laura109
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Hi ladies. My little girl is three I'm Feb and has recently gone into a big bed so baby bump can have her cot when he joins is next month. She loves her new bedroom. We play with her in it. She's happy enough in it but since she hasn't been in her cot nighttime is hell. I know it's extremely common but being heavily pregnant I am pretty stressed out not getting time in the evenings and worrying about her being up all night along with her new brother.
She used to go to bed no problems when she had a cot. She self settled. We didn't need to stay with her and usually by 8.30 we got to be adults and have a chat and watch a film or something.
Since the bed we have had to lay in her bed and wait patiently for her to fall asleep. The problem is she is taking an hour and half plus to settle and the last 3 nights she's wide awake till 11. We get no time together anymore due to this. She can climb over the baby gate which is too dangerous to chance. She nearly vomits when we try leave through hysteria. She just won't stay in her room. We've tried everything from being firm to offering to buy her a toy if she falls asleep on her own. Tried naps and no naps. Shorter naps. Brought her special bedtime books. Done money rewards. Lights on. Music. Taking a special toy to her bed for a sleepover. Praised her. Let her ring people about her big girl bed. When she finally drifts off she stays in her room until 1am up to 4am then she comes stomping along the landing into our room.
I'm absolutely exhausted tonight. She's still away at 10.30 I can't lift her easily anymore. I have not managed to do any of my jobs as I've spent 2.5 hours trying to settle her.
Now I can't let her cry it out as I have no way of containing her in her room now she can master the stair gates. I can't keep putting her back in as I can't lift her and she's right behind me again. I can't leave her upstairs alone unsettled as she could hurt herself.
Is this just a stage that we should just go with and hope she comes out of it? I've got 5 weeks left and I really want to solve the problem before baby arrives. I can't spend my evenings battling her.
She used to go to bed no problems when she had a cot. She self settled. We didn't need to stay with her and usually by 8.30 we got to be adults and have a chat and watch a film or something.
Since the bed we have had to lay in her bed and wait patiently for her to fall asleep. The problem is she is taking an hour and half plus to settle and the last 3 nights she's wide awake till 11. We get no time together anymore due to this. She can climb over the baby gate which is too dangerous to chance. She nearly vomits when we try leave through hysteria. She just won't stay in her room. We've tried everything from being firm to offering to buy her a toy if she falls asleep on her own. Tried naps and no naps. Shorter naps. Brought her special bedtime books. Done money rewards. Lights on. Music. Taking a special toy to her bed for a sleepover. Praised her. Let her ring people about her big girl bed. When she finally drifts off she stays in her room until 1am up to 4am then she comes stomping along the landing into our room.
I'm absolutely exhausted tonight. She's still away at 10.30 I can't lift her easily anymore. I have not managed to do any of my jobs as I've spent 2.5 hours trying to settle her.
Now I can't let her cry it out as I have no way of containing her in her room now she can master the stair gates. I can't keep putting her back in as I can't lift her and she's right behind me again. I can't leave her upstairs alone unsettled as she could hurt herself.
Is this just a stage that we should just go with and hope she comes out of it? I've got 5 weeks left and I really want to solve the problem before baby arrives. I can't spend my evenings battling her.