13 month old - not sleeping through

[grover]

HI,

I am sure people have some tips for me out there. My 13 month old is getting up 3-4 times during the night. He used to sleep from 8-8, but that has stopped for the past 2 months.

I don;t rock him to sleep - generally its bath, story, milk, cuddles and bed. I stay in his room until he goes to sleep in his cot(normally within 5/10 mins). but then he gets up - last night he went to bed at 8, then was up at 12, 3, 4. Eventually i put him in bed with me and went back to sleep after having some milk. I am finding that i am having to do this more and more. i am too tired at 4am to try and get him to sleep - have to be up at 6 for work

What can i do to improve his sleeping - he used to be fine, but i feel we are being punished now for getting used to sleeping through

He is cutting his girst few teeth - but i give him calpol and he is not crying in pain. What can i do? Anny suggestions welcome

 

[chubbin]

My LO very rarely sleeps through. When he's teething, he seems to barely sleep at all! All I can do is offer my sympathies - I work too, it's very tiring isnt it xx

 

[Sazzoire]

Lucy wasn't sleeping through at 12 months and we were getting desperate... we made matters worse by giving her milk or cuddles in the nights as so she was waking out of habit rather than actually 'needing' something...... I completely recommend controlled crying... other may not agree but it has been a lifesaver for us.

XX

 

[grover]

Hi,

I was thinking of stopping his milk at night, but normally if he goes to sleep at 8 and wakes around 5, then i will give him milk and he sleeps for about another hour or so.... is this spoiling him or could he be genuinely hungry by that time?

we have tried controlled crying but he goes so mental, he gets really agitated and has made himself sick in the past by crying..... little tinkers they know which buttons to push!

soooooo knackered!

 

[Peardrop]

I have an awful sleeper also. We have used PUPD at 6 months to good effect and then CC whenever he needed a reminder. In the last 6 weeks one thing after another has caused it to become awful again (illness, teeth, jabs and now starting nursery). I don't want to do CC at the moment as I feel he is waking worried but do need to help him to resettle as he can be awake for hours which is no good for his wellbeing as he still wakes early. Anyway I have gone back to PUPD and then rubbing his back/sitting with him until he is completely asleep. I am being very consistent but he is getting cuddles/comfort from me being there. I am hoping this will work!

I recommend not giving milk until a certain time (like 5) and then stretching that over time, don't bring him into your bed - he stays in his room in low light until getting up time. Be consistent. I don't think he will suddenly sleep and it may take a couple of hours and over a number of days to get him to sleep but it gets easier. Can you start on a Friday night and get support from your OH and then catch up on sleep the next day? Also is his daytime routine good and consistent even when you are at work and us he having enough/not too much day sleep etc?

 

[maybebaby3]

i feel your pain. my 14 month old wakes 4-8 times a night. i'm exhausted. i am trying controlled crying, which i really wanted to avoid but there was no other option really!!! have been doing this since wednesday and although he is still waking he's taking shorter time to settle already.

 

[caggimedicine]

Harry was still waking 5-6 times a night at 14 months old. We were going in and cuddling him / giving him milk.

We realised he was crying JUST for attention and not because he was scared / upset / in pain etc. He didn't NEED the milk at that age either. We chose to do controlled crying which isn't for everyone, but it worked for us and put an end to him waking up. He does still sometimes wake once a night for a drink of water, but that's it.

 

[sun]

My LO started sleeping through at 18 months. But he was only waking 1-2x a night, which I thought was totally fine - and it was usually for BF or because he was thirsty. If he was waking 4+ times a night, I probably would have looked into other options as that is so exhausting.

 

[grover]

he only has 1 nap a day and sleeps for about an hour, maybe 1.5 hours at most. i find that when he has a longer nap during the day, he gets up much more during the night. his grandparents look after him when i work and they are pretty consistent with meal and nap times... he goes to my mum for 2 days then m-in-law for 2. do you think that might be upsetting him?

 

[Miss_Bump]

Evie was a great sleeper up until just after her birthday.

Now she wakes about 2-3 times a night and we are pretty much full time bedsharing for now

 

[MissPiggy]

i can only tell you what we've done, Kayson has never been a great sleeper, and now doesnt wake in the night!!

Foods such as banana (which are more difficult to digest) are not allowed after 3pm

He has a rather large lunch, and a smaller tea..
3 bottles of milk a day
and if he's tired i'll let him nap

he grazes alot as well, we always have food on the side so if he wants it he can, he also drinks alot of water/juice.

We do Pick Up Put Down routine at bedtime, and since starting that he's been a much better sleeper and napper

Hope starts sleeping more soon xxx