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[XsarahGrace]

finally coming to terms that after 2 and a half years me and my bf are finally over,
and his now twisting things and being really horrible,
i have never had a probably with his mum although her problem with me,
and thats what started the arguments,
and for the past 48hours since it happend all i can do is cry and feel rubbish,
i don't know how i'm going to cope and every one seems to thiink i'm in the wrong for not wanting him to come to my scan in 2 weeks, his my first real love and this is hurting more then i ever thought it would i can't sit in the same room with him i know i'll end up crying and distressing my self or getting angry.

i just wish everyone else would see that, his changed his number so i can only get info to hiim threw his sister as of today and all i want to do is sit here and talk to hiim but i know things now thaat makes it worse, since finding out i was pregnant his cheated on me 4 times, with 2 exs and both of them new i was pregnant and we was still together
i feel so ashamed of myself for still loving him.

i feel so worthless, i wasted 2 and a half years i have over two draws of his stuff i wanted him to collect and i'm usually in and his reply was bin it.

the last thing i said to is i hope your happy for everything you've put me threw this past 3 months and his reply is you deserve.

i really don't know what i'm going to do i can't even come to terms with the fact last week he loved me and this past 48 hours he hates me and cheated on me.


i never wanted my child to grow up without a dad, i know how it feels and i just wish he'd see that he can be involved, but he says he doesn't know if he wants to with this child.

 

[xJG30]

So sorry you're going through this

 

[AppleBlossom]

*hugs* I think this is the case for all men when they split up with their partners. They all turn into pathetic pigs

 

[Happybeans]

I know its no excuse but the thought of having to grow up and become a father does strange things to some men. However it doesn't give him the excuse. In general I would say he is confused. Just leave him be for a bit. I'm sure in a few weeks he will realise that he does want to see ur child and be there. Hopefully u will b able to put ur differences aside and both do the best for ur baby.

My ex keeps changing his mind 2 and while he's like that I'm not letting him come to first scan coz I need some1 who is going to be there throughout.

Hun just do wot u feel is right. U need time to mend ur broken heart and to get ur strengh back together. I really hope it all works out in the end. But the fact he cheated on his pregnant girlfriend just shows that ur better than him.

Good luck and if u want to chat pm me.

Take care.

X

 

[Welshcob]

Sarah Grace
I was soo sorry to read your message. Honey! you are not alone! I am in the same boat and have those same feelings you have. My FOB - Just stopped contact from saying he lovedme to hating me too! I think it can be normal esp if they are abusive. But it doesn't help us to come to terms with it or try to understand the in comprehensible behaviour they show. I am working on this myself....try not to understand it because there is no understanding - it doesn't make sense and that is that. Don't blame the other women..if you can...because I am sure that he lied to them!
You will make it...we all will! As you may know I am off to court tomorrow. I am scared stiff. I have to see FOB too, he'll stare at me with eyes full of hate...as he alleges that I was abusive. Just dreadful. And he got all his tools and weapons from a program that he attended to reform abusive men. I - like you , just have to take one step at a time. You want to be reasonable and you want to have a baby with a father. Me too ...but we don't have that choice! You can do it honey! So can I! ...Happy Beans is here too and shes doing great! xxx

 

[HelsTT]

Im sorry to hear about your situation. It seems so many people have trouble with their partners... its sad.
I was with my bf for 3 years, we always talked about having children in the future..... and even discussed what would happen if i accidentally got pregnant. he said he'd be happy.
found out yesterday i am pregnant.... bf has flipped out, ranting, raving, and at one point theatening SUICIDE unless i get an abortion because this is apparently going to ruin HIS life!!!!! he has calmed down now, and is now at the begging and sobbing stage for me to have an abortion.
There is no way i am doing that and have told bf just to walk away from the situation and i wont expect or ask for anything from him. i have supportive parents at least.
It is hard realising u will prob be raising a child without a father. and i def didnt want that either. but its not impossible, and with help and support from friends, family and forums im sure u will be fine!
x

 

[tinkabells]

Awww im sorry to hear what your going through, need a rant just let it all out xxx