37 weeks pregnant

[Charlei]

My sister in law, is 37 weeks pregnant and constantly posting baby stuff on facebook. I'm so tired of hearing about it. I don't care. I hate that I don't care. I cannot deal with all this pregnancy and birth around me. I hate that she got what I wanted after barely trying. I wanted to give the first grandchild, I should have, but I couldn't.

I don't deserve this.

 

[dontworry]

I feel ya.

 

[m.knight]

I was exactly where you are now. I was meant to be the first one to give a grandchild, I got married first etc. But my sister got pregnant first and I couldn't bare to be around her during the pregnancy or her baby when he was born. I would just cry uncontrollably and get sent into a fit of depression. It's awful.

I know I'm coming on here writing this now I have manage to get pregnant after a long, difficult and expensive struggle and I hope you don't find me posting I sensitive. But I can do nothing but agree with you. It does suck. It isn't fair. It's not right. And anyone who say "just relax it'll happen" deserves a punch in the face. I really do wish you the best of luck with TTC. And on facebook you can remain friends with people but set it so their posts don't appear on your newsfeed. I found this very useful.

Xxxxxxx big hugs xxxxxxx

 

[dontworry]

And anyone who say "just relax it'll happen" deserves a punch in the face. I really do wish you the best of luck with TTC. And on facebook you can remain friends with people but set it so their posts don't appear on your newsfeed. I found this very useful.

Xxxxxxx big hugs xxxxxxx

THIS!! I do hate when people say that - because I've done that too, and it hasn't happened, clearly! It DOES help to change the settings on your FB account to block out the pregnant people's statuses.

 

[Hatethewait85]

You are not alone! Tomorrow I have to go to my baby sister's wedding (got moved up 5 months because she got pregnant) and she's planning to announce her baby's gender at the dinner! We had to keep the pregnancy a secret until last month because she had just graduated from school (in Dec) and needed to find a job! I hate that I can't be happy for her either. I feel like a terrible big sister because I never ask her how she's feeling or if she's felt the baby move, etc because I selfishly just feel sad for myself whenever I think about it. Now all I can help but think 'I hope she doesn't have a girl' because I wanted to have a baby girl. Gah this is so hard and frustrating.

to you all!

 

[tulip1975]

It hurts a lot, and I'm going to remember all of these stories if I ever manage to cross to the other side of this. I'm pretty lucky that my 26-year old sister (who got pregnant her first month of trying) is pretty reserved at 19 weeks and doesn't post all over facebook every day.

 

[KatherineA]

I can see where you are all coming from. I hate seeing pregnancy stuff all over FB and then feel guilty because deep down I feel that I am just jealous. My sister was pregnant while I was going through my first IVF and I couldnt go near her! I think my mum still holds that against me but no one understands how hard this is unless they are going through this themselves!

One wee word of hope, of the ladies I have met on these forums who have been LTTTC, they say that when you eventually get to hold your wee miracle, you soon forget all the pain you went though to get to that stage.

I hope and pray we all get there eventually.

 

[heres_hoping]

Totally understand. My sister in law is pregnant with a honeymoon baby, whilst I have been trying again for two years after losing my first son at26weeks. She is being incredibly insensitive about it and it's all she is capable of talking about. I have removed her posts from my FB as it just makes me cry to think about it. Oh and of course, it's a boy.

My mother in law does not understand how hard it is for me and expects me to just get on with it. I just put on a mask around them and cry at home, then tell myself it will be me next. It's hard, and I'm sorry you are going through it too xx

 

[tyler85]

I feel for all of you. I am in a similar situation, my sister in law is pregnant with number 2- and went on alot about how it took them ages to conceive- it was 2 months!!! We have been ttc for 2 and a half years!

 

[Myshelsong]

Whenever someone in my friend list gets pregnant I immediately unfollow all of their posts. I know that sounds overboard, but I honestly cannot deal with it anymore and I dont want to unfriend them especially if they are family. This way they cannot tell I did it, and I can go on their page when I am ready and post private messages.

The last three baby showers I ended up starting my AF right as we were leaving the house. Life is the WORST!

 

[mariposa0283]

Totally understand. My sister in law is pregnant with a honeymoon baby, whilst I have been trying again for two years after losing my first son at26weeks. She is being incredibly insensitive about it and it's all she is capable of talking about. I have removed her posts from my FB as it just makes me cry to think about it. Oh and of course, it's a boy.

My mother in law does not understand how hard it is for me and expects me to just get on with it. I just put on a mask around them and cry at home, then tell myself it will be me next. It's hard, and I'm sorry you are going through it too xx

omg sarah, hi! didnt know you were on here too.

anyways. i totally feel you OP. my SIL is done popping out babies and has been for years (brothers wife) but she is the absolute worst person in the world and doesnt deserve the wonderful children she has.. yet here i sit and i cant even provide my mom with grandkids she can actually have a chance to know. it bites!

my other sil (hubbys sister) just had her first kid, shes not even married yet, and she chose the day of my first RE appointment to message me with her positive pregnancy test.. just rubbing it in my face that "ha ha i have pcos and i conceived on my first round of clomid, you have to fork out thousands, sucks to be you!" and all throughout her pregnancy she was constantly rubbing it in my face.. in a nice way i guess but it still rubbed me the wrong way. she knows all about our struggle yet she still chose me out of all of her friends (she has A LOT of them) to talk to about her pregnancy related stuff, then she has the gall to guilt me when i would get upset about it and ask her to stop because its like rubbing salt in my open wound. we are no longer on speaking terms because of her persistant need to remind me that she can conceive and she now gets to be a mom while i still sit here broken and empty handed.

 

[Kimiw]

I just feel envy all the time these days. It sucks that we can't get over it and be happy for others, but how can we? The sight of other pregnant women drive me insane! I get so jealous.

 

[Kaychikan]

Hi. Im in the exact same boat as alot of u ladies I have 3 friends all pregnant within 2 weeks of each other an my little sister just fell accidentally pregnant. I feel so bad that It hurts so much speaking to her or my family about it. Iv unsubscribed to half my fb friends list. My sister is due her 12wk scan next monday. I think I might go on holiday for a week when she starts to announce it. Its been 2 years this year ttc and it really doesnt get easier an then people tell you "your thinking about it to much" and stop worrying about it and it will happen. How can we not think about it. Until your actually ttc you dont understand how much you literally eat sleep and breath it. Rant over, thanks for reading. Hope everyone gets their sticky been soon!!

 

[Charlei]

I can see where you are all coming from. I hate seeing pregnancy stuff all over FB and then feel guilty because deep down I feel that I am just jealous. My sister was pregnant while I was going through my first IVF and I couldnt go near her! I think my mum still holds that against me but no one understands how hard this is unless they are going through this themselves!

One wee word of hope, of the ladies I have met on these forums who have been LTTTC, they say that when you eventually get to hold your wee miracle, you soon forget all the pain you went though to get to that stage.

I hope and pray we all get there eventually.

IF we ever get to hold our baby. The reality is that some of us are never going to get pregnant or have children. The pain isn't going to just disappear and ot won't be worth it.

I don't think people can even fathom how long 7 years is until they hit it. Its kinda funny to me. People who've been trying for 1-2 years complain about people that try for 1-9 months and feel they're being ridiculous etc. I see 1-2 years as being such a short time at this point and would have loved to have been able to get pregnant after such a short period. I think if I had, I would say the disappointments would be worth it, because at that stage, the pain hadn't even set in. I thought it had, but it truly hadn't.