Fall in Love! September Testing Thread

[MrsKatie]

@elmum praying it’s your cycle!!

@shaescott spotting is so stupid but rage at hubby is a good sign, ask me how I know haha. Yay for higher progesterone!

AFM 10dpo, haven’t tested yet, sick of the BFNs and feeling pretty sure I’m out anyway.

 

[shaescott]

@MrsKatie yeah I’ve got a ton of wondfos so I’ve been testing like three times a day lmao. Not the best choice tbh.

My emotions changed drastically from anger to despairing and needing hubby to drive me to get food/keep me company cuz I was emotionally unstable lol, and then I saw him picking up tools from a distance getting ready to go (he’d been working on my car) and my brain was like “damn, he got wide shoulders, he lookin gooood” and I was like ???? because I am not a physical attraction person, I’m attracted to personality (which may explain why I picked a 5’4” man), so that is very abnormal for me. Even when I’m ovulating, my brain isn’t like “he’s hot”, it’s like “must BD, must procreate” lol. So it’s like… is this a weird PMS hormone thing or a pregnancy hormone thing? WHO KNOWS? Not me

 

[gigglebox]

Aww shae I’m sorry things aren’t looking so promising I really hope hubby loosens the reins on ttc and you can officially start soon.

@MrsKatie I’m sorry you’re feeling so down about everything! Ttc is not easy I hope you can find something to do to lift your spirits!

@elmum what kind of chance are you in with and when do you plan to test?

 

[MrsKatie]

10dpo, more BFNs, I think I’ll just wait for my period now.

 

[Jules8]

I’m so sorry for the bfns ladies!!

 

[shaescott]

@MrsKatie when have you gotten positives in the past? It seems quite early to count yourself out, but I totally understand at the same time.

Spotting seems to be slowing down at the moment. Usually when I go #2 it increases, and I actually have less after. It also seems like it may be turning more brown, which seems like a good thing. Idk. I don’t feel super optimistic with BFNs still at 11dpo, but we’ll see.

 

[MrsKatie]

@shaescott the only time I’ve been pregnant and tested super early while knowing my dpo I got a bfp at 8dpo… and other times I tested around 10/11 dpo and the line was pretty dark. So for me/my body, this is not a good sign The one time I got a squinter past 12ish dpo I miscarried so it feels like bad news no matter what.

 

[MrsKatie]

Well except for my first baby, when I didn’t test until my period was a week late… those were the days!!!

 

[shaescott]

@MrsKatie ah, I see. I’ve heard from a lot of women that they’ve had their first BFP at 9dpo with one pregnancy and 12dpo with the next, so that’s definitely possible, but I understand feeling out when you’ve had multiple early positives.
It’s crazy to me how people were just so chill and were like “my period is late? Ehhh I’ll give it a few days”. When I was a teen-college student and had an IUD I still got periods but they were irregular, so I was just constantly worried I was pregnant because I was on CD50 16 year old me was totally certain I was pregnant and downloading pregnancy apps cuz I just knew I must be… I was not pregnant after that I started using BBT to track my cycles, which worked because I was still ovulating, just irregularly.
Now as an adult I’m mildly annoyed at how they made it sound like getting pregnant was super easy, especially accidentally. Obviously I know teens can be super fertile, and 99% of them are not like me as a teen, tracking ovulation and all. But I’m sitting here like, I 100% should have gotten pregnant accidentally multiple times when using FAM (mostly because we didn’t always follow all the rules), and yet nothing. I was taught that I was simply going to get pregnant immediately if I had unprotected sex. I feel like that message has led a lot of women to feeling like there’s something wrong with them if they don’t conceive immediately. I was shattered when I had O-2 timing on my honeymoon and then wasn’t pregnant.

ANYWAY. That was a lot
Still BFN this evening. The spotting definitely seems to have slowed, but sometimes it waxes and wanes before AF, so I can’t get excited. Part of me hopes it’s implantation bleeding, especially with the temp dip yesterday, but I think it’s more likely AF will arrive on time.

 

[gigglebox]

I feel for you @MrsKatie I agree, I have always had 10dpo be my day that I count on for my answer. That’s the latest I’ve even gotten a faint positive and that was with my first over 13 years ago when the tests weren’t as sensitive. I’m really sorry this isn’t shaping up to be the month. I hope you have better luck next cycle!

Shae same sentiment, sorry it’s not looking good and you are totally right about conceiving! There definitely needs to be some emphasis on how you start out super fertile but that changes with time. Obviously we don’t want a bunch of teen pregnancies but some realistic expectations would be nice.

 

[shaescott]

Yeahhhh I’m definitely out. Giant temp drop and BFN today.

 

[shaescott]

Ah spotting is increasing to bright red and I had a little clot when I wiped, so looks like AF is arriving early. That’s only an 11 day LP, which isn’t ideal :/

 

[MrsKatie]

Oh Shae I’m sorry I hate this part of the cycle. Sending so much love. At least we’ll have each-other again next month, ha.

