I'm with you girls on all this advice. Stress doesn't cause female factor infertility. I can vouch for that. I was ill with stress and depression twice when aged 39 and 40, but despite that conceived so quickly, within 2 months of trying each time! (Sadly miscarried both times). But it proves that stress doesn't cause infertility. I was even on anti-depressants the second time and just weaning off from two other anti-anxiety medications!
I do think however that stress might affect male factor fertility. Just an idea of mine through long chats with my OH. He feels his ejaculation is much stronger when he's relaxed and not under pressure to perform. Could also explain why couples conceive on holidays or weekends away after trying for a long time. I mean we girls never forget when we're TTC even when we're on hols, but probably blokes are much more relaxed!
I think stress only affects fertility if it stops you bd'ing or if the man really isn't enjoying it as much. Semen counts are much worse in the lab than in real life sex encounters which proves that the enjoyment of sex must have a huge impact on the male factor.
1. Perfect timing: Do the bd every 2 days around o time, not daily. Aim for 3 bd's in one week. The NICE guidelines recommend this for couples having difficulty conceiving. So if you're ovulating CD12 like me, aim for CD9,11,13 or CD8,10,12. Put one in 2 days before to improve semen quality, to makes it CD7,9,11,13 or 6, 8,10,12. Sperm quality is optimal at 24-48 hours after last bd or masturbation. Some men take 36 hours to get sperm count back up. 48 hours will definitely cover your bases.
2. CM: all the advice above already mentioned, to help the swimmers in.
3. Legs up against the wall for at least 30 mins to minimise any leakage. It worked for me those cycles, and when I didn't do it I felt some semen escape and didn't conceive (tmi!). Can't just be a coincidence I really think it helps enormously. Plus advice of ancient yogis for women to conceive, shoulder-stand against wall (same position).
4. Supplements: conception vitamins for both partners (increases chances of conception) omega-3, 1-3g for both partners too (sperm tails are made of omega-3 and it boosts mood for you both which is so important when TTC), 1000mg vitamin C daily for man (increases sperm count). These are the key ones, although there are hormonal ones for women who aren't ovulating regularly.
5. Switch to full-fat dairy (as above).
We can't help being stressed about this, and only people who don't understand give advice like "it will happen when you stop thinking about it." Tell them to walk a mile in our shoes, the heartache of wanting your own child so badly and the agonising frustration of not knowing where it's all going wrong.
I'm somebody the EPO has worked wonders for, I'm a real convert. But I'm also using Preseed for good measure! But I've been dry all year and got the timing all wrong. I personally think opks can hinder rather than help the process for some women because many women ovulate on the day of the smiley face. It's so important to get at least one bd in 1-3 days before ovulation.