39, trying to conceive with new man after ten year gap

[Ler]

Hello everyone. Completely new to the forum, bit lost and confused by it so thought I would start a new thread rather than plough through. I hope you don't mind.
I am 39 years old - was married at 25 and had my first baby, my daughter, at 26, (yep was pregnant when we married) second one wasn't so easy but tests went no further than my ex hubby - he was ten years older than me and sperm was a bit slow etc, but we got there) had my son three days before my 30th birthday. Remember being treated a bit like a bit of a 'mature' mum to be even at that age!
Left my ex in 2009 and met a wonderful man who I am now married to I knew as soon as I clapped eyes on him I wanted his babies! Nature is so cruel - I can't help it that I was getting on a bit when I met my Mr Right! With hindsight we should have got cracking on the babymaking - I got a bit tied up in wanting to be married first - we got married in May and then did get cracking - my only concern had been managing being pregnant at my age, managing with the lack of sleep after the baby arrived etc, never did it enter my head that actually getting pregnant might be a problem :-/
My husband is a toyboy by the way :-D lucky me! He is 37.
We have only been trying since May as I say - not long at all really. I am putting pressure on myself unneccesarily really. Now it's in my head though that I may not even be ovulating etc and getting my self wound up.
ANYWAY - have been to the doctor - saying with a view to my age can we just see where we are at without waiting a year etc so she going to do a blood test on day 25 for me - week tomorrow. She told me to try between day 8 and 18 but she said quality not quantity. andto try every other night. We are struggling with this. It's bad enough having to stick to baby making positions - any suggestions on these other than missionary gratefully received! but we are miserable not doing ti and it doesn't feel like ti makes sense. I also seem to remember reading online somewhere that you should do it every 12 hours when ovulating. (This sounds much more like it!)
Any advice gratefully received! Thank you
Oh - one more thing the abbreviations have baffled me! x

 

[LLbean]

Hello everyone. Completely new to the forum, bit lost and confused by it so thought I would start a new thread rather than plough through. I hope you don't mind.
I am 39 years old - was married at 25 and had my first baby, my daughter, at 26, (yep was pregnant when we married) second one wasn't so easy but tests went no further than my ex hubby - he was ten years older than me and sperm was a bit slow etc, but we got there) had my son three days before my 30th birthday. Remember being treated a bit like a bit of a 'mature' mum to be even at that age!
Left my ex in 2009 and met a wonderful man who I am now married to I knew as soon as I clapped eyes on him I wanted his babies! Nature is so cruel - I can't help it that I was getting on a bit when I met my Mr Right! With hindsight we should have got cracking on the babymaking - I got a bit tied up in wanting to be married first - we got married in May and then did get cracking - my only concern had been managing being pregnant at my age, managing with the lack of sleep after the baby arrived etc, never did it enter my head that actually getting pregnant might be a problem :-/
My husband is a toyboy by the way :-D lucky me! He is 37.
We have only been trying since May as I say - not long at all really. I am putting pressure on myself unneccesarily really. Now it's in my head though that I may not even be ovulating etc and getting my self wound up.
ANYWAY - have been to the doctor - saying with a view to my age can we just see where we are at without waiting a year etc so she going to do a blood test on day 25 for me - week tomorrow. She told me to try between day 8 and 18 but she said quality not quantity. andto try every other night. We are struggling with this. It's bad enough having to stick to baby making positions - any suggestions on these other than missionary gratefully received! but we are miserable not doing ti and it doesn't feel like ti makes sense. I also seem to remember reading online somewhere that you should do it every 12 hours when ovulating. (This sounds much more like it!)
Any advice gratefully received! Thank you
Oh - one more thing the abbreviations have baffled me! x

Don't know where you live but I would say go see a fertility specialist right away...every month at our age counts. Say you have been trying longer if that is what it takes. I just rather you go in while you still have good eggs and freeze them if needed than find yourself later on with not much to show for yourself.

 

[StarSign]

Sperm need 24-30hrs to regenerate, so to get the "max" every other day when ovulating is good and then Ov day..and maybe the day after (takes 6-18hrs for egg to fully drop).

Do OPK's and chart your temps so your timing is really good. www.fertilityfriend.com
Once you do all your tests and all that, post back and it'll be easier to offer some recommendations based on experiences.

 

[AngiLara68]

Hi ladie, Im new here too....
My story: I am 43. I have 3 older kids from my previous marriage. (Son-23, Daughter-20 & son-18) I also have 3 grandkids! My daughter has 17 month old twin girls (one of them has cerebral pulsy) And my 23 yr old has a son. After my 3rd child I hit a road block. I couldnt get pregnant. My ex refused to seek fertility help. I divorced him in 2007. I remarried in 2008. BUT DH had a vasectomy 25 yrs ago. He had it reversed in 2009, but sadly it failed. SO we decided on donor sperm. We did 6 IUI's last yr and got pg with the 6th. She was born this April 2. We are currently trying for #2 together. 1st IUI was BFN. We just did IUI #2 on Oct 15th.






Lara - 43
DH - 49
married Aug 30, 2008
TTC #2 together
FSH 9.2
AMH 0.97
Estradol 59.3
Experienced unexplained infertility after #3
Took 14+ yrs to conceive again
5 IUI's = BFNs
6th IUI = BFP
DD born 04/02/2011
Doing IUI w/donor sperm
Clomid 100 mg
Progesterone 14.5 @ 7 dpIUI

IUI #1 (09-16-11) = BFN
IUI #2 (10-15-11) =


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[AngiLara68]

I forgot to add....I am on 100 mg Clomid and it took me 14+ yrs to get pregnant again.

 

[inkdchick]

Ler the only other position which is good apparantly accoerding to my specialist that i had is on all fours him behind you but will your arse higher and either up or laying on a pillow under your hips but lay down on your left side or your back straight after hope that helps

 

[sarahincanada]

hi and congrats on getting married! but I have you beat on the toyboy...my hubby is 29

I 2nd LL and suggest getting in for as many test as possible and perhaps starting some treatments. It could definitely happen naturally but if you want to start your family and perhaps have a couple of children time is not on our sides. Im 39 and been trying a year and a half with 3 failed IUIs and now moving onto IVF. It could happen for me naturally but I dont want to wait. Often by the age of 42 they wont do IVF with your own eggs so that thought is speeding me up.

the every other night intercourse thing is good...are you using anything to track ovulation? the ovulation sticks (I used the digital clearblue ones) are great to pinpoint things a little more. We would do every day around my ovulation as I was nervous to have a gap. but you should get hubbies sperm tested as sometimes everyday is too much. also try with husband from behind, I hear thats great for TTcing.

good luck!

 

[Natsby]

hello and welcome:wave:

 

[Indigo77]

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