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[Khadijah-x]

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[Mumof42009]

I was in same situation as you Hun and believe me doesn't get any better.
My ex oh is Asian and we have 2 kids together, it caused so many problems that we barely talk now and it's my kids who suffer cause there dad cant face up to the responsibility his family tell him not to see his kids and he listens to them. My kids don't understand and my dd keeps blaming me bout everything and why her daddy can't be with us, when my kids are old enough i will explain to them.
If i was you i would just get on with it yourself as really isn't worth all the hassle sorry if haven't helped much xxx

 

[lal]

i have my family and friends so who needs men!

Amen You will be fine, just try not to dwell on it...I was raised in a very strict religion, and I would never let my family come between me and this child - it shouldn't be any different for a man, unless he is 12 years old You will be fine, you have a great attitude already - it took me a few months to get to that! Just think, this is the hardest part, once the baby is here you won't need him or even have time to think about how you don't need him, haha!

 

[alexisandmias]

You can do it! My family and friends have been my greatest support during my divorce while I was pregnant. You are lucky to have them and as long as you do things will work out in the long run! There are hard days but there are also GREAT days. Especially when you hold your child/children in your arms!

 

[LittleMadam]

Welcome!

Hopefully, FOB will grow some balls by the time baby arrives but no matter if not because YOU CAN DO IT!

xx

 

[Khadijah-x]

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[Nut_Shake]

I glimpsed this post as i was looking through the threads and felt compelled to reply.

I am so glad to hear that you are a strong enough woman to not listen to him and to do what it is that YOU want to do. However, I do completely understand the cultural problems he faces and do slightly feel for the predicament he is in, i know how unsupportive some families can be because of the whole culture thing. Of course i'm NOT condoning his behaviour in the slightest, he needs to grow a pair, but telling his family would be a very very difficult thing to do, as he would probably just end up getting disowned.

My hubby is Pakistani (i'm not) and he has been the first of his massive family to marry out of his culture. We definitely came up against a lot of crap (he did especially from elders in his family) but he stood strong and we have been happily married for 3 and half years and expecting our first babies this December Now if i had fallen pregnant before we got married that would have been a whole separate story, but i know at the end of it all he would have stood up and been a man about it. Regardless of culture it takes 2 to make a baby, and a baby is SUCH a beautiful and precious thing. Not all Asian guys are so weak to stand up and take responsibility and say what THEY want, and not what their families want to hear (a lot of them are unfortunately, lol, but not all of them!) It's just so sad.
I know it's none of my business to tell you what your dad should do, but i would advise him not to tell this guys parents about you just yet, wait to see if he comes round, he might, and it may even take the baby being born for him to come round, but i would say for now to focus on yourself and your baby because i guarantee once his parents find out all hell will break loose... And you should not be having to deal with it whilst you are carrying a baby.

Be strong, and i hope and pray he realises what he would be missing out on without his little baby. Either way though, i am sure this baby will feel all the love from you that they will ever need xxxx

 

[Khadijah-x]

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[Ummshaheed]

Hey hun,

Sorry to hear about the "madness" you're going through. Pregnancy comes with so many emotions and it SO doesn't help when you realise you have to go through these emotions alone (excluding friends and fam). Especially when you always thought you would be experiencing this lovely experience with a partner!

I'm also going to be a single Mummy, though my situation is VERY different from yours but hey we'll be single Mummys in the end ey.

You hang on in there though hun. I know loads of girls that have been through what you're currently going through. I'm also Muslim - been practicing for nearly two years now so if you need any help with anything let me know!

 

[Khadijah-x]

Hey hun,

Sorry to hear about the "madness" you're going through. Pregnancy comes with so many emotions and it SO doesn't help when you realise you have to go through these emotions alone (excluding friends and fam). Especially when you always thought you would be experiencing this lovely experience with a partner!

I'm also going to be a single Mummy, though my situation is VERY different from yours but hey we'll be single Mummys in the end ey.

You hang on in there though hun. I know loads of girls that have been through what you're currently going through. I'm also Muslim - been practicing for nearly two years now so if you need any help with anything let me know!

Thankyou huni ! so nice to see other strong mothers who needs men!
Ill inbox you to chat further..x

 

[Ummshaheed]

I can't seem to inbox you... I think it's because I'm a newbie I saw your email on your page so if you have MSN I can add you or just simply email you.

 

[Khadijah-x]

okies hun send me a email if poss? look forward to hearing from you..x

 

[NuKe]

i usually just lurk in these threads as im not a single mummy, but i did feel compelled to post. you sound amazing. you are a brilliant mummy already. good luck and i hope everything works out alright for you.

 

[Khadijah-x]

i usually just lurk in these threads as im not a single mummy, but i did feel compelled to post. you sound amazing. you are a brilliant mummy already. good luck and i hope everything works out alright for you.

awwww thankyou! support is great
Congratz on ur gawjus lil daughter and for when u ttc xxx