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[sweetlullaby]

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[louise85]

Hey hun,

I think you handled that very well,you didn't lose your temper so well done you!!

Maybe sending that message to him has made him realise what a tw*t he's been and given him the kick up the arse he needs, f'x!!

Why do they think they can not get in contact, and then just jump in when they feel like it??!!

What do you think will happen now?? Will you leave him to contact you again? He should make more effort now.....let's wait and see!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[surprisebaby]

I think it sounds like he cares about the baby and actually you. I suppose because the baby isn't born yet he doesn't feel his role as father needs to happen yet. He seems really interested. i don't know. Thats just how it appears to me, cos he says he thinks about it all the time. I think you handled it ok. i suppose it would be good if can be friends and not have to deal with solicitors etc. xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[louise85]

You'll have to contact CSA after LO's born and they'll ask you for details of him and whatever. Then they'll get in touch with him and he'll either accept he's the dad or not. If he says he's not they'll make him do DNA if he refuses that they will just presume that he is the dad regardless.

Hopefully he'll be there from now on, I'm still waiting for mine to sort himself out, don't even know what he wants, won't speak to me aaaarrrrggghhh!!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[suzanne108]

OMG sweetlullaby you're situation sounds IDENTICAL to mine!!!! I think we might have the same FOB

Only thing that differs is mine hasn't mentioned DNA tests (yet!)

Mine wasn't interested in my scan either, didn't want a pic and when I emailed him a copy he didn't reply or anythin. Then I didn't hear from him for about 5ish weeks.....then when I did hear from him it was like nothing had happened and he "wants to be involved in babys life". Sound familiar???!!!!

You sound like you handled things really well, I know how hard it can be to keep your cool but you kept calm and got your point across nicely. Silly you for sending him the first text but maybe it'll turn out to be a good thing. Might have made him think (do men think, I'm not sure??!)

One thing I will warn you of.....I complained to my FOB that he never contacted me or asked how the pregnancy was going and now I get texts off him everyday saying the same thing "how are you and bump?" and it pisses me off!!!!! I want to go back to this hearing from him every 5 weeks deal hehe....cannot handle someone I hate contacting me every single day. BUT.....suppose I better get used to it!!

Hopefully he'll come round, like you say its better for LO to have him in their life, as much as I hate the fact that I am tied to him FOREVER - ARRRGGGHHHH!!

(I'm not very good at these short posts either )

xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

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