BFN 11dpo, AF due tomorrow, feeling incredibly bummed and like my chance of having more baby is grim. In a way I don’t even want to try. I’m too old, and the chances of actually BDing in my fertile window again are like having lightning strike twice (struggling with kid sleep a lot so it was already a miracle we had a chance this cycle). I feel so angry and sad.

 

[cheerios]

@shaescott Sorry hun about your temperature drop and heavy spotting. 11 day LP isn't too bad, I would usually say it might be a progesterone issue if LP is too short but your progesterone is in range, so I don't think that's an issue.

I totally agree that when one is young, one is taught to be sooo very careful because all it takes is one "oops" and you'll be knocked up. That's how my mom brought me and my sister up at least. Well, to be fair, my sister was born out of wedlock so my mom never failed to remind us that fertility runs in our family and my sister was an "accident". My mom was 22 when she gave birth to my sister and she was still in university back then. Fast-forward, I also struggled with fertility issues with my #1 because I had PCOS and DH had male infertility issues which could be solved by antibiotics, so thank God for that. I was 28 when I got pregnant with my first after TTCing for 1.5 years with irregular cycles.

 

[cheerios]

Oh Shae I’m sorry I hate this part of the cycle. Sending so much love. At least we’ll have each-other again next month, ha.

BFN 11dpo, AF due tomorrow, feeling incredibly bummed and like my chance of having more baby is grim. In a way I don’t even want to try. I’m too old, and the chances of actually BDing in my fertile window again are like having lightning strike twice (struggling with kid sleep a lot so it was already a miracle we had a chance this cycle). I feel so angry and sad.

Oh hun. I can understand the frustration in the TTC. But you're still very fertile, since you gave birth only last year. It may take a few cycles. But you're definitely not out this cycle yet. I had BFNs all the way until 14 DPO (according to when I thought I ovulated) but the test turned positive at my 16DPO - which is very late for me! I obviously ovulated way later than I thought I did, so everything is possible even when you know your body.

 

[Jules8]

I’m so sorry ladies. I agree. The classes girls get should be overall female health. Like, to go to the obgyn regularly, how to do a breast exam, how to natural plan, what a normal cycle should look like, the different part of a cycle, and female infertility diseases like pcos or endometriosis. I have pcos and had no clue what that was til my 20’s. I had been do the obgyn for the symptoms and was put on bc to “regulate”. I have friends who suffer from endometriosis and were in so much pain as teenagers, but brushed off. Being safe to prevent pregnancy is part of it, but they need to inform girls so they can advocate for themselves.

 

[cheerios]

I’m so sorry ladies. I agree. The classes girls get should be overall female health. Like, to go to the obgyn regularly, how to do a breast exam, how to natural plan, what a normal cycle should look like, the different part of a cycle, and female infertility diseases like pcos or endometriosis. I have pcos and had no clue what that was til my 20’s. I had been do the obgyn for the symptoms and was put on bc to “regulate”. I have friends who suffer from endometriosis and were in so much pain as teenagers, but brushed off. Being safe to prevent pregnancy is part of it, but they need to inform girls so they can advocate for themselves.

You're so right Jules. I grew up in Singapore so the push for birth control wasn't that strong. They preached abstinence as the safest way to prevent pregnancy. I'm quite glad I didn't start on BC as a teenager though, cos I took BC for 3 months after I got married and I had migraines every single day until I got off it. But health issues like PCOS, tracking your cycles are so so important!

 

[elmum]

I’m sorry @shaescott Hopefully next cycle will be the one

@MrsKatie keep your head up. You’re still in a great phase to get pregnant again. Crossing everything for you

@thencomesbebe when is your first scan? I’m praying for you and baby girl!

AFM 10dpo and looks like a stark BFN
Thoughts?
I’m thinking I’m out because I always get a BFP early….
Something catching my eye in person, but it’s hard to capture. Probably nothing.

 

[gigglebox]

I don't see anything from here but if you're seeing something in person, that sounds promising...didn't like this brand when I used it but that was like 13 years ago so...

 

[HalfricanMa]

@elmum I don’t see anything but it is still early; fingers crossed for you.
@MrsKatie Im sorry you’re feeling down and a bit defeated. I’m right there with you.

I’m overwhelmed and we tried adopting a dog from the Humane society but the dog isnt quite gentle enough with our toddler & baby so we have to take her back. At least its a no-kill shelter and the dog will likely be adopted quickly. We just cant take the risk for our kids. Its another thing besides ttc that has me down. I’m sad mostly that my 3 yr old son has enjoyed the dog but we told him we’ll get a puppy and train it up from very small when I can juggle house training. For now we’ll get chickens.

Still no pp cycle. I like to test on the 10th of each month. I might test closer to Halloween. The bfn get so disheartening, dont they?