18 and possibly pregnant?

[LeaElizabeth]

I'm 18, 19 in 3 months. My boyfriend who is also 18 and I are in a committed relationship and are to be engaged soon. We have never used a condom, poor decision I know. But it's just what we've felt comfortable with, I'm not on any birth control either. My period is regular every month and I typically have a 27 day cycle. We have sex on both the 14th and 15th of September unprotected, he didn't pull out all the way either time. My fertile days for September were the 14-19, and I was most likely to Ovulate on the 18th. I was supposed to stat my period today.
I just need some advice on when I should be taking a pregnancy test? I'm not too worried about being Pregnant in general, but I'm just not knowing what too look for, so i'd really like to hear from other teens.

 

[Mocha]

Whether he pulled out or not honestly doesn't even matter; you can get pregnant even if he doesn't cum at all. Precum can contain sperm and it takes just one to get you pregnant. So yes it's definitely possible that you are.

Since you know when you're supposed to get your period and you've missed it, it's ok to test now. Just check the package of various preg. tests to see what they say. Most allow you to test a few days before your expected period. Take it first thing in the morning and wait the full time to see the results, because they can take that long to appear and even a faint result is still a positive.

 

[Jas029]

I'm 18, 19 in 3 months. My boyfriend who is also 18 and I are in a committed relationship and are to be engaged soon. We have never used a condom, poor decision I know. But it's just what we've felt comfortable with, I'm not on any birth control either. My period is regular every month and I typically have a 27 day cycle. We have sex on both the 14th and 15th of September unprotected, he didn't pull out all the way either time. My fertile days for September were the 14-19, and I was most likely to Ovulate on the 18th. I was supposed to stat my period today.
I just need some advice on when I should be taking a pregnancy test? I'm not too worried about being Pregnant in general, but I'm just not knowing what too look for, so i'd really like to hear from other teens.

I can't really help you on when to take the test, By the time I took mine I was already fairly far along and it immediately said pregnant because I was so far already.. All I can say is when you do take it do it your first morning pee..Sorry that's all I got..Hope you get what your wanting!

 

[LeaElizabeth]

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I can't really help you on when to take the test, By the time I took mine I was already fairly far along and it immediately said pregnant because I was so far already.. All I can say is when you do take it do it your first morning pee..Sorry that's all I got..Hope you get what your wanting! [/QUOTE]

Alright thanks, i'm not sure when Im going to test, i've been getting a cramping sensation for a few seconds for the past few days, I dont know if it is my period or the implantation.

 

[Mocha]

Alright thanks, i'm not sure when Im going to test, i've been getting a cramping sensation for a few seconds for the past few days, I dont know if it is my period or the implantation.

Yeah it can be hard to tell. I had cramping and thought my period was finally coming but in the end I never got it, but did have spotting for about two weeks after that.

 

[kit603]

You can take a pregnancy test any time from the day your period is due (today) and you could have even taken an early response test before that (about 7 days before I believe). The sooner the better because it gives you more time to make decisions and prepare yourself. Also, if you are pregnant then the first 12 weeks are the most important in terms of taking vitamins such as folic acid to help development and you need to know so that you can reduce/stop anything like drinking/smoking if you're going to keep the baby.

You can either get a cheap test from like the pound shop/dollarstore etc or you can pay a little extra for something like a clearblue (digital if you like) or a first response pregnancy test. The only problem with cheaper tests is that if your HCG levels are quite week they don't always pick them up straight away - I know a lot of people who haven't tested positive with them until up to 14 days AFTER they were due on their period. However, other people swear by them (especially as they're cheaper).

Good luck x

 

[LeaElizabeth]

I took two first response tests one last night and one this morning,
both came up with one dark line and one faint line.
Im assuming considering the packaging says that one line may be lighter then the other and it is positive that I am indeed pregnant.

 

[Parkep]

any line is a positive hun.
i wish you the best

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Thank you, it's just really stressful, my boyfriend is at his cousins house and his phone is dead, his mom is waiting for him to get home, neither one of us has talked to him much, i haven't since Thursday night, so he doesn't know yet, he knew there's a possibility, but he doesn't know its a for sure deal yet, I just wish he'd come home and get in contact with me.
I'm very disappointed in myself, and I'm sure my parents will be too, I'm very glad I'm in college rather high school, and I have a career going for me.
But this isn't the right time, I do not believe in abortion, and I wouldn't ever have the heart to give my own flesh and blood up for adoption, we can make it financially, but I never imagined myself giving up my childhood at barely 19.

 

[kit603]

I hope that you have a very healthy pregnancy and that you and your boyfriend get through this alright. Have you thought about telling either of your parents yet? I'd also recommend that you see a doctor to check things out, get a dating scan booked etc etc

And i'm really sorry to say this, but you've admitted yourself that you've never used a condom yet you do sound really mature. I'm sure you'll have known that "pulling out" isn't really a good preventative for getting pregnant (or for STDs!) so to say that you never "imagined myself giving up my childhood at barely 19" seems a little silly - anyone having sex knows that pregnancy is a possible consequence.

