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[Kimboowee]

My bms are paying for everything (minus jewellery - that will be a gift)
We didn't have the money to pay for everything, so asked them to contribute and they offered to pay for everything =]

 

[buttonnose82]

we have paid for everything except my sisters shoes, she picked them and paid for them herself, everything else we have paid for (including stuff like hair dresser appointments), my sister is picking something for her hair and i just told her buy whatever she wants and we will give her money back

way i see it is we have asked people to play a part and therefore we pay for them to do so

even ushers, all they have had to provide is their own black shoes ...... but they all had a pair anyway so didn't cost them anything

 

[cloud9]

i paid for my bridesmaids dresses and plan to pay for the accessories, shoes, jewellery and hair and beauty appointments too. when i was bridesmaid for my friend i got mine paid for, i would say it would be tradition that it was paid for rather than the other way round!! i dont think it should be their responsibility. imagine if your best friend couldnt afford to buy their dress, then they couldnt be your bridesmaid...
i watched an episode of dont tell the bride where the men plan the weddings, he had a budget of £14,000 and didnt have enough money to buy the bridesmaid dresses - i thought it was a bit of a cheek- since they are a really big part of your day!!!

 

[Lisalovesbean]

I agree with the bride and groom or the parents if paying to pay for the bridesmaid, you are asking them to do something for you so therefore you repay that by paying for their outfits, shoes, hair etc...

I never had any bridesmaids, as my wedding was planned and over and done with within six weeks and my budget would have increased alot to have afforded bm's, so we forgoed them...I take the stance if you can't afford to buy their dresses etc, don't have them or wait until you have funds!!

I know the US ladies tend to buy their own!

 

[mushmouth]

We had 6 BMs, and 6 GMs and they all paid for their own, but we bought them necklaces/cufflinks as thank you gifts.

I think if I had only 1 or 2 I'd have paid, but as hubbys family is so big (4 of the BMs where is sisters who all wanted to be BMs!) and 3 of the men too... We couldnt afford to pay for all of them.

Gladly the dresses we bought were debenhams and so cute, and can be worn to other things too!

 

[Niki]

Hmm not sure if its trradition but my dad is paying for my bridal party outfits

 

[babytots]

I'm buying my bridesmiad dresses I have 4 in total and god knows where I am going to find the money for all their dresses but find it cheeky asking them to contribute as like someone said we are asking them to be part of our big day so we should be the ones to pay for thie dresses.

Just struggling to find where I'm getting the money from to buy their dresses x

 

[dreamofabean]

I paid for everything and then bought them thank you presents too! I see it that they were doing me a favour so deserved to be treated!!x

 

[Sofiekirsten]

I managed to work my way round this by not having any brides maids just a maid of honour but my sister in law had 8 bridesmaids and paid for all of the dress, makeup, hair, shoes and accessories

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

I would love to buy all their dresses but I just can't afford to. I've spoken to them and basically told them straight, either they have to pay for half their dresses and I will pay the other half, or I will have to only have my sister as bridesmaid.

They all said they'd rather pay half than not be bridesmaid. The dresses will be coast, monsoon or warehouse so they'll be able to wear them again. xx

 

[llamedos]

I bought the ones for my little bridesmaids (two of them), and my two adult bridesmaids paid for their own - but they offered to do that, rather than me telling them to.