1st time bd w/o protection - feeling panicked!

[Autumnflower]

Hey everyone!

So my husband and I bd last night sans protection. We have discussed over the last few months about how we are ready for a baby and we had decided that early 2015 we would start trying. Well last night we threw caution to the wind and decided now or never. Timing will never be perfect etc etc. Anyways last night I had the worst sleep. Ive been panicking!! I know im probably not pregnant but it kept me up thinking how everything would work out financially, emotionally and then my panicking made me panic some more. I didnt expect to second guess myself so much after we finally began trying. Has anyone else experienced this? Does the doubting ever really go away? Is it just because it was our first time without protection. I'm so used to our sex life before trying for babies we have been together for 10 years. I'm worried that sex will always be served up with a side of "omg did we make the right choice" afterward. I'm just super nervous. When we weren't trying I really wanted a baby and now that we are im worried. Its silly and makes no sense. Somebody please tell me im not alone in feeling this way!

 

[BeachyFeelin]

Oh yes, I remember that feeling when we first started TTC.

11 months later (with 1 BFP and a loss) under our belt and we are SURE now. No second guessing. No "oh shit what if it is positive."

So yes, in our case, it did get better! The longer it is taking the more we know we are ready to be parents.

 

[TTCgamer2.0]

Haha, it happened to us as well. I feel that means we will be good parents. We aren't romanticizing the situation and know what having a baby actually means.

 

[Tink_]

It was the same here!

It becomes normal though x

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

me too! We just started ourselves. Off BCP for a few days now. I know its going to take time, probably more than I wish (BCP, my age, luck) but why not start now! With that being said, I try not to think and stress over....not enough leave from work, money, room, daycare. Lol. Things work out! I've been hearing that for years so its time things work out for me!

Wish you luck!

 

[BabyCleo]

Yes! I had major freak outs too!!

 

[Angel022605]

Hey everyone!

So my husband and I bd last night sans protection. We have discussed over the last few months about how we are ready for a baby and we had decided that early 2015 we would start trying. Well last night we threw caution to the wind and decided now or never. Timing will never be perfect etc etc. Anyways last night I had the worst sleep. Ive been panicking!! I know im probably not pregnant but it kept me up thinking how everything would work out financially, emotionally and then my panicking made me panic some more. I didnt expect to second guess myself so much after we finally began trying. Has anyone else experienced this? Does the doubting ever really go away? Is it just because it was our first time without protection. I'm so used to our sex life before trying for babies we have been together for 10 years. I'm worried that sex will always be served up with a side of "omg did we make the right choice" afterward. I'm just super nervous. When we weren't trying I really wanted a baby and now that we are im worried. Its silly and makes no sense. Somebody please tell me im not alone in feeling this way!

My sis who's married went through something similar recently... She's married and decided to finish school and get her RN first... So after she got married they moved into an apartment... A few months later they decide to move into my parents house to save $ to build... Shortly after they move they find out they're expecting and it was a surprise since they were NTNP and she began to worry because she hadn't finished school and needed to take her RN boards... She made a budget list and they are doing fine... She couldn't be happier

 

[biscuits104]

I can totally relate...we are on week 2 of TTC, and that first time was awful to say the least haha. I had a few breakdowns with DH and he has been so good to me...initiating and making me feel beautiful and not like we are conducting a science experiment. I think as long as you don't talk about it and just stay "in the moment" it gets better, it has for us.

 

[crazycatlady5]

Yep! I was super nervous when we first decided we were going to start trying, we decided about 6 weeks before I went off bcp, so I had some time to get used to it. But I was still nervous the first few times we did the bd. in fact, before we started ttc my husband was the eager one! I was very nervous! But now I'm used to it and excited at the possibility! And we've only been ttc for a few weeks!

 

[starluck]

I was so nervous when we first started trying on our wedding night! My husband and I have also been together for 10 years and it was the first time without any kind of birth control. It gets easier I agree with a previous poster - it means you realize that having a baby is not all rainbows and butterflies and I also think it means you will be a good parent!

 

[sjackson310]

Haha this brings back memories. In my March cycle, it was our first NTNP and on about 11 dpo I got this random urge to POAS. So, i peed on a clear blue advanced digital but I think I peed too much on it because it showed up "pregnant" within 10 seconds and had a little "book" sign (which the next month I learned meant "error" lol I had thrown away the instructions for the test long before). I FREAKED OUT. The first thing I did was run and tell my boyfriend and then the words "I promise it's your baby!!!" (wtf haha) came out. Probably not the best thing to say right off the bat. I had a meltdown for about 3 hours. He was so confused and kept saying wait isnt this what you wanted? Lol the next day I bought some FRER and they were all negative. Coincidentally, I was very sad and had gotten over my initial fears by that next day. And I got preggo the next month when we were officially TTC. I had twins but miscarried at 9 weeks. Anyways, long story short, it happens.

 

[louloudedos]

This was exactly how I felt last month when we tried for the 1st time. I couldnt even enjoy myself because I was too scared. But that feeling wore off real quick! Now I'm counting down t the days until we can try again obsessivly. Lol