18 and pregnant!

[tasha41]

I'm 18, I'll be 19 in a couple of months, and I just found out that I'm pregnant. I made an appointment for tomorrow morning and I'm having an ultrasound to figure out how far along I am...

I haven't told my boyfriend yet, it's so hard to tell him when our relationship is just going really well and you know we're just starting to really fall in love. He's 20 and he's working full time so we can technically afford to have it, and he's an amazing guy who'd stick by me through it and is against abortion.

However, no one in my family has ever had a child out of wedlock, let alone gotten pregnant at 18! I'm so worried about it, and I'm supposed to be starting college in September.

I'm so worried about becoming a welfare mom or not finishing school and so many things right now..

What's your advice? Firstly, how do I break it to my boyfriend? Parents?

 

[tasha41]

* Both my boyfriend and I are Catholic and have Catholic families, went to the same Catholic high school, etc.

* I atleast have my high school diploma and a part-time job, that could be full-time, and I could take maternity leave from it, but it's not what I want to do forever.

 

[leeanne]

There's no easy way of breaking the news hon! Best thing is to just come right out and tell them as soon as possible.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

I'd tell your parents after the ultrasound if I was you, then you can really get your head around it and know how far gone you are and be able to just think about it.
But on the other hand, your boyfriend needs to know a.s.a.p. It'll be really hard to tell him, but even if you both just go somewhere so you can just talk, it'll probably be easier to just come right out and say it.
Personally I think he'll need to know before the ultrasound sound though, if he finds out you went somewhere like that without him, he may not be too pleased. As you said he will stick by you, then he will more than likely want to be there every step of the way with you and your baby.
Hope I've helped hun

 

[xarlenex]

You dont have to go full-time and forget about going back to further education. I was in your position this time last year. My boyfriend works full time, me part time and im returning to part time work as well as further education. Although the course im doing I cant actuslly do till im 20, so gives me time to save. You can still have hopes, dreams and a baby Theres no easy way to tell your mum. As for your boyfriend id tell him as fast as, he might not be pleased you've kept it from him at all, good luck xx

 

[ashleigh2188]

Hi and welcome to b n b, I would tell your bf asap then he can come with you to break the news to your parents, i once heard a great quote that seems relevant here: having children doesn't ruin your life, it changes the path you take.Be positive and Im sure everyone on here will tell you that parents calm down it can take a while as your still there baby now having a baby but they always do xxxxx
Keep us updated

 

[brownhairedmom]

Hi!

I'm 20 and in a similar situation with the school aspect. I was ALMOST done my university degree and then I got pregnant. You don't need to worry about it. You can get at least one full semester done. Talk to your profs in your second semester and see if they'll let you write papers in place of final exams. Talk to a counsellor at your school and they can often make arrangements for you. You could do courses online when the baby comes, and eventually he/she will be big enough to put into a daycare. I know its difficult and it seems like school probably isn't an option for you, but there are so many ways to work around things these days!!

Good luck!!

 

[smileycelerys]

i was in the same boat, i met Tom in january this year, i found out that i was pregant on the 3rd of may. i told him straight away and lukily he was really great. you do need to tell him straight away. good luck sweetie. im 18, i turn 19 in febuary a month after the babys due.