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I completely agree with you, it's better to have no contact than just appearing when he feels like it. As far as I'm aware he can take you to court for parental responsibility but I'm not sure how courts would see half assed contact. I'd like to think they'd recognise that a child needs stability and routine.
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He also smokes weed everyday and says he cant afford to give me money even tho he works.
Im assuming court would be alot of hassle and very expensive? ? If thats the case I dont think he would bother.
Iv been trying to contact him about seeing her but he ignores me I think he will show up at some point to sort something out but at the first sign of being unreliable I just want it to be me and her.
Im assuming court would be alot of hassle and very expensive? ? If thats the case I dont think he would bother.
Iv been trying to contact him about seeing her but he ignores me I think he will show up at some point to sort something out but at the first sign of being unreliable I just want it to be me and her.
My son is 3 now and has never met my ex/fob. He's not on birth certificate. I tried to involve him but he cut contact. Then I tried again when my son was 19 months old, sort of a last chance type thing but I got loads of abuse down the phone. I never bothered again and now decided if he ever wants to see my son then it will be through court.
I have that thinking as well - I really don't see my ex being bothered with going to court or paying for it.
All you can do it try but there reaches a point where that's it.
I hope it doesn't come to that and he either makes a decent effort or just leaves you alone. xx
I have that thinking as well - I really don't see my ex being bothered with going to court or paying for it.
All you can do it try but there reaches a point where that's it.
I hope it doesn't come to that and he either makes a decent effort or just leaves you alone.
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HE doesn't have any rights, but your LO has rights to see FOB :/. But I totally agree if he's only going to be there when he feels like it it's better to not be there at all. If he was to take you to court they'd want to know what efforts he's made in the past, so make sure you take notes now just in case of any texts/calls/emails he might send asking to see LO. If that's none it's going to work against him. They wouldn't take any consideration to the fact he hasn't and doesn't pay a penny though. They will take his drugs into consideration, and you could use it to push for supervised until you're satisfied that he's clean and capable.
If he were to take it to court though and he was to miss them and not turn up etc. and was to mess around, then the courts don't take it lightly and he could be fined and have the contact order taken away in which he has no rights to see LO at all, but it has to be a regular/constant thing that he's not turning up.
If he were to take it to court though and he was to miss them and not turn up etc. and was to mess around, then the courts don't take it lightly and he could be fined and have the contact order taken away in which he has no rights to see LO at all, but it has to be a regular/constant thing that he's not turning up.
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Thanks I really do want him to see LO but hes made no effort so far I dont think hes the type to do court ect hes to lazy.
I feel bad for my LO he hasnt even text and asked how she is.
He lives 15mins from my house but im moving 45 mins away so if he cany be arsed now I doubt he will then.
If he contacts me ill give him a chance to see her but if he keeps messing her about id rather him not see her at all.
The 1 day he had arrangrd to see her it got to 1 oclock and I rung him n he was working! ! Didnt think to send a text before he went to work and cancel plans stuff like that just pisses me off tbh.
I feel bad for my LO he hasnt even text and asked how she is.
He lives 15mins from my house but im moving 45 mins away so if he cany be arsed now I doubt he will then.
If he contacts me ill give him a chance to see her but if he keeps messing her about id rather him not see her at all.
The 1 day he had arrangrd to see her it got to 1 oclock and I rung him n he was working! ! Didnt think to send a text before he went to work and cancel plans stuff like that just pisses me off tbh.
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Yes he has rights he's her parent and if e wants them he can exercise them and you will have a hard time stopping him if he goes to court without a good reason.
Court may be a hassle but its better to have it setup before there is a problem . Because he's on her birth cert and has been there before you broke up if he took her or a visit and didnt want to give her back you would have to go to court and get a custody order before you could make him give her back.
Better to do it before hand so there is no questions left about child support , visitation and custody
Court may be a hassle but its better to have it setup before there is a problem . Because he's on her birth cert and has been there before you broke up if he took her or a visit and didnt want to give her back you would have to go to court and get a custody order before you could make him give her back.
Better to do it before hand so there is no questions left about child support , visitation and custody
