16 and ttc

[mrscookie]

hey hun, i presume you and your bf have both got full time jobs? You got your own place yet?
xx

 

[bird24]

Did you watch 'baby borrowers' by any chance? If not have a look on bbc three website and see what they and their relationships had to go through when they were looking after other peoples babies, toddlers and teenagers for a few days, that programme was a real eye opener and most of the relationships didnt last because of how hard it was....have a watch on u tube too if you can....
Goodluck with whatever you decide to do xx

 

[Serene123]

I'm not meaning to be a hypercrit but if I wasn't pregnant I would've waited a long time before having my baby. I would've worked towards a great job, got a lovely home, saved enough money.. If you've done all of that and you're happy, then try..

 

[mrscookie]

as I said in another post, I just hope its not a case of '' tax payer handouts''. I had a job at 16, alot of people do so maybe you are financially ok, having said that, at a meager 3 quid odd an hour, I highly doubt it. please reconsider hun, think about what you are doing for just a bit longer. Do you have any family with young babies or children? maybe babysit and see what its like?
xxx

 

[m_t_rose]

I hope you chose to reconsider, it is not fair to the child to be brought into a family who can only give them love but nothing else. It is different if it is a accident but to be tried for is a different story. Have you told your mom you are going to try?? What does she say about it?

 

[Maria+Cookie]

I agree with all the other B&B members im 17 and having my first right now im not with my babys father anymore cuz he cldnt handle it we started off the same way u guys r and it all whent down after that if u think getting pregnant at 16 is a good idea i think u should think twice because then u guys might regret wat u r doing its not easy going through pregnancy at a younge age its harder for younger gurls then it is for anyone older im already 8 and a half almost due and its getting harder and harder for me and the babys father to keep up with each about the baby other than that i think its better if u wait until u kno ur fully ready and not get pregnant jst because it looks cute but if u think its a good idea to start TTC at this age u should think it over before u move any on to the next step

 

[brownhairedmom]

Okay, honestly I cannot even begin to explain to you how much I have changed since I was 16. The thought had crossed my mind back then when I was with my boyfriend whom I "loved" so much. But if it had happened, it would have been the worst possible thing that has ever happened to me.

I'm not even ready NOW and I'm graduating university this year and I'm 20 and living with my boyfriend.

 

[cinderella08]

I have to agree with the other posters... So much can change when you are 16 years old... I would think VERY carefully....

 

[Carley]

I really don't think it's fair to bring a child into the world if you can not support it. Sure you can give it love, but honestly babies need more then love. Life experience sure pays a lot when raising a baby.

 

[Clara101]

Im not sure if i agree or not, im 18, OH is 19. Im 21 weeks pregnant and it was planned. Sort of, I came off the pill for 6 months 2 see what would happen and we reasoned that what was meant 2 be would happen and I fell pregnant on the 6th month off the pill, was gonna start taking the pill like 4 days later when i found out it had finally happened. I wouldnt change it 4 the world, but then we have our own flat, both work full time and make good money, both drive and have cars. I dont live off benefits and would not dream of doing so, although we arent sure what will happen when babe is born, whether il go back to work or not, probs go back part time, because otherwise we wont be able 2 survive.
Do you live 2gether?
Do you work?
Can you afford to have a baby?
What are your reasons?

 

[~KACI~]

I'm sure you going to do what you think is best but all i can say is please don't regret it in a couple of years time, if you need to chat you can PM me anytime. I'm 20 and have 2 lil darlings, i was never one for goin out so that didn't bother me much but there are a couple of things which i now regret not doin like learning to drive or have a holiday abroad with just my partner. Make the decision that best for you and good luck x x

 

[sao]

I just read this post and it reminds me of how hard its going to be for me from now on im 17 and i got pregnant it was totally unplanned and at the time me and my OH were in college working and living together we were planning to go to uni and traveling together in years to come. when i found out i was pregnant we realised we had to change things in our life so we could suport a baby so my OH had to leave college and joined the army so we can live atm my health is to poor for me to go back to work and we lost our flat so until we get married quarters my mum has been a star and moved me in with her but theres not a day that goes by were i dont feel guilty and like im living of them and i hate it. i dont regret keeping my baby and i cant wait to be a mummy but i know that life is going to be far from easy and i have to work my ass off cuz i am not willing to let my baby start off in life with anything less then i had. I i really hope u have thought it through cuz its by far one of the most important choice you will make good luck hun

saoxx

 

[Diggy]

I know the OP hasn't been back on in a while but I wanted to add a few things.

I'm 31 and now a single father to twins. It's difficult for me and I am on my own with a well paying job. There are things you need to consider before having a baby at a tender age, along with all that the previous posters have said.

Is your BF able to take care of a baby should something happen to you during the birth? I'm not trying to scare you or be negative but my wife died during the birth of our twins.
Could you handle taking care and supporting a baby if it has special needs, or if by chance you end up with more than one baby?

I do not mean to put down any of the young mothers on here but they gave excellent advice and I hope you take their advice and try not to grow up so quickly. Build a relatinship with your boyfriend first, get yourself in a valuable direction and complete some goals.

 

[Emsi76]

I am going to be one of those annoying old folk who is going to tell you to wait!!!

You have the rest of your lives to be parents and you will both go through many changes in your personalities in the next few years!

If however, you feel you must do this, i hope your OH has a good job and a home to provide the little one with when he or she arrives. Just remember, when all of your friends are getting ready to go out on a Friday night, you will be changing nappies....

Please think it over very carefully!!

Good Luck

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