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11 weeks and single mum to be

tinkabells

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Hi all,

Well i found out i was pregnant when we had that horrible snow, the father doesnt want anything to do with the baby, as his now back with his ex who he already has a baby with, we were never together as a couple as such, we just went back and fourth from each other for over a year, i never knew he was with her, he said he only saw her when he saw his daughter, which his now said they are always on and off, but he keeps asking questions about me and the baby through mutrual friends..

I've had my 1st scan on monday my doctor thought i was about 14 weeks now but scan said im now 11 weeks, which is more true as i knew date which it all happened as they say. But going back for 2nd scan in 2 weeks time as baby is abit small, but i was a small baby.

Im just looking for people to talk to in simular situations or from that sort of single parents back with advice or to just chat with when hormones are taking over and i just want to cry about everything!!

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xxx
 
aw sweetie...I did my pregnancy alone too. And it sucks. But in the end you pick yourself up and prove that you're better than him! You can msg me anytime =)
 
Welcome & Congrats.. It's hard at first coming to terms with being on your own but it does sound like your better off without :hugs:
 
Awww that's really nice of you, my parents are being really supportive with everything, but ya know what you want advice from people who dont really know you etc, but im just feeling blah at the moment and never used any type of site like this before this forum its all very new to me! xxx
 
Yeah, but he annoys me, because he rung me tuesday as he heard i was in hospital and i got alot of my chest with him, saying that he needs to remember this is his choice that he wants nothing to do with his 2nd child 1st to me but his 2nd, and that his bestfriends and other mates are going to be seeing his child and his not, and he said it breaks his heart thinking about it and that he still loves me, his always said this its nothing new there, but he then says he just cant be with me, and can i keep it quite that im having a baby and not tell people its his, i've said no its gonna be pretty obvious when people see me that im pregnant, im showing already!!! But i said to him my friends and family will know his the father, im not gonna shout it from the roof tops but he its cos he doesnt want his bird knowing about his 2nd child on the way, but am i wrong in saying everything will come out in the end and its best for him to come out now rather than later!!
God it just annoys me, and does anyone else have very vivid dreams now?! xxx
 
Firstly, welcome to BnB!! :hi: this sites great for everything, you'll love it!

Sounds like you're better off without him hun. He sounds like a headwreck to be honest (Hope you don't mind me saying that..?) He can't be telling you he loves you but can't be with you and asking you to not tell people. If I were you i'd tell his current girlfriend, she deserves to know what he's really like too. But thats just my opinion.

I had very vivid dreams when I was pregnant! Pain in thee bum sometimes :dohh: Hope you're keeping well xx
 
No can call him all the names, but i couldnt tell his current girlfriend i only know her name, but i know she should know and i've said that to him, but he needs to tell her, im not gonna be the one who does that, i just want him involved in my childs life, if he can make time for his other child he needs to do it for this one xxx
 
he sounds like a funny one "dont tell people its my child" everyones gonna find out one day sooner or later when the child is older thats just a stupid thing to say and he does need to tell his otherhalf because your child is gonna be brother/sister with his gf's child.

sounds like a sticky situation but i think your doing a great job i went through my pregnancy alone and it was hard but that was because i had a condition called SPD which is so painfull. maybe hes still in shock with the whole thing but one things for sure he needs to snap out of it and come to terms with reality he cant go around deneying he has a child with you how horrible would that be on the baby.

i wouldnt tell his gf that might cause a lot more trouble you dont know how she would take it she might be violet or anything. he needs to tell her and soon before someone else does.

if you ever need to talk just pm me chick xx
 
Welcome to BnB! I didn't do my pregnancy alone but have pretty much brought up my daughter as a single parent (when with my ex he rarely fed her, changed her nappy and NEVER got up with her in the night or bathed her) and I am not living with him anymore. If you ever need to chat just PM me :) good luck with your pregnancy
 
Just want to say welcome and congrats on your little one. Its hard at first trust me I been there. But at the end its worth it and less aggrivation
 
Awww thanks to everyone, i will be intouch if i need a chat thank you all, it just helps to talk to people who dont know anyone that i know and i am free to say what and how i am feeling without it getting back to other people if ya know what i am, i'v been really good better than i thouhght and thought i would slag him off to all his mates but that just wont help anyone or the baby or me etc xxx
 
You're welcome, like I said, anytime you feel like talking you can just send me a PM. I love moaning about my ex lol and I'm sure you do too, we can moan together!
 

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