeling and it doesn't help! Totally gonna try and keep out of my head, wish me luck tomorrow everyone! The minute I find out the minute I post on here if I'm team blue or team pink *hugs* overall I just want healthy and happy.

edit: I tried looking for a support thread in the forum, but I don't easily see anything about donors. so I'm going to go ahead and add why I am also super nervous and hoping for a boy, regardless of what my baby is I'll be happy, but one gender will come with more drama than the next. You see, my DH had a failed reversal, so he asked his brother to be the donor. Dh's brother said yes but his fiancee was wishy washy at first, then agreed to it, before I even permitted the process I always asked her, met with her and had her reassure me before the procedure ever happened, she always told me yes and I assured her if she changed her mind before hand that I was more than ok to find another donor, each and every time we met.

Later they broke up ( over unrelated and private issues of their own) and DH's brother became our official donor after another serious discussion on if it was ok, he was and DH assured me it was ok, and then a few months later I am pregnant with this little one. Now the brother and his ex-fiancee are back together and she is ok with it but having emotional issues on if this is going to be a girl. She herself does not want any more children and has been 100% upfront with BIL and us about it, but she has all boys and still insists she doesn't want any more children even now.. Yet there is this unease in the air with just her and it's putting me all in a tizzy after checking, rechecking and double checking with her last year before they even broke up before I would even consider doing the IUI. I'd have opened up about this sooner, but I felt that it wouldn't be the best place for it..however now I feel comfortable with everyone here and know that there would be understanding about the new situation. I need a bit of comfort with this anxiety I'm feeling, even if it's to get it out somewhere safe where backlash won't hit.

Oh wow! I'm so sorry hun. I get why you would feel weird about her but she has absolutely no claim and you can tell her that..nor is it any of her business! It isn't your fault she couldn't have a girl. UGH! As far as the ultrasound goes, I think we all feel that same anxiety. Mine is getting closer and I can feel the baby much more now and you think that would ease mine but it doesn't. I just want a healthy baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes...that's what I want to see.

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Cuddle, I am confused, are you afraid she's going to try to lay some sort of claim to the baby if it's a girl? She has no tie to this baby whatsoever so...tough S to her if you happen to get the girl. Sounds like BIL has been pretty cool about the whole thing so I wouldn't worry about that. That is pretty cool that you were able to get someone with the same genetic make up as your husband to make your little baby! I bet everything is going just fine; but that said I can completely relate to the ultrasound fear haha.

Regarding the ultrasound place I was talking about, I think they are totally closed. Their Facebook page is still up and running but they have been on responsive to my messages, and their phone number isn't working anymore. The next closest place is an hour away and I just don't want to make that drive!

No, not that I'm even aware of. As you said she doesn't have any claim to my LO but I also do not want drama or tension as this was agreed upon well in advance by both parties, and in all honesty BIL had more of a say when they broke up, which is when conception happened. I understand if drama or tension happens that will just be that, but talking to others about it is helpful and gives me a bit more courage to face it. BIL is awesome, he's been 100% supportive and he himself has said " she'll have to deal with it, she can't back out now and this was my choice"
I just don't know what to expect regarding how she is going to react, and I get anxious. But it honestly helps talking about this and I appreciate being able to bring it here.

OOHHH, closed as in not in business, I get it now! an hour drive is a lot, especially in the heat that's still raging.

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Poop chart was the only thing that worked for us (with pooping lol), he got m&m's for his little reward then after 10 times we went to a trampoline park.

Ugh ladies I am so done waiting for my next ultrasound! I wish the local place would contact me back but I think they're closed (one of those keepsake places). I "know" i'm having a boy but there is still the part of my brain saying "what if...?" And i want to shut it up! My scan is so far off, not for another almost 6 weeks!

mwel- I'm really happy you are getting some good ideas, wish I had some to add but I just wish you both the best with this transition

Giggle- I really hope they contact you, it seems weird for them to be closed on a Wednesday, but I'd totally call them back and be like " heeeey, sooo how's abou tit?" and keep on it till they give in

