17 weeks pregnant petrified I am or will have a missed miscarriage

[mzmimmi]

Hi there, I don't know if I'm writing in the right place, I am 17 weeks pregnant and I have been to hell and back to get here. Literally. I have been told I will never have children and my husband and I have been trying for 5 years. In that time I've had 4 missed miscarriages. The last one was the other twin of this baby and happened 2 months ago. I know people say missed miscarriages are rare but all mine have been that way. The last one was the worst because im still pregnant so I had to control my sadness and not let myself get to upset (tears)......... anyway my next scan is in a week. I have no symptoms right now. My morning sickness has gone, my tummy seems flatter and I feel nothing. As far as I know I could've miscarried again and I have no idea! Believe me I really want to be happy and excited I do I wanted this for so long but im just too scared. I can't show my family or hubby because they get mad and tell me I need to snap out of it. Feel very alone and scared of bad news at next weeks scan (( can't stop crying alone.

 

[RaspberryK]

Those things are pretty normal for this stage in pregnancy however I understand your worries.
I just wanted to say you can still grieve and you have every reason and right to be upset about the loss of one twin.
That's like saying I already have a ds and I'm pregnant now so I can't be sad about the baby I lost in February hun.


Xx

 

[MolGold]

I am so sorry you are experiencing this

Perhaps you could get a private scan, or even better, invest in a Doppler to check on baby's heart to keep yourself at ease and not worry yourself sick the rest of the pregnancy.

Wishing you a Happy and healthy pregnancy ahead!

 

[QuintinsMommy]

it's normal to worry, I agree with the poster above maybe getting a doppler would help.

 

[TexasCharlee]

Oh hun, big

I haven't had any missed miscarriages, but I've had 2 early losses and have been so paranoid with this pregnancy. I bought a doppler at 10 weeks and have been using it ever since. The peace of mind I get from being able to listen to baby's heartbeat anytime I want is so amazing!

I bought the Sonoline B Fetal Doppler, it looks just like the one my doctor has.

 

[Perplexed]

I'm so sorry about your losses

Probably extra scans or a doppler as other posters said can help make you feel at ease. Hopefully they can make your pregnancy more relaxed.

 

[Dini]

I'm so sorry you are going through this! I second everyone else, a doppler would be a great investment they are about $50usd and I'm so so glad I got one. After trying for 4 years and also being told we would never get pregnant on our own it just gives me piece of mind.

 

[mod19]

Agree with all above posters. I've not felt any symptoms the last week either, but I know Peanut is OK since I had a Dr appt today and heart rate was 150. I have a Doppler as well...although I'm not as good at using it as some women are on here. I tried for 4 years to have this one too. I've had three pregnancies, 2 ectopics and this one. I've just had faith the entire time. Every time someone would say "hopefully this one works out" I've always correctes them saying it WILL work out. I can completely understand why you're freaking out. If I were in your situation I would be too. I really think a doppler and/or private scan would do you well.

 

[mzmimmi]

Thanks everyone for your support. I want to get a doppler you're all right. My doctor was against me getting one but I have to do something because I'm just not coping anymore. I think I will get one.

 

[mzmimmi]

Just letting you all know I had my doc appointment at 18 weeks and so far so good baby is fine! Was so relieved I started to cry!!! And today I bought a doppler even though my doc disagreed. He said it will make me more stressed....... but I know me and this constant waiting for an appointment to see if everything is ok, is stressing me more!! So I bought one and I feel good about that.

 

[RaspberryK]

Lovely update xx

 

[BSelck24]

So glad everything is fine!! You got this!!

 

[MeaganMackenz]

Doppler gas saved my sanity since 8 weeks. Do what you need to to feel better xo

 

[GreyGirl]

Great news! I have similar fears, different reasons. I'm almost convinced there'll be nothing to see at the scan on Tuesday.

 

[Hopefulk]

I've had two mmc and a successful pregnancy since then but STILL I am absolutely paranoid so in that way, I understand what you are going through. It must be heartbreaking and you must be torn in half to be experiencing the loss of one twin and the happiness of carrying the other.

Feeling as you do at the moment is complete normal -
There has been a recent thread about the lull at the beginning of the second trimester when the symptoms have decreased and you can't yet feel any movement. I imagine you'll feel movement soon but in the meantime, call your go to hear the heartbeat again and buy/borrow a doppler to set your mind at rest.

Big hugs.xxx

 

[Dini]

So glad all is well and I think the doppler will make you feel loads better! Mine sure does.

I'm feeling light movement now but still love the reassurance of the doppler!