15 and 3 month pregnant

[Jorja15]

Hiia. I'm Jorja. i'm 15 and 3 months Pregnant. The dad doesn't want to know. Anybody got any advice?
Thanks. x

 

[Genna]

the father doesn't want to know if you're pregnant? Tough luck! He is half responsible for that LO and needs to take responsibility. Tell him! Are you still together?

 

[mummymadness]

He has a responsibility like you hun .
Be prepared , try finish school , be honest with your family , And try relax and rest . Thats the only advice i have hun .
Good luck . xx .

 

[Becky]

Where are you from hun? Congratulations! You dont need him with that attitude your baby will be better off without him x

 

[kellysays2u]

What does the dad not want to know? If he is saying he doesnt want to know your pregnant then he must already have a feeling you are... or do you mean he doesnt want you to find out the sex of the baby or something? Really confused.

 

[indianorchi]

Congratulations. That's really sad about the father, how selfish of him.
I don't know what I would've done if I got pregnant at 15 (be confused as I hadn't had sex by then...), I found it hard enough at 18! But that's just me, people do it all the time and are great mums. Good luck

 

[cherylanne]

The farther has to face upto the fact your having his baby weather he likes it or not babe. Talk to him (if you can) and tell him that he should be there for his child. Are you in a relationship with him?

All you can do is take care of yourself and the baby. If your 3 months now, you could still finish your exams before baby is born?

Good luck sweetie xxx

 

[nataliecn]

He should know. What he does with that information is one thing, but you deserve help and support through this if he may be willing to give it. Otherwise, you have come to the right place. I'm sure you'll love it here at BnB!

Congrats on your pregnancy (I'm assuming you are infact happy about it?... Didn't say much in your post, so I'm not 100% sure)

 

[nikky0907]

The fact that he doesn't wanna know shouldn't really concern you. It's his responsibility too and he better face up to it.
Tell your parents as soon as possible and consult with them about finishing school and finances.If your boyfriend decides to bail on you,you can still sue him for child support.

Welcome to BnB!

 

[Ell.Bishh]

By doesnt want to know do you mean he doesnt want anything to do with it?
Well tbh even if he doesnt he has a responsibility and he can moan all he wants, it takes two to make a baby so i'd have afew words with him and if he doesnt want to be in the babies life in bringing it up its his loss hun, and if he refuses to pay, you can force child support off him.
Have you told your parents? If not i'd do it right away, i found it was easier to get it over and done with rather than drag it out worrying and waiting, you'll need all the support you can get off them so the earlier the better.

Good Luck (im presuming your happy about the pregnancy?) and welcome to bnb xx

 

[Jorja15]

By Doesn't want to know i meen i've told him and he doesn't want anything to do with the baby. In his words ' If you don't f***ing get rid of it, then make sure that i'm not involved with anything'
I've told my mum and shes supporting me.
I'm from Lancashire and in year 10. so wil have another year left at school having the baby. But am going to try and get good gcse's still.
thanks for advice xxx

 

[Jorja15]

When do you have your first scan?
Is it different than normal pregnancys when your younger?
xx

 

[nataliecn]

What a jerk.
I'd slap him upside the head if I could!!!!! Glad to hear your mum is supportive though, so that you're not on your own! Hopefully he comes around hun!

Generally, from what I've read from other girls, you'll have your first scan around 12 weeks. It's a little different here in Canada, you get the 12 week scan if you're unsure of when you concieved..

Usually one around 12 weeks, and again around 20. Shouldn't be any different if you're 15 or 30, unless ofcourse they determine you're high risk! But otherwise, you'd be going about everything and your appointments just like everyone else would!

 

[missbingohead]

sounds to me like your best off without him babe, i was the same as you pregnant at 15 and the dad didnt want to no!
my mum was fantastic and the rest off my family was behind me,
my son is 11 years old this month, im not saying its going to be easy but it will all be worth it.

 

[Laura--x]

I'd say your best off without him aswell. Just make sure you get the money off him, after all it is his baby and he should be supporting him/her, even if it's not with his love, he can pay so you can get her milk/clothes ect.

You'll have your scan anytime between 12-14 weeks usually, have you booked in with a dr yet?? If your 3 months already and havn't told the dr ,it be a bit later. All pregnancies are the same whatever the age,unless problems are found and/or your considered high risk for one reason or another.

take care xx

 

[princess_t]

your better off with out him hun, glad you got ur moms support.

 

[cherylanne]

Hi hun. I don't think the scan dates change because your a little younger. A date scan around 12 weeks and then another scan at 20 weeks is normal proceedure. I'm in Lancashire to, where abouts are you? xxx

 

[NatalieW]

Jorja, he isn't worth it. The main thing is that your mum is being supportive. She will be your strength. Have you told the school about being pregnant? It is really good that you want to get all your GCSEs, will be hardwork but worth it!

 

[alice&bump]

hey hun, congrats. dont know where abouts in lancashire you are, but i live in stockport, and there's a place here called the moat house which is like a school for pregnant teens and teen mums. they still teach you school stuff, but are more flexible and once LO is here they look after them whilst you're being taught. dont know if its open to out of areas people, but it might be worth looking into xx