My anatomy scan is tomorrow, the excitement has morphed into paranoia now *sigh* Every scan I get I fret something wrong may have happened and it's really sucky. I think I can feel my little sprout move more now, but even then that is a limited feeling and it doesn't help! Totally gonna try and keep out of my head, wish me luck tomorrow everyone! The minute I find out the minute I post on here if I'm team blue or team pink *hugs* overall I just want healthy and happy.

edit: I tried looking for a support thread in the forum, but I don't easily see anything about donors. so I'm going to go ahead and add why I am also super nervous and hoping for a boy, regardless of what my baby is I'll be happy, but one gender will come with more drama than the next. You see, my DH had a failed reversal, so he asked his brother to be the donor. Dh's brother said yes but his fiancee was wishy washy at first, then agreed to it, before I even permitted the process I always asked her, met with her and had her reassure me before the procedure ever happened, she always told me yes and I assured her if she changed her mind before hand that I was more than ok to find another donor, each and every time we met.

Later they broke up ( over unrelated and private issues of their own) and DH's brother became our official donor after another serious discussion on if it was ok, he was and DH assured me it was ok, and then a few months later I am pregnant with this little one. Now the brother and his ex-fiancee are back together and she is ok with it but having emotional issues on if this is going to be a girl. She herself does not want any more children and has been 100% upfront with BIL and us about it, but she has all boys and still insists she doesn't want any more children even now.. Yet there is this unease in the air with just her and it's putting me all in a tizzy after checking, rechecking and double checking with her last year before they even broke up before I would even consider doing the IUI. I'd have opened up about this sooner, but I felt that it wouldn't be the best place for it..however now I feel comfortable with everyone here and know that there would be understanding about the new situation. I need a bit of comfort with this anxiety I'm feeling, even if it's to get it out somewhere safe where backlash won't hit.

Oh wow! I'm so sorry hun. I get why you would feel weird about her but she has absolutely no claim and you can tell her that..nor is it any of her business! It isn't your fault she couldn't have a girl. UGH! As far as the ultrasound goes, I think we all feel that same anxiety. Mine is getting closer and I can feel the baby much more now and you think that would ease mine but it doesn't. I just want a healthy baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes...that's what I want to see.

honestly hearing from others she has no claim is helping. I personally do not like dealing with individuals who are jealous or make the air uncomfortable, which is really what I am concerned about. I do not want this anxiety to take away from learning what my LO is, which is why I HAD to bring it up today, sort it out, talk about it and get reassurance from you lovely ladies about it. Oh my goodness right?! I am so super paranoid with this little one more than I have with my other pregnancies, I just might give in and get a doppler to help me out since scans won't be as often from my understanding, I could be wrong though But yes! Definitely a healthy baby 100%

 

[mwel8819]

Cuddle- Hugs mama! It will all be okay. You have a great BIL and it sounds like he is on your side and he is right, it was his choice. Don't let her take your joy!
Yes, a doppler...I have one...now I wonder if she/he has more than one arm. lol! She takes so many swipes at the doppler, that I can hear.

 

[cuddlebugluv]

Cuddle- Hugs mama! It will all be okay. You have a great BIL and it sounds like he is on your side and he is right, it was his choice. Don't let her take your joy!
Yes, a doppler...I have one...now I wonder if she/he has more than one arm. lol! She takes so many swipes at the doppler, that I can hear.

I think the babes have a knack for knowing where the "annoying intruder" is lol! last appointment I had my little sprout was kicking at the monitor the whole time, very " not today!" attitude lol!

Thanks mwel, I'm going to try and not let her get in my head, I don't need that anxiety and I want to be happy and not fretting the " omg now how am I going to go about.." ect ect.

 

[MissMarpleFan]

Oh my oh my, you ladies have been chatty while I've gone! (my brother got married)

I'll never catch up! Hope everybody is doing well. I wouldn't worry about the other lady, cuddle. She's just being ridiculous even sharing those jealous feelings with you.

Here is my 17 week bump photo, my charming DH says it doesn't look like a beer belly anymore.

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Cuddle- you have an amazing BIL and should just focus on that aspect of it. He did something so amazing for you and your husband. She sounds like a jealous wench who doesn’t like seeing people happy so she can go shove off.