16 and pregnant

[mikaylaxbaby]

I am about 6 weeks pregnant and I'm excited, but so so scared! I haven't told my parents yet.. I have no idea what to say. They aren't too pleased with the choices I've made in the past already, so I know they're going to be so disappointed in me. I am not with the father of the baby, but I am almost certain he will be supportive. I recently moved to California, but if I go back to Idaho (which is where the father is), my manager has already told me he will give me my job back, and the father has two jobs, so I'm not too worried about financially being able to take care of a child. I also do online school and am on the right track to graduate early, so I can be graduated by the time baby is here! I'm just so worried of my parents' initial reactions! any advice from someone that has gone through/going through the same thing, which I'm sure every teen mom is scared to tell their parents, would be so helpful!

 

[ClairAye]

Hello, welcome and congratulations! :wave:

My parents were really not happy with me when I fell pregnant at 16, (2 months off 17) my mum took a few weeks but my dad hardly spoke to me until I was 25/27 weeks pregnant but right from the start they have doted on my children. The sooner the better I say as if they do react badly it gives them more time to get their heads around it!

 

[lisaalove]

I have to agree with pp I was 14 when I got pregnant and 15 when I gave birth to my son. When my parents found out they were probably the worst reaction you could expect from parents. I was a freshman and had just gotten out of a treatment facility for running away and doing drugs. So they didn't expect much from me to say the least they opted for an abortion I told them I would (though I knew in my heart I couldn't) then they pushed adoption on me saying my life would be ruined or worse that I would ruin my baby's life. So I pretended to go along with that. I looked at potential parents with my mom but even she knew and she could see through my lies. She knew I would keep him so when I told her just over a month before I was due that I couldn't do the adoption she brought up a ton of baby stuff upstairs from the basement and told me she knew that's what I would chose. My father didn't come around till my son was born he thought I was ruining my life. To be honest though my son is the reason I have gotten so far. I graduated a year early, met a wonderful man who has raised my son as his own (my son's bio dad refused to stop doing drugs so I told him I wouldn't have that in my son's life) we live in our own place and are working on buying a house. We are also pregnant with our second child. No matter how your parents react just know that everything you do is for you and your baby. Make sure you approach the situation in as much of an adult manner as possible and have a plan before you tell them. Such as financial possibilities and school. They will feel much better about it if they know you are thinking of things logically and not just "oh a baby how cute"
Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best, and no matter what stand your ground ♡ good luck sweetheart I know how nerve wracking it can be.

 

[baymax]

Welcome and congratulations!! I just turned 20 and found out I was pregnant on my birthday, I'm almost 6 weeks Although our situations are a little different, I do know how you're feeling. I also haven't told my parents (or the father yet, for that matter - we're not together) - I'm super nervous as to how my parents will react!

Definitely agree with both pp's though. I've heard that although some may take it negatively at first, your parents usually turn out to be your biggest support system throughout this whole thing, so the sooner the better! You seem to be very together and have a good plan/idea of how you'll manage this, which is great. Another poster told me it definitely helps to have a definite plan of how you'll manage everything and present that to your parents (perhaps after they've calmed down, in some cases ), which you seem to have sorted.

I'll definitely be telling my parents sometime next week though. Good luck to both of us

 

[x__amour]

Welcome and congratulations. Best of luck to you.

 

[BabyCleo]

Congrats! Tell your parents soon. Like others have said, it gives them more time to wrap their heads around it. xo

 

[SydneyCA]

First of all, congratulations!

My name is Sydney. I'm 17 years old and I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my little man.

I don't have much advice when it comes to telling your parents because I didn't have to tell mine. What I can say is the sooner the better. They'll probably be upset at first, but your parents will likely be your biggest support system.

Good luck!

 

[Emzywemzy12]

Hey I'm Emma and I am 16 years old turning 17 this year. I am 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow. First thing I did was I told my sister as me and my sister are very close that I think I'm pregnant and she said right let's go do a test and stay at mine and I'll have to tell mum. And that's exactly what happened she told my mum and my mum talked to me have me some money to get a test and ringed doctors to book a appointment. So that's what happened I suggest you do tell them cos even thou they will be disappointed every parent does but that's the thing thou tell the person ur more close to first. I have already started to see a change in myself I have up smoking straight away and I always make sure I'm well presented and I eating healthy and right things. My dad found out a few weeks ago and did flip in shock as any dad would but he is coming around to the idea now and I have the most supportive boyfriend ever. At the end of the day you have got to do what's right for your child like they have to think what's right for you as we are still young our parents need to support us and when we don't have that support u have to support urself and even other teen mothers to be like myself we will help u and guide you and be here for u. All you have to do is ask and be confident and strong. If you think about it if you don't tell them soon they gunna be more disappointed in u for not saying anything and you know it was and is the right thing to do.

 

[DoodleDoo]

Welcome and congratulations I'm Demi, I'm 19 and expecting my first baby. My parents cried and cried when I told them and tried to make me get rid of the baby. However they've now came around and are being so supportive.

It's always going to be tough when you're not expecting it but it sounds as if you have a plan forming. Good luck with telling your parents!