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Its more of the fact that we were both blindsided that it could ever happend to us, but we were well aware of the possibilities.

His parents know, mine on the other hand will be a whole nother story.

 

[Momof2kiddos]

But this isn't the right time, I do not believe in abortion, and I wouldn't ever have the heart to give my own flesh and blood up for adoption, we can make it financially, but I never imagined myself giving up my childhood at barely 19.

hun, i dont want this to come across in a mean way at all, but you really should have thought of this before you chose to use no protection what-so-ever. my advice would be use protection from now on. and you are only giving up your childhood if you choose to look at it that way. in reality, you are 19, no where near a child anymore. i have an 18 month old that i had when i was 17, im now 19 and 23 weeks pregnant with my second little boy. it may not be the right time, but then again, you could be an expert on everything baby and it is still impossible to be fully "ready" for a baby. they change your life, but depending how you look at the situation it can be a good thing. i mean hey if nothing else just keep reminding yourself it could be a lot worse you could be 14 years old and pregnant as opposed to 19. id take a baby over many things that life could possibly dish me lol. anyway, thats just my take on the situation. welcome to the mommy club

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Now that we have had time to sit down and discuss it all, and just look at the big picture, sure it may not be the best time, but we will be making the best of it.
He is leaving for marine boot camp in may, im due sometime in june, i have my first doctor app this week to see how far along i am.
I know we can get through this.

 

[kit603]

Its more of the fact that we were both blindsided that it could ever happend to us, but we were well aware of the possibilities.

It is (unfortunately) easily done, and thousands of teens out there feel exactly the same way so you're not alone. I suppose that, whilst you've learnt quite a harsh lesson, what's done is done and at least you have the guts to make the best out of a bad situation.

Like I said, at least you're being mature about it! Lol. It always makes me wonder when you get the young teens who go into the doctors saying that they can't possibly be pregnant and then they admit that they've not used contraception, or say that it was JUST one time as though they couldn't get pregnant the first time. (My MIL actually fits into that category )

His parents know, mine on the other hand will be a whole nother story.

You'll obviously have to tell them eventually if you're keeping the baby, but at least you've told your OHs parents - are they being pretty supportive then? I'm not sure where you're from, but here you ARE legally an adult at 18 and your parents can't actually force you to get an abortion or anything anyway.

I'm actually trying for a baby now and i'm 19 myself lol - crazy huh?

Now that we have had time to sit down and discuss it all, and just look at the big picture, sure it may not be the best time, but we will be making the best of it. He is leaving for marine boot camp in may, im due sometime in june, i have my first doctor app this week to see how far along i am. I know we can get through this.

That is probably going to be really hard on you, as essentially you'll feel like a single mum quite a lot of the time. But, if you have a good support network around you and the two of you are stable then there's no reason for it not to work. Best of luck hun x

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Thanks for the support.
It'll be hard, but with me going to school to get my degree a few times a week, and one bootcamp is over he'll be bringing in an income, the timing couldnt be any more perfect the babay will be born only a a little over a month or so by the time he gets back, so we'll only be dependent on our families for that short amount of time then hell be able to support us as a family after that. Its exciting we planned to be a family anyway, even if it did come sooner.

 

[alydabom05]

congrats on that! however the military does not make that much money...my boyfrieind is in it and yes he could support me and if i had a child that too however not very well...but it is better than nothing...have you told your parents yet? hopefully everything goes well and getting your degree still is very smart and a great idea! good luck!!

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Well we will be married before he leaves, we planned to do so anyways,
so he will be supported with health insurance for the three of us and free housing because of the fact we are married, by the time i live on base with him ill be done with my associates degree, and then ill finish for my bachelors at a college near whichever base he's put on.
We wouldnt have a chance in hell making it if he wasnt going into the marines.

 

[nightkd]

It's strange, the UK military seem to have better pay... My ex was joining the RAF and the pay-scales as explained to him by someone at his interview seemed fairly generous.... Good luck to both of you anyway

I'm also 19 and TTC. Congrats on the pregnancy, even if it was a bit of a surprise!

xx

 

[LeaElizabeth]

Well I told my parents also last night, my dad was rather, upset but not mad, just like he didnt know how to take it, and my mom was just very glad it was with my boyfriend because she knows he will stand by my side. It went over a lot better then i expected.
Now we have two supportive families, I really couldnt ask for any better.

 

[kit603]

Well I told my parents also last night, my dad was rather, upset but not mad, just like he didnt know how to take it, and my mom was just very glad it was with my boyfriend because she knows he will stand by my side. It went over a lot better then i expected.
Now we have two supportive families, I really couldnt ask for any better.

That's great It must be a weight off your shoulders?