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Oh your FOB sounds so much like mine in terms of all talk and absolutely no action. Oh and FOB in my case also has Matthews details on his FB and has his name spelt wrong. If he really did love you's and care etc then he would have made the effort to get down last tuesday and he's texting you now on a saturday? Dont think so! He hasnt made the effort and his excuse is the biggest pile of shit! Sorry but if he had to work etc then why arrange to meet on a day he was working? Then not bother texting or even showing up? I would be just as mad as you are right now!! :hugs:

I wouldnt even bother texting his gf though...could make things turn nasty!! Even though I would be very tempted to lol xx
 
I agree with sweetlullaby that if he loved and cared about you and Scarlett he would have made the effort on Tuesday. He should be making the effort to come to you and not expecting you to travel all that way!
I'd find it a struggle taking a pram on a train and you'd probably have to sit very close to the doors so it would be freezing!

All these FOB seem to be the same - the only person they care about is themselves!

Huge hugs :hugs: xx
 
Thats what i thought... if he 'loves' me he would be doing anything to see us both.

Yeah its taken all my self control not to fb his gf... i wonder if it would be acceptable to get a friend to do it for me... haha. That way im technically not doing it lol

xx
 
I'd call him on his shit. Let him know you know he's lying. Threaten to keep him from seeing Scarlett, etc
 
Thats what i was thinking... just call him out on everything, he doesnt know that i no he has a new gf... so he's still lying and proving to me he cannot be trusted!!

xxx
 
If he is lying about things like having a girlfriend then it would create more trust problems in the future :(

I would call him on the lying - you and Scarlett deserve him to at least be honest with you!

:hugs: xx
 
Thats what i thought, i dont feel brave enough though, cos when he finds out that i know he's been lying he gets all defensive and it turns into an argument, he used to do it all the time, so i know it will happen again.

I think im gunna wait for him to contact me again (if he does) see what he says, and then just bring it up!

Why do they make everything so hard!! Either be involved or sod off!!! Cant have it both ways!

xx
 
I hate when things get turned around and it's some how our fault! My ex used to do that too when we were together.

sounds good to wait until he contacts you. :hugs:

I've not heard anything from my ex since his email carry on at christmas. Really hoping he just disappears off the face of the earth. Only seems to get in contact when he has nothing better to do. xx
 
Same here, never here from him if he's 'busy' Only when he has nothing better to do... everytime i think he's finally buggered off, he pops back in again!

Twats!

:hugs:

xx
 
Ok please don't kill me for this lol

I agree that he should have told you he couldn't come and he shouldn't expect you to take her to see him. But actually the way he speaks i.e. his "gorgeous daughter" and saying how much he wants to see you both (whether he is being awkward about it or not) I actually find quite nice. I wish my ex would text things like that, most I get is an occsional "How's tthe baby?" he doesn't even use her name! Sorry I usually completley agree with the mums because men are crap but I think you should appreciate that at least he is taking a bit of interest.

But then, I don't know the whole story, just going on what you OP said :) *prepares to be lynched* Lol
 
haha its ok :)... i guess if you dont the whole story then it would sound like he's making the effort, but he's the kind of person who does things like this to make himself feel better.

As soon as he had told me he loved me, i went on his fb (he doesnt no his privacy has been reset lol) and he was telling his new gf that he 'loves her more than anything' =/ so how can he love me? The reason we split was because he cheated on me for a year and a half (and not with just one girl there was about 5) so that just prooves to me that he hasnt changed.

And as for scarlett, he hasnt offered me any money, didnt help pay for her cot, pram, bedding and clothes... it was all me. He's promised that he has a teddy for her, she still hasnt got that, he didnt even text or call at xmas/newyears, but he managed to buy his gf xmas gifts, yet his 'gorgeous daughter' got nothing :(

Words mean nothing im afraid, its action that matters!

:hugs:
 
lou_w34 said:
haha its ok :)... i guess if you dont the whole story then it would sound like he's making the effort, but he's the kind of person who does things like this to make himself feel better.

As soon as he had told me he loved me, i went on his fb (he doesnt no his privacy has been reset lol) and he was telling his new gf that he 'loves her more than anything' =/ so how can he love me? The reason we split was because he cheated on me for a year and a half (and not with just one girl there was about 5) so that just prooves to me that he hasnt changed.

And as for scarlett, he hasnt offered me any money, didnt help pay for her cot, pram, bedding and clothes... it was all me. He's promised that he has a teddy for her, she still hasnt got that, he didnt even text or call at xmas/newyears, but he managed to buy his gf xmas gifts, yet his 'gorgeous daughter' got nothing :(

Words mean nothing im afraid, its action that matters!

:hugs:
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Absolutely. I mean, sometimes exes will "love you" as the mother of their child... but by the sounds of it it's just something he says to all the girls! You should get in touch with the CSA, don't wait for him to offer money, take it from him!
 
Deffinatley... he thinks he's gods gift :dohh: Then again most of them do lol

I dont no about the csa, im in two minds about it, cos ive done the whole thing by myself for so long now, its kinda like i dont want any help from him, id just like him to follow through with his promises to scarlett, or not bother at all.

xx
 
I would call CSA chick, why not? he should provide! it doesnt mean anything when it comes to access. He thinks he has it so good just now... loves her, loves you, two lives, interested when he wants to be etc, take his money he has an obligation to provide.

Sounds like a waste of space and i would take everything he says with a pinch of salt, you can do better than him - i dont think he is gonna change. xxx
 
I dont think he will ever change either... Its a shame, having a baby would be the making of most people, it doesnt seem to of done him any good what so ever.

Yeah he does, he has the best of both worlds right now, he still doesnt no that i know he has a new gf, and im so tempted to get someone to fb her and tell her heehee, but im sure that would cause more hassel... its taking so much effort not to do it though lol

I dont no about the csa, i think if i did do it, he'd just turn nasty, and think he had some sort of hold over us... ahhh i dunno, i think its just my pride talking though!

xxx
 
Wow sorry, only just seen this posting!!!
Cant believe what his said and done, i dont know how you havent spoken to his g/f but then again i never did, i felt it wasnt my place to say, even when she found out and got rude, i never said anything bad or said too much to her, cos she was the innocent party in all of this.

BUt i would call csa love and get him to pay its not right his getting away from it all xxx
 
Yeah i did feel kinda bad telling her... as i guess she didnt have a clue about all this really, but my need to piss him off and let him no that i knew he had a gf was greater than worrying about upsetting her.... how much of a bitch do i sound! lol

As for the csa... i dunno! arggghhh :shrug:

xx
 
Yeah least you had the guts to do it, i just couldn't yet, im always called a bitch cos im so cold hearted lol!!!!

But good for you, but i would really call the csa xxx
 
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