5 months and still unsure

[QuintinsMommy]

adoption is an amazing choice if you can make it , there are soo many family who wants a baby. hope you decide whats best for you and your baby

 

[x__amour]

No matter what decision you make, I know it'll be the right one. I have such respect for you for even considering adoption. And if you do keep your LO, it won't make you selfish in the least bit. In the end, you'll know what's right. Keep strong and hold your head up high. You'll push through, I promise!

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope you have the healthiest and happiest 9 months!

 

[debsxhim]

Its really what you think is right for you.
No one will think your the bad guy, and its a major life decision for you and your OH to make. You can do anything your mind to, but if your not feeling it another family would love to have a little bundle of joy.

 

[baby.moo]

Its a hard choice. I know I couldn't do it. I know I'll never be successful in the way I thought I would be.. I am however very happy in the way god has blessed me with Sophia and I am successful in being her mommy. I think you won't truly make your decision until you have the baby. Seeing your baby for the first time changes the way you think. I'm still going to go to school I just have to wait a little bit to do it. Its never to late to go back to school ..may take longer and you have to take help from family and friends but I think its definately worth waiting.. its your choice.. just make sure the father is okay with it too.. he might change once the baby gets there because my OH was very immature right up until she popped out lol just take ur time.. goodluck!!

 

[Katumz]

I'm actually in about the same situation as you except Im due next month. I always said if I became pregnant before I intended to be I would give it away for adoption but obviously when it actually does happen you feelings change. But heres my problem I can't make up my mind either way, some days adoption sounds good and other days I want to keep her and it doesn't help that my boyfriend whom I care very deeply about wants adoption and I don't want to lose him(also at some point I was dead set on adoption and told him so and his main thing i he doesn't want me to change my mind.) if I chose to keep her and my entire family wants me to keep her and I don't want to break all their hearts if I give her away. I know I have waited to long to make my choice and its killing me.

 

[18singlemom2b]

i just want to say, you come across as so wise and your words are touching and so true. what great advice you've given.

OK, I have to share one more piece of information. I too have been in your shoes. I walked down the line of being pregnant at 17. I was pressured beyond belief to end the pregnancy by my parents. They didn't want anyone to know and completely cut me off from everyone I know. They got to the point where they would take me to school, and pick me up, so I couldn't talk to anyone before or after school. That pressure pushed me to want to keep the child. I mc at 12 weeks, and my parents forced the relationship with the father to end. I was not allowed any contact with him at all. I kept thinking "oh, he's the one, my entire life is ruined" but I went to college and during my first year, I called my ex and asked him to visit me for a week. He came to my college, and spent a week there. There was nothing, no spark, nothing. We ended it for good, and we have both gone different paths. I know he now has a little boy, and is not married, although I think he may be engaged. I am happily married, and living the life of my dreams, one I never could have imagined having. All except... we are having problems getting pregnant (go figure right?) So please think about everything. I do look back and think what if, but then I look at who and what I have, knowing I worked for all of it. Would it have worked out if I didn't mc, maybe, maybe not. I do know that making that decision would have been my choice, because that guy can leave at any minute, with no notice, and there is nothing you can do about it. Sure you can get child support, or you can force visitation, but it's not going to make anything better for you or the child. So make the decision with you and the child in mind. If you say "I can do this if he stays" then you are taking a gamble, because he can say now he'll stay, and leave, or he can leave, and come running back. If what you are looking for is him to say he can handle being a father or a husband, you might be looking for an answer that doesn't really matter in the long run. The question is, are YOU able to handle it, and can you live with your decision. And by the way, if he leaves because you kept a child, he wasn't really worth your time. If he leaves because the child is adopted out, then it might be a risk you have to take, because your -main- focus is now on the child. Remember your priorities, they should be 1. child, 2. you 3. him. At least in my head that's how the priorities should go! Good luck!

 

[18singlemom2b]

i could never consider adoption, and i admire the people who can because i think it's the TOUGHEST of all the choices to make. my family really wanted me to give my baby up for adoption, they still kind of do. but i feel so blessed and feel like this is such an amazing chance for me to share my love with another. i had hopes and dreams, but i lost a lot of them quite a while ago. my life took a different path, even before getting pregnant. so currently, my hope and dream is to be the best possible mother i can be.

it's truly about where your heart lies. keeping a child you aren't sure about, is wrong. giving your child up for adoption when your heart is screaming for you to keep it, won't make things right either. just do whatever you think is best, and trust that you will be given the tools to deal with whatever choice you make. and remember whatever choice you do make is permanent. think of the bigger picture. and remember, it all comes down to you. not your family, or your boyfriend..because things and people always change.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Hey hun. You are facing a very hard choice. But if you are determined enough you can still do all of those things

I fell pregnant at 16. I went to college still and I am now about to start my degree.It's hard work but so worthwhile. I could never have given Aidan up it would have torn me apart.

Ultimatley it's your descion. But it can be done I promise
xx